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slightlyignorant: HAHAHA INTROVERTS #FTW This was so me as a child, my standard punishment was to come sit in the living room with my family. Without a book. - http://fourlittlebees.tumblr.com/post...
slightlyignorant:
  
HAHAHA INTROVERTS #FTW
  
This was so me as a child, my standard punishment was to come sit in the living room with my family. Without a book.
Day 59: For a laugh, I’d like to see someone choose this song for Karaoke. - http://fourlittlebees.tumblr.com/post...
the maze runner behind the scenes: construction of the maze This is so cool. - http://fourlittlebees.tumblr.com/post...
The Kooks – See Me Now - http://www.last.fm/music...
sarahreesbrennan: discordanddarkness: The kiss transformed into something world-changing, warming the air, slowing time. The sun shimmered behind Holly’s closed eyelids, and above their heads the wind whispered promises to the leaves. I read Unmade yesterday. I have a lot of emotions about Holly and Angela. Aw. I have a lot of emotions about them,... - http://fourlittlebees.tumblr.com/post...
sarahreesbrennan:
 
discordanddarkness:
   
The kiss transformed into something world-changing, warming the air, slowing time. The sun shimmered behind Holly’s closed eyelids, and above their heads the wind whispered promises to the leaves.
  
I read Unmade yesterday. I have a lot of emotions about Holly and Angela.
  
Aw. I have a lot of emotions about them, too.
 
So, I’m going to tell an anecdote, but before I tell it, I’d like to be clear: I think the biggest problem in LGBT* representation is that there isn’t enough representation of any kind. I am always glad to see representation of any kind: it makes me very happy, and it makes me think the creators of media with said representation are people who share my values.
 
That said… when it comes to representation, there are many other problems and one is: the fact of the matter is, we are all unfortunately brainwashed by society to believe dudes are more interesting and important than ladies.
 
Which leads to stuff like this conversation I had once:
 
READER: Are you going to write about gay guys?
 
SARAH: Sure, I want to write a lot of LGBT characters.
 
READER: No. Are you going to write about a MAN falling desperately in love with ANOTHER MAN?
 
SARAH: Well…
 
The answer, as you all know by now, was ‘yes, yes I am’ but I admit at that moment I sure didn’t want to. I felt terrified for my girls, and for girls generally, who get ignored and get the fuzzy end of the lollipop far too much.
 
One of the many reasons I quit writing online (yep, that is a weirdly coy reference to fanfic, but also disclaimer because: my experience is not universal, fanfic can be an awesome thing, my experience is just my experience) was that I am mainly—though obviously not exclusively—drawn to writing about women, and I felt more and more subconsciously like I couldn’t do that. I felt hemmed in and frustrated to encounter hostility when a girl was too important, and horrified to see my own writing become more about boys—because it’s hard not to believe what people tell you, it’s hard not to buy into the world’s definition of who’s important.
 
But I’ve written 27 books that will never be published (because they are awful) and 24 of them were about girls. I’ve written 7 traditionally published books, and 6 were about girls. I am into ladies’ stories, and I want to write about them, and I wanted to write about Holly and Angela, but also feared for them hugely. 
 
I mean, if people think that the point of a girl in a story is to make a boy happy—and they may not like her then—how could I, I thought, get people to care about girls who weren’t going to do that? Who weren’t there for that?
 
And maybe it was unfair of me to be thrown into misery because of that particular question I got, because people are into what they’re into, and can feel free to ask authors for what they’re into! (Though I would note all-boys-club no-girls-wanted forever is not, to me, representation, and should not be argued as an issue of representation.) It certainly was lovely of the reader to ask me, because knowing people want more of my writing on whatever subject is exhilarating and flattering to hear. But it was also sad and scary. 
 
Boys are taken note of more. The Demon’s Lexicon series, I’ve noticed, was on far more LGBT* lists than the Lynburn Legacy series—which, I’m not saying I deserve to be on any lists, I’m just using myself as an example, and I’m not saying I don’t love Jamie and Seb of TDL because I do—even though the LGBT* characters and their relationship had more pagetime and narrative centrality in TLL. I’m saying, I also saw Rachel Hawkins’s Hex Hall on fewer lists than similar-sellin’ books with gay male supporting characters. I’m saying the dismissal of girls is an endemic problem.
 
