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"Thanx for the advocacy w/needed realism. I consider myself a realistic optimist for, tho’ I know a positive attitude helps, that optimism isn’t sustainable w/out honesty. Chronic pain (as opposed to how pain was designed to work) isn’t my friend but my body is & we need to fight this affliction together. Diet & psychology are both contributing factors to pain levels yet, for many of us, the pain is more far-reaching than anything we may or may not be doing. Thus, whether we’re in pain canNOT be the focus (too many of us always have been & don’t know anything else); instead, it really is a question of whether we’ll be defined by it or – worse yet – give in to it. That’s what IS in our control. I may >_< but will still ^_^! (|_|*ch33rs*|_|) “It is easier to find men who will volunteer to die, than to find those who are willing to endure pain with patience. ” -Julius Caesar" - Dorian |_|)

"Fun fact: I am a Toad the Wet Sprocket fan! What few concerts I go to tho’ tend to be w/out the ToadsTer & their’s was not only no exception but also 17 years ago. Anywho, speaking of music — today of all days — to John.. (|_|*Imagine*|_|) Dorian aka coffeesister |_|)´s brilliant blustering.. What’s getting in YOUR way?" - Dorian |_|)

"I don’t have words.. but do have prayers! (|_|*to Anissa*|_|) “We acquire the strength we have overcome.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson" - Dorian |_|)

"“This ‘telephone’ has too many shortcomings to be seriously considered as a means of communication. The device is inherently of no value to us.” — Western Union internal memo, 1876 Dorian aka coffeesister´s brilliant blustering.. 30 Things About My Invisible Illness You May Not Know" - Dorian |_|)

"Today would have been G’ma’s 86th birthday.. I’m trying to set aside my sadness in order to be just a little extra silly in her honor as she well understood the power of a smile. Those smiles will see us thru our current transition while we seek an apartment in San Francisco & make what just may be our final major life change. I know she’d be proud of us for not only following our hearts but moving back near family & she’d especially love that her great granddaughter will be living w/us since she personified the idea of family first in an amazing, welcoming way. I love you G’ma & continue to be inspired by you every day! <3 xox (|_|*to Peg*|_|) “We should all have one person who knows how to bless us despite the evidence, Grandmother was that person to me.” — Phyllis Theroux PS: Be sure to “drink in” Dave’s guest post about my G’ma Peg (via CommentLuv or the previous post link).. PPS: Thanx ever so for the marvelous comments as they too are a wonderfully appropriate tribute to her & I..." - Dorian |_|)

"Well, that’s certainly a focus I can get behind seeing as I’m the one who chose to move. ::heehee:: San Francisco, here we come! PS: The quotationary we’re referencing.. “Just because you’re miserable doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy your life.” — Annette Goodheart — (find the good & let it matter.. we choose our focus)" - Dorian |_|)

"How right you are, on both counts. I do have chemical sensitivities as well thus our need — along w/my need to keep my kitties — to care about more than whether we simply have a roof over our heads. As fucked up as it is for beggars to be choosers, it’d be more fucked up if I got sicker & Dave had a harder time yet searching for work. So, as much as he hated to put this post up, it’s one of the kindest things he could do. Not only is he turning my birthday around but he’s given others, like you, a chance to turn our luck around. His humility & loving-kindness never fail to amaze me which is why I shouldn’t be surprised at the equally amazing people he connects with online. Thank YOU! (|_|*cheers*|_|) “When you’re drowning, you don’t say ‘I would be incredibly pleased if someone would have the foresight to notice me drowning and come and help me,’ you just scream.” ~ John Lennon Dorian aka coffeesister |_|)´s brilliant blustering.. 30 Things About My Invisible Illness You May Not Know..." - Dorian |_|)

"Intention & expectation are closely related. As I recently shared at Jeanne’s ChronicHealing.com, a lack of expectation is crucial in our everyday lives as — ill or not — goals can actually undo progress if the focus becomes the end rather than the means. Many fear simple or small goals limit achievement but it’s quite the opposite. Setting more achievable goals frees us up & spurs us on to the next goal & each one thereafter which are now more achievable yet. Through purity of focus, not to mention not setting ourselves up to fail, we’re able to do what’s needed because we’re not trying to do too much. The real & wonderful irony, of course, being that it’s the simple goals — the baby steps — that lead to huge accomplishments. As you saw on my ‘30 Things’ post, Dannette, letting go has become a favorite pastime. My fascination developed in order to stay somewhat sane (by not dwelling on what I didn’t, couldn’t or shouldn’t do). Thanx so much for your comment, btw, & especially your..." - Dorian |_|)

