Marquita (Marty) Herald

Self-belief gives you the freedom to make mistakes and cope with obstacles by seeing them for what they are: temporary setbacks, not the end of the world. The good news is your level of self-belief isn’t set in stone. Anyone can learn to banish self-doubt, grow stronger, and become the hero of your own life story, but it requires purposeful action on your part. - Marquita (Marty) Herald from Bookmarklet

Left unchecked, our fears can easily rob us of the best part of our lives, and the only way to prevent that is to bring our fears, large and small, out into the light and work through them. - Marquita (Marty) Herald from Bookmarklet

Each choice we make causes a ripple effect in our lives. When things happen to us, it is the reaction we choose that can create the difference between the sorrows of our past and the joy in our future. - Marquita (Marty) Herald from Bookmarklet

We so often rank the quality of our years by the BIG accomplishments and life changing events and, for some, that includes world news and tabloid headlines that we have no control over whatsoever. In the process of what we view as moving on with life and putting the “bad stuff” behind us, we all too often leave behind many of the important accomplishments and lessons we’ve learned during the year … simply because they weren’t big enough for us to notice. - Marquita (Marty) Herald from Bookmarklet

Life Balance is not about better time management, it’s about making better choices. Our choices can move us to achieving success or failure; bring us happiness or heartache, fulfillment or regret. - Marquita (Marty) Herald from Bookmarklet

As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them ... - Marquita (Marty) Herald from Bookmarklet

Without taking the time to clearly define what your success will look like as you strive to achieve your various goals, it is all too easy to end up wasting a big chunk of your precious life striving to accomplish things that, in the end, don’t matter that much to you; may be completely out of alignment with your values, and ultimately leave you feeling unhappy and singing that sad tune “is this all there is?” - Marquita (Marty) Herald from Bookmarklet

There’s so much hype for the wonderful time of togetherness during the holidays that, for some, it only serves to accentuate the feeling of being alone - particularly for those who are separated from loved ones, newly divorced, or who have suffered the death of a loved one. The best part of being an adult is we have the ability to make choices. We are the creators of our own reality and feelings - and we can choose to make this a time of joy, self-nurturing and new beginnings. - Marquita (Marty) Herald from Bookmarklet

WHAT IF, just for a little while, we allowed ourselves to tap into our “inner child” to once again dream a few impossible dreams, and revisit those long forgotten wants and desires? What if the one thing stopping you from going for your “impossible” dream is the fact that you have labeled it “impossible?” - Marquita (Marty) Herald from Bookmarklet

Can you imagine the difference it would make in this world if every person made room this season for even a single meaningful act of holiday kindness?! - Marquita (Marty) Herald from Bookmarklet

Chronic complainers will complain about anything and everything if you let them. In the process draining your energy and leaving you feeling exhausted, frustrated, discontent and unproductive. You may not have control over everyone you come in contact with, but you do have control over your attitude and how you choose to live your life. - Marquita (Marty) Herald from Bookmarklet

When faced with the brunt of unexpected change or a life crisis, it is far too easy to fall into the trap of negative thinking; preventing you from moving forward and blinding you to potential opportunities for growth. There are very few experiences in life that are completely unique. Quotations prove to us that we are not alone, that someone else has experienced the same thing, and survived … if they can, so can we! - Marquita (Marty) Herald from Bookmarklet

Learning to be patient in the face of places and issues that irritate and frustrate you can bring more calm, tranquility and peace into your life. In fact, cultivating the ability to identify and effectively manage stressors around you could be one of the best gifts you can give yourself. - Marquita (Marty) Herald from Bookmarklet

For many, holiday can really put a damper on the season. Year-after-year we knock ourselves out trying to do-it-all in an effort to fulfill our expectations for the "perfect" Christmas. - Marquita (Marty) Herald from Bookmarklet

Imagine if you could turn your passion into something that could change the world. - Marquita (Marty) Herald from Bookmarklet

Adapting does not mean giving up hope, or accepting adversity as your fate. If you can let go of resisting, you will be able to see your situation more clearly and what needs to be done. The moment you let go, everything seems to change and you discover solutions that you could never have seen before. - Marquita (Marty) Herald from Bookmarklet

