I've duelled that guy several times. He's nice but I told him his toon name HAS to go. All his toons have "fart" in the name.
- tinypants - Hagitha of FF
Any name where the player was so completely incapable of thinking of something original that they had to use accent marks. I've got the "how to type it" thing down (chatter or prat) but it's irritating.
- mjc
I pretty much refuse to interact with anyone for whom I can't type their name... Not worth my time to figure out how to do it... They're "dead" to me.
- Fa La La La Lindsay
I feel the same way. If there's non-standard characters in their name, they're just another NPC.
- Chrimmus Tad
Can't you just shift+click? (/me likes using accent marks in toon names, even when there aren't other players with names without accents :D)
- Victor Ganata
@Lindsay dunno why, but when you wrote '"dead" to me', I giggled, as my DK is "deadlikeme" :p
- mjc
When chatting with someone in-game, does anyone ever actually use more than the first few letters of someone's toon's name?
- Victor Ganata
Not really. :) Even in Vent, I get called "Tiny" or "Funky". I keep requesting to be called "Ms. Pants" but nobody complies. Your toon, however...I don't think it's possible to shorten yours and not look like an asshole. Which is why I just call you Vic. :D
- tinypants - Hagitha of FF
Heh, out-of-game, people have been known to shorten my real name just to V. And not just when typing.
- Victor Ganata
Ok now that's just lazy and sad. LOL Then again, I have friends who literally call me "A". But that stems back to it being something I was called online for a number of years. So it's not lazy, it's endearing. :)
- tinypants - Hagitha of FF
I do when typing, I type the first three letters and hit tab
- mjc
There's a well known pally on Firetree called Holyhawtness with an alt names Lilhawtness. They annoy the $h*t out of me. There's a lot of pot reference names too but honestly none are memorable.
- Heather
I'd prefer soldiers and dogs and quick moving lines to the no-effect emperors new clothes hot mess of "security" we have.
- Matthew DeVries
I passed a soldier stationed with a machine gun while changing planes in SLC once (a few months after 9/11). It's the only time I've ever seen it in the USA, but it does happen.
- Matt Mastracci
What would a machine gun protect you from other then people parking in the white zones too long?
- Uncle CW™
Until you are required to wear only a TSA Approved jumpsuit (nothing else) when flying, no amount of guidelines will keep you totally safe. Smoke and Mirrors. Everyone knows it. But a placebo does do wonders sometimes.
- Uncle CW™
Um, they had soldiers with machine guns in National while I lived in the DC area. I don't know if they stood them down after I left, but they were there in 2001-02. I didn't feel safer.
- Jennifer Dittrich
I think we need to start accepting, at least the international terminals, as contested borders and accept the controls traditional with transiting through such a zone.
- Matthew DeVries
any pet or something with alot of small pieces or makes noise
- VAL D. Zone
When in line at a hamburger joint, I witnessed one of these worst toys. It was a plastic truck which would make different sounds when you bopped it. The one the kid was doing over and over was the sound of someone laying on a horn in traffic. Oy!
- Spidra Webster
A board game with a gazillion pieces, vague goals, a 40-page rule book and no 'quick-game' option. Featuring the Bratz. Or Barbie. Or the Jonas Brothers.
- WorldofHiglet
I thought about putting chemistry set down but I'd rather my kid have learning gift than not. It's borderline.
- Spidra Webster
Bite your tongue! Blazing Saddles is one of the great films of the 20th Century! My kids can quote it at me all they want. (I was 9 when that film came out and watched it well before I got any of the Lilli Von Stupp jokes.)
- Spidra Webster
well, the cooking went well. we got to my folks' house and unloaded and set the table. and then i got ambushed by my own surprise emotional meltdown. i was borderline catatonic and freaking out inside.
- Joe Silence
alot of sitting in a corner and covering my face. i recovered some, but was really out of it the rest of the evening. i feel like i've been up for three days.
- Joe Silence
i dunno what got it going. right now we're back home and i'm trying to bluster my way through it til my wife and kids go to bed by pretending that it's not there. i feel like i have a chest full of hornets and a head full of glue.
- Joe Silence
crap, i didn't mean to put this in my main feed.
- Joe Silence
Obviously I can't do anything these days! But I do have a trick that *noone* can do. I will try to document this somehow. #canyoudothis
- See-ming Lee 李思明 SML
probably it's not her elbow. looks so thick !
- Ferhat Can
Sure I can. I presume you mean licking someone else's elbow they've placed over my shoulder. If you mean "looking cute," then I'm not so sure.
- Mistletoe Glen
Hollywood's Top Lawyer Goes Off The Rails Threatening Blogger With Defamation Retraction Letter | Litigation and Trial - Max Kennerly - http://www.litigationandtrial.com/2009...
[Awesome take; definitely worth a read.] “Singer's letter, however, does not demand a retraction, but instead apparently offers a settlement: ‘If you fail to agree to the foregoing, then you will be exposed to substantial liability ...’ Presumably, then, if the blogger does ‘agree to the foregoing,’ then he will not be exposed to substantial liability. Indeed, the possibility of settlement is the only way that the letter could arguably be ‘confidential,’ since settlement offers are inadmissible (not the same thing as ‘confidential,’ but analogous) in court...”
