One of the surest ways to determine the maturity of someone is to see if they can handle others having a different opinion. If they can't comprehend why someone could possibly like some band or some movie that they don't like, then, well, they've failed.
I think you're wrong. Completely, totally wrong. I'm going to go throw a fit about it now.
- DGentry
'The proof is in the pudding!' 'Well I *HATE* pudding!'
- Akiva Moskovitz
Pudding rocks...Your insane..I completely disagree with you....lol
- Bill Heslin
I cannot remember the source of this quote, but: "the older I get, the shorter the time between when I realize that someone is a jackass, and when I tell them they are one."
- DGentry
It gets tougher, however, when someone holds an opinion that diverges from a bedrock truth of yours. Nevertheless, it's important to try to understand those that are wrong - I mean, that have a different view of life.
- John E. Bredehoft
from fftogo
It's mistaking being fierce/strong willed with being intolerant and really just stupid, like you said #FAIL
- sofarsoShawn
I can certainly comprehend the psychological/sociological reasons why some people enjoy racist rap or Nazi death metal or kids programs that teach jihad, but if you ask me to refrain from insulting such taste or ask me to teach my kids to tolerate such obvious insanity, I guess I fail the maturity test. I won't insult a person, but I will insult their evil art.
- Gus
Gus, there's a huge difference between the brainwashing that MEMRI TV delivers and someone being all pissed off because you like Jethro Tull.
- Akiva Moskovitz
MEMRI TV? How about Fox News? Less news, more conspiracy theory.
- Dennis Jernberg
I think this is true in most cases, but some things are just wrong.
- John (a.k.a. dendroica)
Dennis, as soon as FOX News features the equivalent of a Jew-eating Rabbit, I'll buy into your comparison.
- Akiva Moskovitz
Akiva, if someone is OK with your opinion because he/she doesn't care about other people's opinions, does that mean he/she has maturity?
- Brome
Damn... I just realized that if Akiva likes Tull, I have to agree with him again *pout*
- Michael W. May
:-) I was wondering if anyone would go there, Akiva! It's really just first person plural, though, as in "We humans are so silly."
- Kathy Fitch
I've had to fire so many friends based on this criteria alone.
- Sean Oliver
Brome, it means that they're invited to my Solstice Party.
- Akiva Moskovitz
I think I've been fired by some friends for being okay with some other friends' opinions, regardless of my personal comprehension or embracing of them.
- ɐ ɯıʞ sıɹɥɔ
I'm still back on this Josh Haley/Milli Vaniilli thing. Josh, I respect you. (Actually, I didn't say that. Someone else said it and I moved my lips.)
- John E. Bredehoft
OK, we all know that neither Fab nor Rob actually sang on that hit album. I am just saying that the people who DID sing on it and the producers therein really knew what they were doing in cranking out a quality pop album.
- Josh Haley
from iPhone
If you try and think of the things people say more like the sounds of dogs barking, and what they write more like the paths left by insects in tree bark, things make a lot more sense.
- SuezanneC Baskerville
This seems bumpworthy to me for some reason.
- Ken Sheppardson
I think "maturity" isn't necessarily the right term. It's more a measure of stubbornness. It may come from "failing to understand others", I just don't think it the term "maturity" accurately depicts the notion here.
- G. Sigh
I would counter and say that it takes a mature person to just walk away rather than demonstrating epic stubbornness.
- Akiva Moskovitz
Akiva, that sounds like wise council: "Before a quarrel bursts forth, take your leave."
- Melanie Reed
I would also say that it takes a mature person not to troll someone for disagreeing. Both sides can walk away or handle themselves with some kindness.
- joey
I wasn't unkind to him. I was unkind to the girl who blocked our driveway. He's the one tried to make it personal by bringing Audrey into the mix.
- Akiva Moskovitz
I didn't point a finger at a specific person; I think that several people were very unkind to him in that thread from the moment he opened his mouth.
- joey
Oh. I just assumed you were talking about me since this is my thread and all. And also the fact that you hate me!~!
- Akiva Moskovitz
Jimminy, yeah but only to say that he hopes that someone says mean things about her when she does something wrong as a teenager as I was saying mean things about the girl who blocked our driveway so as to teach us a lesson or something.
- Akiva Moskovitz
But I kind of have a policy that if you try to use my daughter as leverage against me in a discussion, the gloves, kid or otherwise, come right off.
- Akiva Moskovitz
Audrey's not a very good lever...she's too short.
- Alex Scoble
But, man, does that girl have some torque.
- Akiva Moskovitz
My point re: the word "mature" is that it's a bit too broad. My 5-year old niece may not exhibit epic stubbornness, but she is not a mature person either. My 70-year old uncle may not agree with me politically, and can be very stubborn, but remains a mature human for whom I have great respect. In other words, we're just painting with too broad a brush here. Mutual respect for one another is a trait that requires a certain level of compassion, and this is often a function of one's personality unless they've taken the effort to cultivate it.
- G. Sigh
G. Sigh, I agree. We learn the most about compassion when our heart's been the most broken. The kindness may be there before hand, but our loyalties can sometimes put that compassion out of balance.
- Melanie Reed