"Intention & expectation are closely related. As I recently shared at Jeanne’s ChronicHealing.com, a lack of expectation is crucial in our everyday lives as — ill or not — goals can actually undo progress if the focus becomes the end rather than the means. Many fear simple or small goals limit achievement but it’s quite the opposite. Setting more achievable goals frees us up & spurs us on to the next goal & each one thereafter which are now more achievable yet. Through purity of focus, not to mention not setting ourselves up to fail, we’re able to do what’s needed because we’re not trying to do too much. The real & wonderful irony, of course, being that it’s the simple goals — the baby steps — that lead to huge accomplishments. As you saw on my ‘30 Things’ post, Dannette, letting go has become a favorite pastime. My fascination developed in order to stay somewhat sane (by not dwelling on what I didn’t, couldn’t or shouldn’t do). Thanx so much for your comment, btw, & especially your..." - Dorian |_|)

"Living in the desert, I no longer have Fall colors either, nor any cold weather which is a God-send for my aching bod. However, I can’t help but want to visit my G’dad at the mountain cabin that is our family legacy. Beyond the obvious yen there is to see him, the frosted walks & Quaking Aspen do call. PS: Here’s the quotationary we’re responding to.. “Delicious autumn! My very soul is wedded to it and, if I were a bird, I would fly about the earth seeking the successive autumns.” – George Eliot (seek YOUR dormant colors)" - Dorian |_|)

"I love Maya dearly, as you know. ~_~ Here’s the quotationary, for posterity: “The need for change bulldozed a road down the center of my mind.” – Maya Angelou (a closed mind isn’t safe, just stagnant; upheaval may be exactly what’s needed)" - Dorian |_|)

"Having encountered these very assumptions/accusations, I fortunately never doubted God but did give up on church — at least the majority of them here in America — as I couldn’t reconcile most church’s attitudes w/Christ’s. American “Christianity” has become more of a political movement, unfortunately, & not a very compassionate one. Not only does God carry me through my on-going illness but I trust Him to use me in this state of being. In turn, I believe you & Karen wouldn’t have gotten much needed rest had you been healed from the illness that landed you in bed. (|_|*cheers*|_|) “Illness has always brought me nearer to a state of grace.” ~Abbe Pierre" - Dorian |_|)

From the page: This is the cause of my life. It is a key reason that I defied my illness last summer to speak at the Democratic convention in Denver to support Barack Obama, but also to make sure, as I said, "that we will break the old gridlock and guarantee that every American will have decent, quality health care as a fundamental right and not just a privilege." - Dorian |_|)

From the page: "Public awareness is needed to address this issue, an invisible health care crisis. Awareness and education can help millions who now suffer silently in pain by removing barriers to care." - Dorian |_|)

From the page: "The world is awakening to a powerful truth: Women and girls aren't the problem; they're the solution." - Dorian |_|)

From the page: "I'm not all that worried about what they're actually going to pass. It's going to be better than the horribly broken system we have today. Once the new law takes effect, I will never have to explain to another person with a chronic illness why there is no insurance for them, even if they can afford to pay. But we all read in our morning papers today that a new poll shows Americans are apprehensive about health insurance reform -- and most of the reasons they are worried are just plain false." - Dorian |_|)

"This is what my girlfriend would look like without skin." Duncan's line, that moment, is one of my favorites. - Dorian |_|)

"May you find ways to celebrate Grandpa & honor E’s memories. My grandparents helped raise me too & I lost my G’ma a few months ago so I know the hurt well if not the insult added to injury of not being able to attend the memorial. Our own attendance of my G’ma’s jeopardized us keeping our apartment so life is indeed full of unfair trade-offs. Do hang in there & be sure to have your own memorial of sorts. T_T (|_|*cheers*|_|) “Everyone needs to have access both to grandparents and grandchildren in order to be a full human being.” ~Margaret Mead Thanks. I’m so sorry you lost your grandma. We have no transportation to the memorial even if we had money to attempt to get there. Were you able to keep the apartment? I’m sure we will have our own memorial, there is a whole branch of E’s family out here….. and none of us are making it out to the memorial." - Dorian |_|)