- Anthony Citrano
from Bookmarklet
“But is that what Singer intended? Is a confidential settlement demand the functional equivalent of a retraction demand? How, exactly, does Singer intend to introduce at trial his own ‘confidential’ letter requesting the defendant ‘agree’ to terms to avoid ‘substantial liability’ as evidence that a retraction was demanded? In other words, how can Singer try to admit the letter as evidence in court when the letter on its face proposes a settlement?”
- Anthony Citrano
It just adds to the feeling that something, somewhere, has gone terribly wrong in the Moore-publicity-machine. Hope it adds to your holiday cheer, Anthony :)
- WorldofHiglet
So far the winners are: MVB, April Russo(app103), CW, Davis Freeberg, Scott of Two Countries, MVB, Alex Scoble, Scott of Two Countries, LogEx, Glen Campbell, John Flynn, Chris Greene, Alex Scoble, Imabonehead, Veƶqueӽ: Blank of FF, Jimminy Fuller, John Flynn, Imabonehead, GENiE (Mohomed Abdullahi AKA genieyclo), Nicholas James...
Dave - SustainedEuphoria, Davis Freeberg, jcunwired, Davis Freeberg, Mohomed Abdullahi, Mike Reynolds, Alex Scoble, Dave - SustainedEuphoria, John Flynn, jcunwired, David HC Soul, John Flynn, Shey, Mike Reynolds, Nicholas James, Mike Reynolds, Jason T Fleming, John Flynn, Vezquez, John Flynn, Andrew, Steven Perez, Aviv and David HC Soul.
- Alex Scoble
Dec, 18 2009: MVB (Grinch of FF) won last week with his guess of 10,300.6. DJIA closed up for the week at 10,328.89. Last week's guesses: http://friendfeed.com/dow-gue... Please leave your guesses for next week as comments on this thread and thanks for playing! Week 45 starts here!
MVB, there have been 12 repeat winners, in order of most recent winners: MVB, Davis Freeburg, Scott of Two Countries, Alex Scoble, John Flynn, Imabonehead, Vezquez, Mohomed, Dave-SustainedEuphoria, jcunwired, David HC Soul, and Mike Reynolds. No consecutive winners the closest was John Flynn with Week 5 & 7 which was split only by Vezquez.
- Jimminy Fuller
Looks like Davis Freeberg wins this week. I'm in Jamaica though so Jimminy, can you please take care of administration again for the week? Thanks!
- Alex Scoble
"Since it opened last week, James Cameron's much-anticipated film "Avatar" has won praise from movie critics and been a juggernaut at the box office. But some who have seen the film say that it contains hidden messages that are anti-war, pro-environment, and perhaps even racist."
- Mistletoe Glen
from Bookmarklet
Avatar is anti-war and pro-environment? Seriously? Wow, how did they manage to hide that in there?
- Mistletoe Glen
I don't know. I kept my tin foil hat on all during the movie
- Uncle CW™
the hidden messages are "buy popcorn" "supersize your drink"
- Mike Nencetti
the message: blue chicks with corn rows and bulgy eyes are hot.
- Morgan Haley
People who are looking for hidden messages in this film are looking to find hidden messages EVERYWHERE. This story has been done 1000 times before in different films and venues. The material here is nothing new. It's still a kick ass movie but if people are objecting to it, they should also object to the last 50 years of cinema in it's entirety.
- veo
"Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar" Freud
- WarLord
Morgan, you forgot the part about being 12-feet tall. 8^P
- Chieze Okoye
This part is exactly how I feel about all this hubbub: "But are these hidden messages really all that hidden? James Cameron himself hasn't been shy in publicly proclaiming the fact that he's an environmental activist who believes that humans and "industrial society" are "causing a global climate change" and "destroying species faster than we can classify them." In a recent interview...
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- Chieze Okoye
""One of the saddest things is that Clara has looked everywhere for Brittany and can't find her," Monjack tells PEOPLE in a heartbreaking interview. Monjack gave the fluffy white dog to Murphy as a Christmas gift last year; she named her after Clara Bow, her favorite silent screen star. The couple, who were married for three years and had no children, doted on the small dog that Murphy once described as "a humongous personality in a tiny package. She's more of a family member than a pet.""
- edythe
from Bookmarklet
I don't know what took me so long, but I *just* noticed that I could subscribe to a person's Comments or Likes on here. And here I thought I knew Friendfeed. *shakes head* So anyway, have any of you been doing that already? I think I might try it out on a few folks to help myself find a few new people.
"For San Jose elementary school teacher Walter Roach, the holiday season starts with a standing appointment to get his beard bleached every year over Thanksgiving weekend. That's when the Norwood Creek Elementary School teacher begins leading a seasonal double life -- instructing sixth grade students by day, and playing Santa across the Bay Area in his off-hours."