Boys’ stories are considered better and deeper, as we can see by, for instance, how many Printz winners and Printz honours have male or at least dual PoV rather than solely female PoV (hint: the vast majority). This sadly does not go away when the boys are LGBT*—their LGBT* stories are considered more important.
 
So I spent a lot of time worried about a lot of things: will this aid in torpedoing the series, will nobody care at all times infinity, would it have been smarter to put off the reveal of Angela’s identity to book two, will people ignore them both as if they are dual Invisible Women, will they dismiss them because (insert various reasons)? And sometimes people did.
 
But there were other people, too: the people I met at conventions who told me how surprised and delighted they were, the girl I saw at a friend’s signing who unexpectedly recognised me and thanked me, the people who cried and who I instantly hugged (and I hope that was okay because it is not okay to impulsively seize people into one’s arms and press to bosom unless they are cool with it and usually I try to check!), the people who told me at my own signings that they shipped it. 
 
There were, of course, many other worries besides girls getting ignored: I am a flawed person and my writing is flawed, and I hoped not to be hurtful but knew I could be. Moreover, Holly and Angela, as pictured above, have the Big Pre-Battle We-Might-Not-All-Survive-This-Climactic-Scene First Kiss, and I knew people had to be invested in both of them and their relationship for the structure of the entire book to work.     
 
The end result is, despite all my worries, I am so, so glad I wrote Holly and Angela. I am so, so glad to see art like this, not only because it’s beautiful (and it is RADIANTLY beautiful) but because it’s celebratory.
 
They really mattered to me. And it really matters to me that they matter to you. 
 
Thank you.
laughingsquid: Giant Birdsnest, A Cozy Wooden Nest Designed For Humans Filled With Large Soft Egg Pillows - http://fourlittlebees.tumblr.com/post...
laughingsquid:
 
Giant Birdsnest, A Cozy Wooden Nest Designed For Humans Filled With Large Soft Egg Pillows
cloviashaw: Jigoku Dayu (Hell Courtesan) by Junko Mizuno - http://fourlittlebees.tumblr.com/post...
cloviashaw:
 
Jigoku Dayu (Hell Courtesan)
 
by Junko Mizuno
annejamison: Psst: the Kindle version of my book looks to be on sale for $4.99. It has lots of links and is usually priced at a price I don’t personally like to pay for ebooks more expensive. on sale! - http://fourlittlebees.tumblr.com/post...
annejamison:
 
Psst: the Kindle version of my book looks to be on sale for $4.99. It has lots of links and is usually priced at a price I don’t personally like to pay for ebooks more expensive.
 
on sale!
laughingsquid: A Father Creates an Iron Man Halloween Costume For His Hospitalized Newborn Son ::SOB:: hearthfires-holocausts - http://fourlittlebees.tumblr.com/post...
laughingsquid:
  
A Father Creates an Iron Man Halloween Costume For His Hospitalized Newborn Son
  
::SOB:: hearthfires-holocausts
liztellsfrank: So this is happening. Perhaps you might be able to make it? When I regret Liz is across the country from where I live. - http://fourlittlebees.tumblr.com/post...
liztellsfrank:
 
So this is happening. Perhaps you might be able to make it?
 
When I regret Liz is across the country from where I live.
Why We Need Diversity in Tech - http://fourlittlebees.tumblr.com/post...
nerdshares: italicsmine: nerdshares: Okay. I don’t think just because some people say it’s unclear means it’s actually unclear. I don’t want to get into a back-and-forth on this one, and I think Roxane Gay’s post on the matter summed up pretty much what I felt about the situation. But, actually, yes, I think what people are debating is indeed... - http://fourlittlebees.tumblr.com/post...
nerdshares:
  
italicsmine:
  
nerdshares:
  
Okay. I don’t think just because some people say it’s unclear means it’s actually unclear.
  
I don’t want to get into a back-and-forth on this one, and I think Roxane Gay’s post on the matter summed up pretty much what I felt about the situation. But, actually, yes, I think what people are debating is indeed whether or not the events described constitute abuse—people do not agree on this issue, which means it’s not clear. To me, they don’t; to you, Regina, they do. It’s unfair to say that people hold my position simply because Dunham is rich or has a TV show;
  
Holy shit. I literally said the least confrontational thing possible other than “that’s your opinion,” which honestly would strike me as shittier in a backhanded way. I never said her TV show was the only reason someone could defend her. None of this is about you in particular. All I said in response was: "There is debate on this," doesn’t logically equally "so that must mean the debate is legitimate." It’s circular and it could apply to literally anything. Like global warming or whatever. That’s literally all I was saying.
  
that’s like saying you hold your position because you fucking hate her and her work. I give you more credit than that.
  