"Our blogs are our virtual homes so should absolutely be customized; way to go! The colors are great & the logo's perfect.. (|_|*to new beginnings*|_|)" - Dorian |_|)

"I’ve long been meaning to thank you for stopping by (not to mention commenting at ^_^) the Nothing is Impossible Ministries’ blog! I don’t know if you’ve been back or have continued reading but Christopher recently wrote a post on judgment too: STOP with the judging already You make an important distinction. Although we should — & cannot help but — seek justice, it must be in as fair & measured a way as possible; never reliant solely on one’s own judgment. (|_|*cheers*|_|) “To sit in judgment of those things which you perceive to be wrong or imperfect is to be one more person who is part of judgment, evil or imperfection.” ~ Wayne Dyer" - Dorian |_|)

"I recently came across a quotation that really resonated w/me & my concerns for American Christianity; this post addresses those concerns nicely. “Organized religions inevitably become tools of cultural power rather than paths to personal salvation.” – Robert Thurman (|_|*cheers*|_|) PS: I’m one of those close friends that cannot afford healthcare." - Dorian |_|)

YES, yes I do.. ~_^ Having always been creative, I didn't have to develop these muscles but they can & should be exercised by everyone. - Dorian |_|)

full quote: "Life moves on, whether we act as cowards or heroes. Life has no other discipline to impose, if we would but realize it, than to accept life unquestioningly. Everything we shut our eyes to, everything we run away from, everything we deny, denigrate or despise, serves to defeat us in the end. What seems nasty, painful, evil, can become a source of beauty, joy, and strength, if faced with an open mind. Every moment is a golden one for him who has the vision to recognize it as such." – Henry Miller - Dorian |_|)

From the page: "But this shift from "me-me-me" to willingly contributing to the greater good has not been accompanied with a loss of identity or individual worth. The hive-mind respects each component. The technology actually allows us to break down faceless corporations and humanise them." Resistance IS futile (& should be)! - Dorian |_|)

From the page: "What makes the desert beautiful," says the little prince, "is that somewhere it hides a well..." "What is invisible is essential to the eye," the little prince repeated, so that he would be sure to remember. - Dorian |_|)

"That’s so cute how Jim thinks that made any sense to Dave. Rest assured, we do backup regularly. Meanwhile, I hate to admit it but twas actually my blog that had the offending widget. No doubt Dave tweets enough that it spilled over tho’. (|_|*cheers*|_|) “Talent [Dave] does what it can; genius [moi] does what it must.” ~Robert Bulwer-Lytton Dorian aka coffeesister´s brilliant blustering.. What the Hell, right?" - Dorian |_|)

From the page: "Yes, duplicity is on the loose, my friends! Beware! False lights are flowing out into the world in greater numbers, double minded, double tongued devils." - Dorian |_|)

"AND, if you just happen to think of something to share about his oh-so-supportive wife (not to mention her own blog), I just may steal borrow his idea!? (|_|*cheers*|_|) “Imitation is the sincerest flattery.” ~ Charles Caleb Colton Dorian aka coffeesister´s brilliant blustering.. What the Hell, right?" - Dorian |_|)

From the page: "..everything I needed to know about life, the universe, and everything was somewhere in [The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy]. Granted, I had to sift through a considerable amount of nonsense to get to the good stuff, but then, isn't that exactly how life works?" - Dorian |_|)

full quote: Well, it was quite a century, the best of times, the worst of times; and as we run down now toward the end of it, we can all recite our litany of despair: overpopulation; pollution; a faltering educational system; the rich getting richer, the poor getting poorer; racial tension; drugs; too many guns. But you know, if there's anything I've learned, it is that we Americans do have a way of rising to the challenges that confront us. Just when it seems we're most divided, we suddenly show a remarkable solidarity. The 20th century may be leaving us with a host of problems, but I've also noted that it does seem darkest before the dawn. There's reason to hope for the 21st century. And that's the way it will be. - Dorian |_|)