- Uncle CW™
from Bookmarklet
My Ex's Father. Really awesome guy. Highly suggest him to anyone that wants a Santa.
- Uncle CW™
I think a lot of people—myself included—are working a little harder at it. Plus, I've been receiving significantly more new subscriptions, a lot of which are from people brand-new to FriendFeed. It's definitely a good thing.
- Akiva Moskovitz
In all seriousness, I've been getting a bunch of new subscribers too. Not sure if that's just me making nice with the librarians, though.
- Derrick
Well, now that you mention it, I HAVE been posting more! (Looks around... realization sets in... sits back down and stares intently at floor...)
- Mark "DerBingle" J
Friendfeed activity never goes away, even if people stop using friendfeed directly, as long as they set up feeds and continue doing interesting things on the intarwebs, we'll find out about them here. Keep 'em coming folks!
- Andy Bakun
It's all Akiva's doing. He is the sole reason this network continues to thrive.
- Louis Gray
Eat as in physically eat or what you do with all the stuff on the side? Stuff on the side - hot sauce, plum sauce, bean sprouts, lime, mint, peppers - just slide all that stuff in (except just the juice on the lime), mix it around and then use chopsticks for the noodles and the spoon for the broth. Or, you can use the chopsticks to make a little pile of noodles in the spoon (similar to using a fork and spoon when eating spaghetti).
- Cassandra
It's soup, but it has large pieces of meat in it as well as extremely long noodles. You can't pick up the noodles with a spoon; they usually just fall off. I've tried picking them up with chopsticks and put them in the spoon, but they're so long, I end up with my arms way above my head, with dangling noodles ready to fall and drip over everything. Seems like there has to be a better way.
- Mistletoe Glen
When I eat it, I usually double fist. Spoon in one hand, chopsticks in the other. I work on the noodles first, and then once I've made a dent in them, I usually just switch back and forth.
- cecily
@Glen - maybe try picking up the noddles partially with chopsticks, then plunking what you've got in the spoon right away. Then wind up the noodles, so you don't have to reach way overhead.
- Andrew C
Thanks for the suggestions. I have a feeling I'll need to go back several times this week. For purely educational purposes, you understand.
- Mistletoe Glen
JOB POSTING: Unpaid Internship as Ghost Friendfeeder. Must posses internet connection and serious snark. Sardonic humour and thick skin a plus. Must understand and be able to implement 80's referrences and Pedobear images with aplomb. Successful candidate will be awarded a certificate of Social Media Expert. DM if interested.
"A U.S. Army general in northern Iraq has added pregnancy to the list of reasons a Soldier under his command could be court-martialed. The new policy, outlined last month by Maj. Gen. Anthony Cucolo and released Friday by the Army, would apply to both female Soldiers who become pregnant on the battlefield and the male Soldiers who impregnate them."
- chaz2b
from Bookmarklet
Oh no, this probably means "I got court martialed after being gang raped" stories to come :(
- Lo
Um. Isn't this what we were warned against when the discussion of women serving first came up? We all said "No way, these people will be perfectly professional." Well. Here we are.
- Jeremy (on vacation)
Does the military provide birth control to female soldiers? Because it seems like that would be a more reliable way to resolve the issue rather than "keep your legs together and try not to get raped."
- Jessie
@Lo: No, those impregnated from cases of rape will not be court martialed.
- Itachi
Should they then be forced to take birth control, Jessie?
- Christopher Harley
Gay men and women in the Military not looking so bad now are they?
- Uncle CW™
Jeremy, what's unprofessional about having consensual sex? As long as it isn't with a superior or subordinate that is.
- Michael R. Bernstein
its unprofessional when you violate orders, :(
- chaz2b
These people are there to serve a purpose. When you make yourself incapable of serving that purpose, it is the definition of unprofessional.
- Jeremy (on vacation)
Where is the clause for rape? I haven't seen an article yet that states there is such a clause.
- Michelle Martinez
@Michelle @Itachi - I haven't seen any rape clause either, but I could believe one exists. However, based on what I've heard about the army's acknowledgement of & attention to their rape problem (or lack thereof), I'd still expect at least one or a few ugly court-martial-rape stories.
- Lo
Jessie, does the military provide/require male soldiers to use condoms? Why make it just about the woman?
- Rochelle
Lo, I don't doubt one exists, but I haven't seen the actual order. I definitely agree with you on the ugly court-martial-rape stories.
- Michelle Martinez
Rochelle, Both parties means the man and the woman both get CM'd.
- Rasmus Lauridsen
Rasmus, I know. I was responding to Jessie's comment about the woman needing to be responsible for the birth control usage.
- Rochelle
From the CNN article, "Pregnancy that arises from sexual assault would not be punished, Cucolo said." That does not mean it has been written down, but it is at least being spun that way. I do find myself wondering if the military still has the same "no we won't pay for it" policy on abortion or day after pills.
- Jennifer Dittrich
@rochelle ahh ok my bad then getting into the aggressive groove of the comments at the link, didn't do me good I guess. I apologize.
