I had this huge crush on a girl, but she just wanted to be friends; I couldn't handle it. Just being around her was torture('cause of my feelings for her) and I slowly moved away. Bottomline: NO! - vijay

When I was younger, I was madly in love with my best friend. I suspect he did as well, but we kept it platonic. I miss our relationship. It was very sweet and innocent. - Shevonne

I think you can, but it may be unpleasant at times while you let the fire burn down. - RAPatton

Yes. Very possible. DarlingEvil and I have an open relationship. There is someone who she has STRONG feelings for (and he for her), but he is not Open. They are very good friends...because their feelings are in the open. - ‘-.-’ Tutivillus Grift

This actually has some relevance for me as I had/have a huge crush on a guy who's now a co-worker which I thought was all for naught. I kept this to myself for YEARS, and then he came out, he said, due to my openness about being gay. I thought this was my ticket in but then he said, he didn't see me in *that* way. We're still friends, but it has really colored our friendship, and sometimes in a not so good way. :( - Derrick

Oh not true! All about perspective (That said, I respect your opinion. Not everyone is cut out for it) - ‘-.-’ Tutivillus Grift

I'm sorry Derrick. I know it's hard, but I am the type who will rather have a little bit of someone I love than nothing. - Shevonne

The questions includes the answer inside. - Olcayto Cengiz

Gabe, how is truth a lie? My truth may not be your truth...and that's okay. But Open is a choice...I'm just secure in my knowledge and transparency. I am friends with him and my partner. They have nothing to hide. In my other relationships I hide nothing. If dishonesty emerges, the relationship ends. Voila! (I don't suffer envy easily) - ‘-.-’ Tutivillus Grift

I use to have an open relationship with two of my exes. I don't see anything wrong with it. - Shevonne

Shevonne I even have an open With an ex right now. It's more D/s oriented, but my Fiance (DarlingEvil) is secure with it (and joins in when inclined) - ‘-.-’ Tutivillus Grift

@Gabe - Open relationships have been around since the beginning of time. If you think about it, they just became taboo in recent times. Also, the rate of cheating has increased recently as well. Makes you wonder if there is a correlation. - Shevonne

Shevonne, in my experience it's harder for guys to move on compared to girls. But at the end of the day, Derrick has to figure that out for himself. - vijay

@Gabe @Shevonne I just don't think human beings were ever meant to be monogamous. - ‘-.-’ Tutivillus Grift

@vijay - I think the opposite. While women pine away, I have noticed that men quickly begin dating someone new. - Shevonne

Your statement might be correct with some people, but not all. - Shevonne

@Gabe or perhaps it's a security issue for you? Neither of us are wrong. As I said, I respect your opinion - I just have a "different" relationship. For you it's a lie. For me it's Truth. If your partner had strong feelings for someone else, wouldn't you rather know about it? - ‘-.-’ Tutivillus Grift

Whoa, the wheels have just come off this thread, haven't they? - Derrick

@Gabe...ooookay! Go with God, have a nice day! - ‘-.-’ Tutivillus Grift

Possible yes, wise no. It always ends up leaving someone hurt. - Sparky, lurking

Derrick: no. - Steven Perez

Not while someone's in love but once they've moved on, absolutely. - Shawn Farner

No. That person is mental if they can - Outsanity

Didn't they discuss this in "When Harry met Sally"? - Jordi Soler