Depends on how messy the divorce is, and what the reason for it is. - Sparky, lurking

Depends really. Mostly though, I'd follow my heart. - Dee @ Holycool.net

I currently am. - Just Katie from fftogo

yes. as long as they are being honest about the status of their divorce proceedings. you don't want to get with someone that is lying about breaking up when they are actually just testing the waters to see if they can do better. that sucks and can only end in tears. - Morgan

Short answer: Yes. - Rah-PM 2012

I used to think I'd never date anyone who'd ever been married, period. I'm married, now, so I wouldn't date anyone. - MiniMage, enterRUPPted

In the process? No. - Lis

Rasheen: I'm intrigued by your use of a 'short answer' as you called it. I must try to use such a thing in my future posts to this environment called 'FriendFeed'. I fear that perhaps many of my comments are somewhat verbose and may be considered too wordy for some of the readers on this site. Thank you for setting the example that I may use as a guide for my future comments to this wonderful forum of intellectuals and sexy hot mamas. May I offer you many 'props' for your brevity. - Morgan

I met Dave a month after he left his first wife. Neither one of us were looking for a relationship. Apparently we failed at that!!! - FFing Enigma from fftogo

This reminds of that Seinfeld episode where Jerry and Ellaine were waiting on marriages to break up so they could go out with the people. The strategy: be a shoulder to cry on. "I'm there for you", after a while you are just there. - jjprojects

Definitely follow your heart. I just had to turn my own heart into a big gas stove and turn down the gas a bit. - Chris Loft

I read The Scarlet Letter in high school and took it to heart. - MiniMage, enterRUPPted

Just remember that there are no rules. There's no set pattern that works for everyone. It's a crapshoot no matter what the status is of you or the other person. If you both work at it and it's meant to be, there's a good chance that it will still end in heartbreak. But there's also a good chance that it will end up with you being happy, even if it's only for a while. I'd rather be happy for a while than never take a shot at it. Just be yourself and be honest with the potential partners. - Morgan

N.O. - Ms_Krista from twhirl

Um D, are all these questions going somewhere? I mean research? You starting a talk show? Blog? you know me...eternally curious. - Ms_Krista

wouldn't rule it out depending on circumstances. - Richard McKay

@Morgan - You should check out http://friendfeed.com/e... for help - S of 2C

No way. Not until it was signed, sealed, and court stamped. - Kenton

Scott: That's awesome!!! Thanks for the link. Very helpful I'm sure. - Morgan

Am now. He's going to be divorced in January. - Shevonne

I would consider it. Could get messy though. Did you know that in some states if you have a child with someone who is not divorced, your name WILL NOT go on the birth certificate? Fact there. These are some interesting questions though. I would worry about the rebound effect as well, but that is just me and my experiences shaping my response. - Amani

Everyone seems to assume the marriage+relationship with the spouse is fresh. If they've been separated for years...does it matter? - Rah-PM 2012

No. Unknowingly dated someone once in that situation. He had no idea what he really wanted. Think he eventually went back to his wife. -

If they've been separated for years, why aren't they divorced yet? - Lis

Interestingly, Scott and I began dating (online, after knowing each other in an online community for 10 years) before I'd moved out, though I had tried to leave my now-ex three different times before that. It was definitely... complicated, to say the least. - Ladyepiphanybug

@Lis, money? I know a woman whose separated-husband was diagnosed with cancer shortly after they separated. She could not, in good conscience, move forward with the divorce given that, and she eventually had a special someone who understood the situation. She's now a widow, but I respect and admire her choices. - Ladyepiphanybug

Divorce is not free. - Rah-PM 2012

Good point about the money. @Ladybug Heather - I hadn't thought of that. That must've been extremely complicated. Although I read a book about something like that - "You're Not You" (don't remember who it's by). - Lis

I've hung out with a couple of guys who later told me they were in the process of getting divorced. Likely closet cases. :( - Derrick

As long as she got no kids, I'm down - Outsanity

One should also check the legalities. Where I am, there are still ancient "criminal conversation" laws on the books that apply until the divorce is final. Period. They aren't often used, but they're there if a spouse wants to be vindictive. - Rebecca Lasley

I think this question was posed before, and I don't think the wife has changed her opinion of me dating period. - SteVe C

I did. Neither of us were looking for a relationship. Wound up marrying him. - FFing Enigma

If I was Leanne Rimes... ouch that was below the belt. - Ken Stewart | ChangeForge

NO. - Mona Nomura

No, shoot, I'd be less conflicted about dating someone who was just still married. - Richard Lawler

How long does it take to get divorced in the US - in the UK you may have to wait up to five years unless your spouse consents to the divorce in which case you can do it in two, or you can be nasty and get it done quicker - My divorce took six years from me leaving and another year and a half to get the finances settled. - Andy Davies