- Rasmus Lauridsen
Jeremy, one problem is that both males and females could be behaving "unprofessionally", but only women would get penalized for it. As usual, women end up holding the hot potato. Oh, wait, I see now. So I guess they'd force a paternity test? Could that even be done easily before the baby is born?
- Kamilah Gill
Kamilah, paternity tests can be done prenatally if the mother has an amnio or CVS.
- Rochelle
@Michelle - it does still worry me though, given (as you pointed out) the terrible record with sexual assault cases. I'm hoping the directive itself is a bit more specific.
- Jennifer Dittrich
There are women that get pregnant to get out of Iraq, or to avoid deployment altogether, I have served with some of them. And yes, it is absolutely wrong. What pisses me off, though, is that a whole bunch of men go to Iraq, cheat on their spouse, and their wife blames the female rather than blame their husband that can't keep it in his pants for 12 months. Iraq was scandalous. The things that went on during my deployment were mind blowing.
- Michelle Martinez
So I guess that invasive procedure is considered benign enough? or I guess if a woman refuses to have a test done, a test can be done on the child after it's born? I still think it's easier for a man to get out of this than a woman. It seems unfair.
- Kamilah Gill
[edited: Chaz2b], there is a difference between getting pregnant deliberately (yes, that could be considered unprofessional) and taking precautions such as using protection and having that protection fail (which happens, condoms, the pill, etc. are not 100% effective).
- Michael R. Bernstein
Not when you are in the military. these people are not civilians. They have different rules.
- Jeremy (on vacation)
Jeremy, how can you say that? They just *changed* the rules.
- Michael R. Bernstein
hm =/ They're still humans, though...
- Kamilah Gill
We had a female in our unit get pregnant and get sent home while we were in Iraq. The best part was that the father was married to someone else. Technically they could have punished him with the adultery thing, but they never did.
- Michelle Martinez
Human =/= unable to control themselves. These are soldiers, not administrative assistants.
- Jeremy (on vacation)
There is no way you can ask healthy people in their late teens and 20s to simply *not have sex* for their entire term of service. No. Way.
- Michael R. Bernstein
I like how Jeremy implies that people who have sex have no morals. Does that apply to soldiers who are married to each other, too, Jeremy?
- Rochelle
So.. lets go all big brother and do this. Once you enter the military they remove eggs from the women and freeze the sperm from the men. Then the soldiers go through a sterilization procedure to take care of this issue as well as any war babies that has constantly occurred over the centuries. Once out of service the Gov then will provide the eggs and sperm for the vet's use to have children.
- Uncle CW™
Soldiers aren't going to stop having sex in Iraq, I guarantee it. And as far as morals go, I saw way worse stuff in four years of the army than I ever saw in four years of college. Way worse.
- Michelle Martinez
Some teens and 20-somethings might make it through long and frequent tours of service in Iraq without ever having sex, but if the military limited itself to that pool of recruits, it probably wouldn't be large enough to fight a major war.
- John (a.k.a. dendroica)
@Rochelle, although that may be my opinion, I just said that people can abstain from sexual activity if they have a strong moral base. It happens all the time. Only those with no moral base would conclude that it couldn't be done. We are humans, not animals. @CW, that's not what I meant at all. I actually was commenting on the relative good judgment of having a co-ed military....
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- Jeremy (on vacation)
{edit: myself} i was just trying to illustrate how much you let your unit down, in a war situation, when you (male/femme) violate orders (no sex in a war environment), :( Your brothers and sisters train with you & rely on your support for survival in war, you are obligated to stow "your" stuff while deployed (in a war enviroment), nothing more, nothing less.
- chaz2b
Jeremy, I get what you're saying, but I doubt things will change. People shouldn't have sex in Iraq, but they will. And even though the male is also being punished, the military culture tends to blame the woman.
- Michelle Martinez
Jeremy, I agree that most people can abstain from sexual activity if they have been sufficiently brainwashed, though a very large percentage of them wouldn't be particularly effective soldiers when you were done. Note that boot camp is just such a brainwashing activity, tuned over centuries for the process of producing effective soldiers, and completely abstaining from sex is definitely not part of the program.
- Michael R. Bernstein
So people with a 'moral base' can abstain from obesity caused by over-eating, but everyone else cannot?
- Micah Wittman
All people can abstain from any non-autonomic behavior that they choose to. It is only when you have been taught that you are just an animal and have no control over instincts that you give into every physical whim.
- Jeremy (on vacation)
Micah, because a large number of people assume that over-eating and obesity *are* moral failings.
- Michael R. Bernstein
An addict can stop indulging the craving when they choose to do so.
- Jeremy (on vacation)
Wow. You clearly don't know much about addiction.
- Rochelle
Wrong. I'm involved with the work of several addiction recovery counselors.
- Jeremy (on vacation)
Michael, obesity is multi-faceted issue, as is the state's (military and civilian) governance of human behaviour across the board.
- Micah Wittman
I don't know any addiction recovery counselor who would tell their clients to just suck it up and quit being an addict.