I don’t hide that I eyeroll a lot in her direction about her actions and her work — but to say I “fucking hate” her is a massive overstatement of my feelings.
  
I respect your opinion that it’s abuse and I completely disagree with it.
  
Edan, I respect you a lot. But if this is respecting my opinion, what would you say to me if you DIDN’T? I didn’t take any direct shots at anyone here, and I didn’t reblog Roxane’s post, because I didn’t want it to make it into an attack on any one particular person or an ego power play thing, because it’s about a wide-ranging cultural response that’s upsetting to me.
  
(I just wrote 1,000 words and deleted them because—what’s the point? honestly I have grown to hate the internet’s constant policing of opinion, language, humor, sex. As Patrick said, “Tumblr is like PCU, but not funny.”  Not saying you’re doing that, Regina. Just a general comment.)
  
Okay.
  
If anyone wants to come over to drink wine and talk about vaginas, call me.
   
This reblog brought to you by a very heartfelt and deep SIGH, a “get off my lawn” moment, and the subtitle: Why I Would Never Want to Be Traditionally Published, Because Then I Would Not Be Able to Type the Following:
 
I don’t care if you consider the incident detailed in the book abuse. Mikki Kendall posted a great blog post on Twitter written by a child abuse investigator. Who actually agreed that the incidents in question may not be considered sexual abuse. 
 
Now, for those of you nodding and crossing your arms over your chests in satisfaction, BACK UP THE TRUCK.
 
What this post also suggested was that it was a nice, textbook example of narcissistic personality disorder. Here’s a link on the Mayo Clinic’s site to a definition of narcissistic personality disorder. Note one of the hallmarks: 
  
Those with narcissistic personality disorder believe that they’re superior to others and have little regard for other people’s feelings.
  
Wow. Huh. That’s pretty specific, isn’t it?
 
Now, let’s do a little post-mortem here. A woman who—rightfully or not—is hailed as a feminist icon of her generation. In her memoir, in a section designed to be tongue-in-cheek and witty, she refers to what may or may not have been innocent, developmentally typical, sexual exploration of a sibling.
 
AND EVERYONE KNOWS WHO HER SIBLING IS.
 
Now, regardless of your opinion about the incidents being related in the book, to look at this behavior, which exposes someone who is not a public figure other that in her relation to her sister, in a manner in which it could be up for public debate (exacerbated by referring to herself AS A PREDATOR… for lulz?), cannot be seen as something anyone with an iota of empathy would have done.
 
Shoot, I’m not even a public figure and I rarely mention my sister online. I don’t mine details of her life, or of our life growing up together, because that is HER life and it’s HER RIGHT whether or not to expose portions of it online.
 
Now, the argument is made “Well, her sister read it and was okay with it,” but at the same time, her sister’s LIVELIHOOD is dependent on her. She works AS HER ASSISTANT. Now, if your boss asks you if it’s okay if he tells the story about how you were caught in flagrante delicto with your boyfriend at the office, and you know your job may depend on you, how do you view it? Is your boss in a position of power? AS WOMEN, AS FEMINISTS, DO WE NOT DESCRIBE ABUSE AS COMING FROM SOMEONE IN A POSITION OF POWER?
 
Whether you regard the related incidents as abuse is of no consequence. But defending their reveal, and the subsequent online evisceration of Lena Dunham’s sister as anything LESS than abuse, is deplorable. Had the book been written by a man, we wouldn’t even be having this kind of conversation online. We’d be grabbing our torches and pitchforks.
 
Feminism isn’t about defending every woman no matter what. It’s about empowering women who do not have that power. And we’re failing to do that here every time we defend Lena Dunham’s actions here.
monicalewinsky1996: brooklynboobala: monicalewinsky1996: Just me and some pals flaunting our perfect bods I love that this has almost 12k notes and I really hope that the majority of commentary has been positive because it is a fucking awesome image. its a surprising number of young gay men captioning it “me” - http://fourlittlebees.tumblr.com/post...
monicalewinsky1996:
  
brooklynboobala:
  
monicalewinsky1996:
  
Just me and some pals flaunting our perfect bods
  
I love that this has almost 12k notes and I really hope that the majority of commentary has been positive because it is a fucking awesome image.
  
