I said those same words to my husband 20 years ago... i was just nervous; later, I got over my fears and now here we are...married many moons ago! The key is to TALK and root out those "roadblocks" - Susan Beebe

she likes you and wants to test where you're at with the relationship. - Patricia

Yeah that is what I was thinking, being together with her for what seems like a couple of years, and yet we have never met face to face, perhaps that is exactly the point though. - Ray Marr

What Patricia said. Yo. - Lisa L. Seifert

Wait...Santa Claus has a husband?? - Glen Campbell

Glen -- why not ? Santa lives at the North Pole -- not California - Brian Sullivan

Because he's been with Mrs. Claus for the last few hundred years. You're saying Santa is a bigamist? - Glen Campbell

I hadn't heard of this Mrs Claus -- perhaps she never really existed? - Brian Sullivan

To bring this back on topic, when someone you have been with for over a couple of years starts speaking that she rather be friends, then it means either she is looking to take the relationship to another level or to venture the actual process of taking the intimate aspect of it and reverted back to what friends will speak of and talk of, does that sound about right? Or what are your views on this subject? - Ray Marr

Sorry you really lost me at "being together with her for what seems like a couple of years, and yet we have never met face to face" -- I think that is where the thread went south. - Brian Sullivan

Ok fair enough, the point being is she says she loves me, and I have been talking with her for a couple of years. This is the first time she has mentioned that so I am exploring what are the possible definitions. I hope that cleared it up a bit. - Ray Marr

My guess it she is looking for some level of commitment, however I think the best thing to do is just ask her what she means. If you can't do that, or she flips out because you should have understood her; then I think you have your answer about the future of the relationship. - Kenton

Very good point Kenton, there was also some great replies on twitter and still looking for more as it is interesting to take the time to understand others and in that understanding to better understand yourself. http://twitter.com/knatchw... - Ray Marr

Patricia thank you for your insight that does seem appropiate, that it is a step in a different direction and a test of sorts thanks for your feedback. - Ray Marr