- Rochelle
The first step to recovery is realizing that you want to stop.
- Jeremy (on vacation)
Jeremy, there are always people at the margin who can be helped through willpower/morals/whatever. There is a very large chunk of folks that cannot be helped that way.
- Michael R. Bernstein
Cranking up the willpower/ethics/morals/whatever even higher may get you a few more folks, but eventually you run into sharply diminishing returns.
- Michael R. Bernstein
That's a cop-out. Then no human is responsible for their actions. Their nature made them do it.
- Jeremy (on vacation)
Why? Advocating for stronger morals isn't a bad thing within reason, but if you take it too far eventually you slide into self-hate, puritanism, and self-righteously telling other people what to do because you *can't* actually control yourself.
- Michael R. Bernstein
What I'm saying isn't that *some* people couldn't abstain if they wanted to, but that there is no way you can get *all* people to do so, and blaming the *majority* who can't is nonsensical.
- Michael R. Bernstein
Not exactly, but there is a reason we have reduced penalties for 'crimes of passion', 'in the heat of the moment', etc.
- Michael R. Bernstein
Intent matters. So, if serving soldiers did not *intend* to get pregnant, and took adequate precautions, I see no reason they should be penalized the same as someone who *intended* to get pregnant or recklessly failed to use protection.
- Michael R. Bernstein
Imagine, if you will, that they were injured and thus incapacitated through reckless driving.
- Michael R. Bernstein
What you're suggesting, Jeremy, is equivalent to making any recreational activity that results in the soldier being incapacitated for active duty (even if they take reasonable precautions) punishable by court martial.
- Michael R. Bernstein
You're assuming that sexual intercourse is relegated to recreational activity - like playing Uno or Dominoes.
- Jeremy (on vacation)
Hmm. Jeremy, do you have any objection to soldiers having consensual sex other than the possibility of pregnancy? Are you assuming that having sex is *inherently* immoral? Perhaps I should have asked this earlier, with your murder analogy.
- Michael R. Bernstein
i have a problem with disregarding orders, :(
- chaz2b
BTW, for the record, I think sex is *way* better than Dominoes or Uno. Even better than Scrabble.
- Michael R. Bernstein
i have a problem of being trained to do a duty, in war, and people jeapordizing the safety of others for their own gratification
- chaz2b
I am assuming that sex is more significant than Dominoes or a Sunday Drive. It can be immoral if it is taking advantage of another person by not first creating a safe monogamous relationship. But that's not the issue. We're discussing soldiers fighting a war. Different level of commitment.
- Jeremy (on vacation)
Sorry I'm late to respond. My understanding was that the military provides condoms (please correct me if I'm wrong). I was wondering if the military also provided female birth control because then female soldiers might have some control over the situation, i.e. pregnancy wouldn't be dependent on whether male soldiers decided to wear a condom. Re: whether or not they should be forced to...
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- Jessie
I think we're talking past each other here, Jeremy. Do you have any objection to soldiers having consensual sex *other* than the possibility of a pregnancy which would render them unfit for active duty?
- Michael R. Bernstein
look what happened while we were debating this "General Backs Off on Court Martials for Pregnant Soldiers" http://abcnews.go.com/WN...
- chaz2b
"I regret that the term 'court martial' is bandied about or mentioned," Maj. Gen. Anthony Cucolo III said from Iraq today. "I do not ever see myself putting a soldier in jail for this."
- chaz2b
Cucolo said that in the eight weeks his policy has been in force, four women soldiers were redeployed because they had become pregnant in violation of Cucolo's order. The four women and two male soldiers received letters of reprimand that will not remain in their permanent military files. A third male soldier, he said, was also punished for getting a female soldier pregnant. He was a...
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- chaz2b
"Anyone who leaves this fight early because they made a personal choice that changed their medical status -- or contributes to doing that to another -- is not in keeping with a key element of our ethos, 'I will always place the mission first,' or three of our seven core values: loyalty, duty and selfless service," he continued. "And I believe there should be negative consequences for making that personal choice. "
- chaz2b
Some commanders, he (Army spokesman Lt. Col. Nathan Banks) noted, have made DUI a potentially court martial offense, while some haven't.
- chaz2b
I'd support classifying 'unprotected sex' (note: not 'sex', or 'pregnancy') as roughly the same level of offense as a DUI.
- Michael R. Bernstein
Michael: And how would you enforce that? Pregnancy is easy to verify.
- Tudor Bosman
Well, that's pretty tricky, I admit. But we shouldn't go down the road of making things crimes just because they are easy to verify.
- Michael R. Bernstein
Quite the opposite: we shouldn't go down the road of making activities crimes that 1. aren't easy to verify, and 2. don't hurt anyone (except maybe the people who engage in those activities intentionally).
- Tudor Bosman
I wouldn't necessarily discount the power of self-incrimination, though. Happens all the time.
- Michael R. Bernstein
BTW, although you can't enforce condom *use*, if you simply assume soldiers are human and going to have sex, you require them to have condoms as part of their kit. No going anywhere without them.
