Parents and non-parents who have experience with kids: My daughter is stressing me out. She is eight-years old and has horrible separation anxiety. It's gotten better, but she still clings to me to the point of exhaustion. She constantly makes me late for work because she "diddle daddles" around. She cries and whines all the time.
I've tried everything. We wake up early, get her things ready at night, I ignore her when she cries and whines, I even tried creating goals and rewards so she will stop this behavior, and she still continues. Any advice is appreciated.
- Shevonne
Sounds like you're handling it the best way possible. Unless there is an assignable cause, it's probably a "phase". Hang in there.
- MoTO Bott
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Yeah, as MoTO said, sounds like you're doing everything you can and it may be a phase. My 7yr old used to (and sometimes reverts to) the same thing. He used to be very clingy with his mom, but it's easier for me with boys. You can't really tell a girl to "man up." LOL.
- Rah-PM 2012
@Rah My dad used to tell us that all the time, so I might have to resort to doing that. Hahaha
- Shevonne
I was like this as a kid and, to be honest, I think it was rooted in some other social anxiety issues I had at the time. I eventually got past it (mostly), but I wish someone had taken the time to see what the problem actually was and help me deal with that anxiety about non-family social situations. ETA: my family members who told me to just get over it basically taught me that I...
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- Katy S
There was a case where a woman posted on FB that a man was holding her captive, and her son and her got saved cause people called the police. You never know
- Shevonne
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- Shevonne
My alcoholic and abusive father left and divorced my mother when I was 11...I haven't see him in over 25 years. I grew up poor since he refused to pay child support. Now I hear that my mother is considering remarrying him. I'm speechless...
At least you're an adult. My parents, who divorced when I was 8 would still hook up from time to time and at one point mom moved back in. She left us with my drunk father. It confused and infuriated me. I have no love for my mother to this day. That warm fuzzy feeling you're supposed to have for mom, NOPE.
- G Dub of the Carolinas
I guess...I kinda feel like that lost kid I was at 12 again you know the kid who just shows up at the neighbors house at dinner time hoping they will have some pity and feed you cause your drunk dad took off and your mom is too busy partying all the time to even remember she has kids...ok I'm bitter. I said it.
- furrworld
dude, if she wants to fuck up the remainder of her life, let her. you don't have to be a part of it. if she doesn't realize what she is doing or how it hurts others, she never will. can't change her.
- Mary Carmen
I can't be a part of it and neither will my brother.
- furrworld
Well there you go. Just imagine how much less complicated life will be now that you don't have to worry about her. I know it sounds harsh, but she is making a decision that has some serious consequences.
- Mary Carmen
She's the only mother I got even if she is a sucky one..I will always worry about her. Classic child of an alcoholic.
- furrworld
Sorry I didn't mean to minimize what you're going through I think the main point was going for was I can relate.
- G Dub of the Carolinas
@g dub you didn't no worries. It's sad so many people can relate to this. I appreciated your comments. :)
- furrworld
This will be an absolutely and obscenely unpopular comment, and I mean no disrespect to you, but they're living their lives. They're just two kids in love. Like the rest of us. Take the alcohol out of the equation (and, yes, I know you can't) and it's suddenly not a thing. I'm a kid and I'm a parent; I understand the absolute disconnect that occurs when children start viewing you as a...
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- Akiva
I was thinking the same thing. Love does make people do irrational things, but then again, love isn't everything, which is something that people don't realize. Especially when you are a parent, and someone has done your child wrong, then love goes out the window. However, not everyone thinks like me, so this is when you get a scenario like this one.
- Shevonne
What Shevonne just typed. I'm terrified of Rochelle's fiancé. He's going to be in control of my children. I don't at all like the feeling of powerlessness. I'm absolutely desperate trying to see him as a good father and goddamn him if all of the evidence points to yes, that he's a good father, a good man. I want to hate him for stupid reasons but I can't. I need him to be my best friend...
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- Akiva
The hardest thing to do is realize your parents are people. Furworld, bounce that thought back and forth. Compassion for the failed person and disassociation with the parent part.
- Janet-The Bottley Crue
As much as I would like to say they are 2 crazy kids wanting to be together I will never get the memory of my drunk father viciously beating my mother in front of me when I was a child...not a smack...pounding her with his closed fists...that's not love and that's a big reason why I wont have anything todo with it.
- furrworld
I'm so sorry. I know this is something very hard for you.
- Shevonne
Knowing a lot of the backstory of this, I can say that this is not love. It is probably loneliness on both their parts. If I had to wager, I'd say more on your mom's part than your father's. You have to let your mom make her choice, just like she will have to accept the repercussions of those choices. Nothing I know of your dad makes me think he understands or comprehends what love...
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well I suspect you have given her a thought in the last 5 years :) this was not meant as a criticism but it is a bit sad that often we notice that we cared when it's too late...
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- Viva Vida
I know. She said it used to be 15. Is that even possible?
- Shevonne
I think it's highly unlikely this is absolutely natural. Look at her elbows, neck, etc. I don't think it's her body's natural set point.
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- Viva Vida
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