You can say that expressing your expectations of relationship before you even kiss is too analytical and that it rejects the most wondrous components of relationships: emotion and spontaneous passion. The truth is that we tend to rein in emotion and passion more often because we fear where we're going. If you know what everyone wants and expects, you don't have to hold back. You can fall at your leisure, as fast and as hard as you want. I know it's scary to be open about what you want. It means you have to know what that is and it exposes you to the risk of being told someone you like doesn't want that with you. But let me ask you something: would you rather hear about this sooner or later? - AV Flox