- Michael R. Bernstein
Also, unprotected sex by itself doesn't hurt anyone (except for the two (or more) people involved, if one of them has a STD, but presumably they're fully aware of what they're doing). Pregnancy does hurt a woman's ability to fight on the front lines, and so it seems to me perfectly reasonable to restrict it.
- Tudor Bosman
I personally prefer criminalizing as little as possible; breaking into someone's house should be a crime, but simply owning lockpicks shouldn't be.
- Tudor Bosman
But Tudor, unprotected sex does not automatically result in pregnancy, it just has a higher likelihood. Just like DUI does not automatically result in an accident.
- Michael R. Bernstein
Criminalizing pregnancy means that if two people engage in safe sex and the protections fail, they are still guilty.
- Michael R. Bernstein
You can't reasonably expect people to simply not have sex. It's insane.
- Michael R. Bernstein
Michael: which they should be; it's pregnancy that actually has consequences on the woman's ability to serve, not sex itself, unprotected or not. And you could have extenuating circumstances if you could prove that the pregnancy was caused from failure of a birth control method used correctly, and aggravating circumstances if the prosecution can prove that the woman became pregnant in order to avoid service on the front lines.
- Tudor Bosman
All of these particulars illustrate to me the reason why the military should not try to regulate pregnancy in this manner. Perhaps there's another solution. (I'm not sure what, but all of this oversteps personal rights too much for me. I know that you give up certain rights when you join the military, but not every right.)
- Kamilah Gill
Also, if I may be blunt, pregnancy is not irreversible, while the consequences of a traffic accident often are. (I do think that any regulation that criminalizes pregnancy should also make abortion easily available) A woman can abstain (and thus be certain that she won't be pregnant, barring rape), use birth control (two different methods of birth control, used concurrently and...
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- Tudor Bosman
Kam - they are supposed to be soldiers. Hard, tough, fighting soldiers. If they can't keep their pants on, we don't need them as soldiers. Men and women alike.
- Jeremy (on vacation)
Jeremy: while I understand your point, a solution that *works* is better than one that has stronger principles.
- Tudor Bosman
Why is it assumed that stronger principals would not work?
- Jeremy (on vacation)
While I have no data related directly to the military, the closest thing that comes to mind is abstinence-only sex education, which has been shown (time and time again) to be ineffective. See, for example, http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn....
- Tudor Bosman
Who says your principals are stronger or for everyone? What works for you does not equal success for everyone else.
- Uncle CW™
Also, a policy that takes into account people's urges and desires is (prima facie) more likely to be effective than one that works against them.
- Tudor Bosman
The funny thing is, "not having sex" was not specifically banned while I was deployed. It was all the things that could lead to it that were banned like males going into the females' quarters. Leadership knew it was going on, only pregnancies and assaults were an issue.
- Rob Haas
I'd like to suggest an alternate solution: Pregnancy results in immediate maternity leave. After maternity leave, the soldier must get back into shape until they are fit for duty. Their tour is automatically extended by the same amount of time as leave+getting back into shape.
- Michael R. Bernstein
Jeremy, do you also think that returning soldiers could choose to stop having PTSD? Also, that you're "involved in the work of several addiction recovery counselors" doesn't mean you know SHIT about addiction. The recovery industry has largely ignored all scientifically-based information about addiction for decades. But I highly recommend not replying to my comment or this thread will go train wreck quickly.
- Lo
Lo, that depends. I have some very close relationships with those who have had some very real addictions, but I, myself, have not had a serious coke habit, no. I'm glad you're an expert in the field and ready to dismiss the whole profession based on your exclusive knowledge on the subject. I'm also glad that any dissent against your opinion comes with a threat. I'm sure you know exactly what you're talking about.
- Jeremy (on vacation)
Jeremy, my "threat" was merely intended as a warning that this is a highly emotional topic for me. I do not claim to be an expert. As an addict who received a lot of expensive "help" that gave me still more problems, I took the time to read a bunch of studies about the various treatment modalities in use and their effectiveness - as determined by actual research. I was fucking...
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- Lo
Oh. See, I've got several people that will say that 12 step programs saved their life. What a strange thing.
- Jeremy (on vacation)
Furthermore, my issue with your comments has less to do with the issue of addiction, and more to do with your implied assertion that alcoholism and multiple suicide attempts were a rational choice I made, and that these choices were due to a lack of morality. Intense emotion actually causes the cerebral cortex to stop functioning.
- Lo
Well, then I will remember that you are not responsible for your own actions.
- Jeremy (on vacation)
Yeah, I was one of the people who credited AA with my life, too. Then I stopped going to AA, and I did not return to drinking or die as they told me I would. Then I read that the rate of people who stay sober in AA is nearly identical to the rate of people who get sober with no treatment of any kind. You are aware of the phenomenon where humans can create rational explanations and believe them despite the fact they are false? Also demonstrated by research.
- Lo
Where did I say I was not responsible for my own actions?
- Lo
"Intense emotion actually causes the cerebral cortex to stop functioning."