its a surprising number of young gay men captioning it “me”
fieldnotesfromabroad: When an author you admire pimps an author you think is overrated… - http://fourlittlebees.tumblr.com/post...
fieldnotesfromabroad:
 
When an author you admire pimps an author you think is overrated…
C O R A L I N E   (2009) How can you walk away from something and still come back to it? Walk around the world. Small world.  - http://fourlittlebees.tumblr.com/post...
C O R A L I N E   (2009)
 
How can you walk away from something and still come back to it? Walk around the world. Small world. 
Day 58: If I HAD to do Karaoke, this would be the song I’d choose. - http://fourlittlebees.tumblr.com/post...
REBLOG IF YOU'RE THE FAMILY DISAPPOINTMENT. - http://fourlittlebees.tumblr.com/post...
samwanda: ciarachimera: Relationship goals. 100% ♥ ♥ ♥ - http://fourlittlebees.tumblr.com/post...
samwanda:
  
ciarachimera:
  
Relationship goals. 100%
  
♥ ♥ ♥
lilmelody: treat yo self Pretty much how my thinking goes. Always. #adulting - http://fourlittlebees.tumblr.com/post...
lilmelody:
  
treat yo self
  
Pretty much how my thinking goes. 
Always. 
#adulting
thewinterotter: dsudis: kaydeefalls: tzikeh: This week’s Entertainment Weekly’s “Cast Reunion” photoset includes Mean Girls, Ghostbusters, and THESE GUYS…. This is Dan Rydell alongside Casey McCall, and you’re watching Sports Night. SUDDEN DELUGE OF DANNY/CASEY OTP FIFTEEN YEARS LATER FEELINGS. OH NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO I miss this show so much. I never... - http://fourlittlebees.tumblr.com/post...
thewinterotter:
 
dsudis:
  
kaydeefalls:
  
tzikeh:
  
This week’s Entertainment Weekly’s “Cast Reunion” photoset includes Mean Girls, Ghostbusters, and THESE GUYS….
  
This is Dan Rydell alongside Casey McCall, and you’re watching Sports Night.
  
SUDDEN DELUGE OF DANNY/CASEY OTP FIFTEEN YEARS LATER FEELINGS.
  
OH NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
 
I miss this show so much. I never stop missing it.
floralls: (by Clive Nichols) - http://fourlittlebees.tumblr.com/post...
floralls:
  (by Clive Nichols)
femsplain: Stop Giving Marketing Agencies Credit That The Fangirls Deserve Breakr, a nascent marketing company that claimed to connect fandoms with fangirls, took credit for the #AlexFromTarget phenomenon. They’re lying about it, and the lie outlines a bigger issue in the world of fan culture and marketing. Read more #I’m not even mentioning this... - http://fourlittlebees.tumblr.com/post...
femsplain:
 
Stop Giving Marketing Agencies Credit That The Fangirls Deserve
 
Breakr, a nascent marketing company that claimed to connect fandoms with fangirls, took credit for the #AlexFromTarget phenomenon. They’re lying about it, and the lie outlines a bigger issue in the world of fan culture and marketing.
 
Read more
 
#I’m not even mentioning this shyster marketing agency because I’m not improving their Google-fu based on their BS.
boundtostray: 100 Day Song Challenge  Day 44 - A song with “E” as the first letter of the title. "Ethiopia" - Red Hot Chili Peppers Day 57: Best song out of the last 10 songs posted by other people - http://fourlittlebees.tumblr.com/post...
aseaofquotes: Philippa Gregory, The White Princess Same - http://fourlittlebees.tumblr.com/post...
aseaofquotes:
 
Philippa Gregory, The White Princess
 
Same
reasonsmysoniscrying: A few of my friends stopped by to say “thank you” to a special person on this election day. Holy hell. First off, awesome. Second, reasonsmysoniscrying is from Rochester?? - http://fourlittlebees.tumblr.com/post...
reasonsmysoniscrying:
  
A few of my friends stopped by to say “thank you” to a special person on this election day.
  
Holy hell. First off, awesome. 
Second, reasonsmysoniscrying is from Rochester??
combeferret: this is the spanish version of one day more, featuring what i think is one of the strongest casts ever basically, listen to this, and i dare you not to get chills - http://fourlittlebees.tumblr.com/post...
'After' Fifty Shades, Could This Be The Next Big Online Hit? - http://www.npr.org/2014...
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