How do you feel about writing? Is it an inescapable part of your work that you dread, or do you relish the creativity and self-discovery? - Marquita (Marty) Herald from Bookmarklet

When it comes to the question of whether or not to share goals, many experts side in favor of sharing, while research supports keeping mum about our plans. Maybe the bigger issue is not so much whether or not to share our goals, but what we choose to share,and who we choose to share with. - Marquita (Marty) Herald from Bookmarklet

We live in a “Be all that you can be!” society, with mantras that drive us to cling to hope, whatever the obstacles, and never, ever, give up. But could it be, that there times when letting go of a dream is actually the best thing you could do for yourself? - Marquita (Marty) Herald from Bookmarklet

Do you believe in Magic? I do. But whether you do or not, this amazing performance by Technoillusinist Marco Tempest is sure to bring a smile to your face. Did you know the suits, numbers and colors in a deck of cards correspond to the seasons, moon cycles and calendar? In this brief TED Talk, Tempest does a card trick like you’ve never seen before, weaving a lyrical tale as he deals. - Marquita (Marty) Herald from Bookmarklet

Whether we want to think about it or not, 2012 is quickly coming to a close and soon enough our thoughts will turn to the inevitable NY Resolutions. It’s no secret that each year many more resolutions are broken than are ever kept. So why is it that we continually fail on such a grand scale in this annual attempt to make our lives better, richer and more fulfilling? - Marquita (Marty) Herald from Bookmarklet

Sometimes in life we become aware of an unsettling feeling that we are simply not where we are supposed to be … that there has just got to be more to life. We may recognize something needs to change, and we want to change, we probably even know just what we need to do. We just don’t do it. - Marquita (Marty) Herald from Bookmarklet

When we experience hardship it is natural for negative feelings to emerge: regret, denial, disappointment, and nostalgia for better times, anxiety over the future, lack of confidence, self-doubts and unhappiness ... but it doesn't have to be that way. - Marquita (Marty) Herald from Bookmarklet

Since everyone knows that great people never stop learning, I decided it might be fun to challenge a few of the better known urban legends. - Marquita (Marty) Herald from Bookmarklet

Not surprisingly, there are plenty of experts who reside firmly on either side of the self-help debate, but when you slog through as many studies and reports as I have over the past couple of years, there are two main themes that emerge again and again with regard to the problematic side of self-help ... - Marquita (Marty) Herald from Bookmarklet

The stories we tell ourselves, about ourselves are colored by layers of experiences, prejudices and desires … meaning that few of our stories are based on reality. If you consider then that our growth and the success of personal development efforts are entirely dependent on how well we understand ourselves, our stories have the immense power to enlighten or deceive, motivate or discourage us. - Marquita (Marty) Herald from Bookmarklet

It takes courage to risk and most of us make choices that allow us to stay well within our comfort zone. To risk means taking the chance that we may end up appearing foolish or vunerable, and yes, maybe even fail. But avoiding risk means missing out on the thrill of feeling fully alive and becoming all that we are meant to be. The truth is there is just so much more to life than most of us are living. - Marquita (Marty) Herald from Bookmarklet

I believe it’s pretty safe to say that few of us look for opportunities to talk about own mortality. That said, I also believe there is something life affirming and beautiful about reminding ourselves to make the most of each moment and each relationship, and even to think about our legacy … what mark we would like to leave on this old world of ours. - Marquita (Marty) Herald from Bookmarklet

No matter how well we plan, from time to time life will present us with unexpected change or outright detours. While these challenges may initially throw us off balance, rather than a reason for frustration or despair, such times provide an opportunity for renewed determination and growth. - Marquita (Marty) Herald from Bookmarklet

Have you ever experienced a moment in time when you felt that something was wrong or missing in your life, but you just couldn’t figure out what? More often than not, that uncomfortable feeling is a message from your internal self trying to tell you you’re off balance somehow and living life by default rather than according to your personal values. - Marquita (Marty) Herald from Bookmarklet