- Jeremy (on vacation)
I don't see the word responsible in there anywhere.
- Lo
I am responsible for the outcome of my actions. That does not mean that every action I make is a carefully considered, rational choice based solely on my morality.
- Lo
No, there is such a thing as diminished capacity, I'll agree with you there. But no one starts there. Your choices get you there.
- Jeremy (on vacation)
LOL I chose my brain chemistry and genes?!?!?!!? You are a fucking trip.
- Lo
Jeremy, would a tourret's syndrome sufferer be responsible for their verbal outbursts, or would that just be a laps of moral judgment on their part?
- Jeff P. Henderson
I chose to have more intense emotions than 99% of mankind? (I had what they call borderline personality disorder, thus the drinking)
- Lo
Jeremy you are not going to win this argument....
- Jeff P. Henderson
I think the problem is that, like most people, you lie to yourself about the nature of your decision-making process. This is not a slam against you, there seems to be evidence that this is an innate brain function, and it's probably there for a reason. Like most, you can't bear to consider that you aren't as in control of your decisions as you'd like to believe. And that's fine. You can think that all day and I don't care, it doesn't affect me.
- Lo
@Jeff - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki..., @Lo - I'm not going to say that chemical imbalances are not a part of life, but let's please not try and blame everything but ourselves for our actions.
- Jeremy (on vacation)
But when you tell me that one day I woke up, was perfectly healthy & had every opportunity, and I CHOSE to ruin my life and nearly die for a good fucking time, damn straight I will get pissed off.
- Lo
Again, you are putting words into my mouth! I already said I'm responsible for everything I do, and I blame no one for my actions!
- Lo
WTF is "blame" anyway? Define it. It's an artificial construct that means nothing.
- Lo
"TS is an inherited neuropsychiatric disorder" How is this different than other mental illnesses?
- Jeff P. Henderson
If by "blame" you mean "what made something happen," then there are thousands if not billions of factors spanning centuries that all led up to every decision I make. Every experience I've ever had shapes how I react to stimuli. Every connection in my brain got there somehow, and determines my behavior.
- Lo
Jeff, I'm not arguing against chemical imbalances, but Lo's argument is that she didn't choose to make the choices she's made. Denial ain't just a river in Egypt.
- Jeremy (on vacation)
NO. I am saying that your understanding of the concept of choice is ridiculous and contrary to science.
- Lo
My concept of choice is that I am not an animal, and am therefore capable of making decisions and will be held responsible for them.
- Jeremy (on vacation)
I take full responsibility for everything I've ever done and said, and even things that most people say are not my fault. I TAKE RESPONSIBILITY. I've done 9th steps with basically everyone I've ever known and continue to do them despite not being in the program.
- Lo
Jeremy I don't completely agree with your statement. Mental illness, chemical imbalances can cause you to act in a manner that is against your judgment, or in a manner that is unacceptable to most people.
- Jeff P. Henderson
"I am not an animal" - Then you're the first creature outside my kingdom to achieve language! Yes you are, learn some science. You might work on some compassion, too. You have misread my intent every step of the way. I'm not saying I'm not responsible for my actions, I'm saying that your assertion that people deliberately choose to suffer and die is rude & callous in the extreme.
- Lo
Lo, I drake heavily and acted in a sexually promiscuous manner for several years. Those actions have had several negative impacts on my life. However, when I made those choices, I was in full control of what I was doing. Society has held me responsible, because I could have chosen to act in a more appropriate manner. If I could not make that choice, it would not be just to hold me...
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- Jeremy (on vacation)
How do you know you were "in full control"? That's your opinion. I hate to break it to you, but all the neuroscience I've read in that area lately suggests that's an illusion. Anyway, you're misunderstanding my point and making me feel very upset & like shit, so I quit. You're right, I was in full control of myself from birth, and I decided to try to kill myself repeatedly because I was bored. Why am I such an idiot and an asshole? Guess it's because I'm immoral. You win.
- Lo
Jeremy, all I'll say is, I hope you're a troll.
- Tudor Bosman
Tudor, and he's good, it's been a long time since I "chose" to be so upset about something stupid somebody said on the internet :P
- Lo
It's easy to dismiss what someone is saying when you label them as sub-human.
- Jeremy (on vacation)
well you're obviously not human. since humans are animals.
- Sarah
People are different. Some of my friends have addictions they can't stop. Others have quit smoking on their first try. I don't think there's any "theory" of "Does 12-step work or not" that applies to everyone. Even if statistics (which I'm not familiar with) say "12-step" is bunk, there always can be people out there which it helps. My Dad works with medicine, and he jokes that the...
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- Mitchell Tsai
Jeremy, I dismissed what you're saying because you appear to be trolling. No one called you less than subhuman, and indeed your failure to respond to my points is the key sign you're just trying to be a jerk rather than actually argue for anything. Another big tip-off is that you argued for several contradictory points - did you really say addiction is a choice and then defend the...
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- Lo
Mitchell, I agree completely and that's why I don't discourage anyone from going to AA even though I don't anymore. The problem (in my eyes) is that a common view among treatment "professionals" (which includes psychologists, psychiatrists, and counselors, who don't necessarily have special training or education relating to addiction) is that 12-step programs work, and if they don't work it's the patient's fault, and the solution is just to wait until she gets more miserable. Assuming she doesn't die.
- Lo
Did you backup your original folder and database before upgrading like you are supposed to? If you did, then replace it all with your backup and you should have it back the way it was before the upgrade.
- April Russo (app103)
This is a WP emergency folks! Get on it!
- Yolanda
did you upload everything? did you wipe out your plugins directory? try re-uploading everything.
- tiffany
I was in the middle of the automatic upgrade and started getting errors that some file didn't exist. No problem, I'll just make it. So I did and now I'm getting another error. Right now, I'm trying to figure out how to update my database with the old database, but that's not working.
- Admiral Anika
do you have phpmyadmin available? export the old DB. do a fresh install. import the old data. and in the future: NEVER EVER DO AN AUTOMATIC UPGRADE. i learned that the hard way. automatic upgrade is a special kind of borked that fails on enough systems that it should be yanked as a feature. FTP is the best way.
- tiffany
The only time I've ever had a problem with AU is when I used the WP one. I use a plugin that's always worked for me. I do have phpmyadmin, but I don't know how to use these things. I think the last time I tried to install an old database I wound up with some templates. LOL
- Admiral Anika
April, I'm not even going to click that link. I read that page once last year and my brain turned to mush. LOL Why can't WPs codex pages be in plain English for me? At any rate, I've backed up my old database to phpmyadmin. Now, I'm moving my plugins.
- Admiral Anika
Have to agree with the instructions being unreadable. And its not just WP.
- Roberto Bonini
I use a plugin for doing automated backups - works well, sends it to gmail where it gets auto-archived and backed up 'in the cloud'. http://ilfilosofo.com/blog...
- Andy Bold
Thank you, April! Even though the restore is already done, this will come in handy for the future.
- Admiral Anika
You have an offer for free hands-on help from a very trustworthy guy (I know him and he's ok). Contact Sri and tell him what the problem is: http://friendfeed.com/srikat
- April Russo (app103)
I have never had a problem with automatic WP upgrades and I customize my install pretty heavily. Is everything working now?
- Rahsheen ™, Coach Rah
i know a few WP users who have all had WP auto upgrades go wrong, myself included. that's why i stick to FTP upgrades.
- tiffany
I can't even do an automatic if I wanted to. My web host has security sewed up so tight it would never work.
- April Russo (app103)
Thanks for the tip, April. Tiffany, I agree WPs automatic updater sucks. That got me last year, so I use the plugin and no problems. I'm horrible with FTP upgrades. I always wind up with errors. I suck at this.
- Admiral Anika
My Dashboard is whack after update. Anyone have this issue?
- phil baumann
from Android
I guess I'm lucky because I've never had an issue with the automatic upgrade. I'll file this info away for future reference, though. Sorry that's how your day got started, Anika! :-(
- vicster is...
I need to upgrade MySQL to upgrade to WP2.9 so I've not done so yet. Sounds like I perhaps shouldn't.
- Kol Tregaskes
I have heard that WP2.9 requires a minimum version of MySQL that not all hostings have. It's Ok, but WP Guys should have put a BIG warning upfront. I have heard of many many people running into troubles with this upgrade.
- gibilix
Yeah, a big warning on the dashboard would have been ideal. So am I just screwed until my hosting company does the upgrade?
- Admiral Anika
The min required mysql version is 4.2 or something right? Your host probably has higher versions available, just not on your box. Ask if they can move your account to a new server. Mysql's latest version is 5.1 or 5.2.
- tiffany
from Android
i have 4.1.22-standard, but I've never been able to figure out how to contact my hosting company. That's still something I need to do.
- Admiral Anika
"Jesus. A panicked teabagger called up C-SPAN in tears today, worried that he accidentally killed Republican Sen. Jim Inhofe by praying for Democratic Sen. Robert Byrd to die. This is one of the saddest things ever to appear on C-SPAN."
- Steven Perez
from Bookmarklet
"You might have heard that Republican Senator Tom Coburn urged health care reform opponents on Sunday to pray for 92 year-old Byrd to die so that Democrats would be a vote shy of the 60 needed to break Republicans' filibuster. This is not prayer. It's black magic. And people who believe in magic are, at the risk of generalizing, generally idiots. Like this Teabagger, who attempted to...
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- Steven Perez
Maybe a 900 foot tall Oral Roberts will appear to him and tell him whose death to pray for next.
- Mark "DerBingle" J
Also, is it just me or are there "just too many" similarities between Teabaggers and the Taliban? 1) Both start with the letter "T"; 2) both factions want set the clock back to simpler times that better fit their agenda (6+ decades for the Teabaggers & and 6+ centuries for the Taliban); 3) both invoke God to suit their ends rather than the other way around... I'm sure there's more, but I'm still waking up.
- Mark "DerBingle" J