I don't like it when people say either of those things. I also dislike the "bitch, make me a sandwich" variation on this theme.
- Katy S
I'm glad you wrote this, Heather. I just wrote a couple paragraphs about that and chickened out from posting. I'm so fucking sick of this culture putting women's bodies under a magnifying glass. As if the most important thing about a woman is whether she's sexually appealing to a heterosexual man. We're in the 21st c. and we're still dealing with this misogynistic bullcrap. It reminds...
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- Spidra Webster
Only ant bodies belong under a magnifying glass! :p
- Josh Haley
Spidra- That is such an idiotic thing. Why would anyone, especially on the record, say something offhanded like that?
- <3Heather<3
Because there are tons of people to whom sexism is invisible. It's the water we swim in so they don't see it, they just splash around in it. The guy would never say that about a male Chief Justice. But it's somehow completely acceptable to say about a female. And if you bring up the issue, you're just "oversensitive". See how that works?
- Spidra Webster
Tell that to Jewish mothers. "Eat, eat. You look thin."
- Vezquex
from Android
A doctor told my 12 yr-old cousin to go home and eat a sandwich when she weighed in at 197. I was told he was being sarcastic.
- MiniMage, enterRUPPted
"If your laundry room is an eyesore, this easy DIY project can help you tidy everything up. It turns laundry baskets into slide-out drawers. You can adapt this project from blogger Ana White to store other things like recycling, toys, etc. To build the laundry basket dresser you only need basic tools and inexpensive materials: plywood cut to size, screws, and the metal angles. You'll also need, of course, three laundry baskets for each dresser. Sometimes the biggest p"
- edythe
from Bookmarklet
The people before us did something similar in our master closet. The problem with the set up in my house is that the baskets are too small (designed to fit in the closet shelving sizes) and they are too spread around (bottoms of almost every shelf area which are often separated by hanger racks). I think the system shown here would work much better. I just suggest to anyone setting it up, stick with what they are showing, don't go smaller on your baskets and keep them all together. :)
- Rachel Lea Fox
"There was a thick layer of frost on the wooden sleepers of the railway crossing as I carefully made my way over the track. The long ridge above Pennal carried a crust of snow that drew into sharp relief rock outcrops – usually concealed by random vegetation but now looking skeletal and exposed. On the valley floor, mist rose gently from small groups of sheep that clustered together in the morning sunshine."
- Maitani
from Bookmarklet
If I had to catch "the gay" from anyone, it would be from Derrick, or maybe James Baldwin. But since Baldwin is dead, it would have to be Derrick. He writes good too.
I may have just had to throw an elbow in the salad bar on some dude who was all up in personal space. The lettuce isn't going anywhere buddy and the carrots will wait that extra half second for me to put the tongs down and take a step.
Warning I played basketball for many many years i can still hip check and box out - you will not be getting to the bacon bits any time soon.
- SteVe C
Did not know that the veggies could be so popular.....
- CarlC
In my defense Carl my salads usually end up 75% cheese, bacon bits, and chicken.
- SteVe C
The lettuce and carrots might not be going anywhere but we all know that bacon isn't safe and we must get there as quickly as possible to rescue it.
- April
Before you go to sleep, you long press the button on the fitbit to start the timer. When you wake up, you long press again to stop. It'll keep track of movement during that time to guess your sleep efficiency.
- Rodfather
how does it know when you actually fall asleep??? (do you know how much money I had to spend to have a sleep clinic tell me these things?? and how many electrodes??)
- RudĩϐЯaЯïan
It knows when you stopped moving - even small restless motions - and calls that "asleep". It then puts red spikes in every time you move in the night, on the assumption that sleeping people don't actually move.
- Jenica
key word in Rodfathers comment, "guess."
- Lnorigb
You can move during non-REM sleep, but you shouldn't be able to move during REM sleep (although people with certain parasomnias obviously do), and the assumption is that the longer you're in REM, the better quality your sleep is.
- Victor Ganata
It seems that even if the world is caving in around me (and the past couple weeks have been particularly stressful), I can still get a relatively good night's sleep.
- Derrick
Heap of shit IMHO. Mine died after a month
- Mo Kargas
It's probably bad form to immediately leave FB b/c you notice that a relative is on and you don't want said relative to see you're there and start a chat with you.
It's not bad form unless they know that's why you signed off. ;-)
- John (bird whisperer)
Been there, done that. (It's ok... honest.)
- Mark J
from Android
What you do on FB is noone's business but your own. Unless you decide to make everyone else's. Seriously. I go on FB invisibly, all the time.
- Cristal Blue Persuasion
Oh, they don't need to be blocked. I just didn't want to deal with their issues tonight (which are legitimate issues). I'm just guarding my mental space tonight.
- Katy S
Seriously? You should leave Facebook whenever it's convenient for you; even though they may have added chat, it's still a fundamentally asynchronous system, and that's how it works best (IMHO). It would never occur to me that there was any reason to spend more than 5 minutes on FB now and then, but then, I'm a Social Network Introvert/Avoider, I suppose.
- Walt Crawford
I have to go off line on chat every time my cousins kid is online. She always tried to talk to me. Sometimes it's OK, but not every time I'm there.
- Alan
You can block the chat function - Ive done that for everyone, no exceptions :)
- ωαřмaiden ☆TeamOtto☆
Just don't friend them and lock down your privacy settings. If you already friended, you can disable/block the chat. I have mine turned off always. And what Walt says.
- Angel R. Rivera
Walt - I go there mostly to play some scrabble games and occasionally chat with my niece (she wasn't the one I was avoiding). I mostly felt guilty because this time it was the cousin whose husband has brain cancer and I knew that any chat discussion would turn to that. So, I'm the person who ran away from the potentially depressing and serious conversation.
- Katy S
You're not obligated to have that kind of serious discussion on Facebook, especially through chat. If they want to discuss something that important with you personally, they'll contact you some other way. Like others have said here, I keep mine turned off all the time. People rarely ever bothered me with it, but I didn't want to leave myself open to the possibility.
- Kamilah Reed (K. Gill)
It is? How about I just never go on Facebook. Which is what I do.
- Derrick
I'm only on FB (to the extent I am) because I have relatives who I'd never hear about/from otherwise. I suspect that's true for a lot of us SNIAs. I don't even know whether I have chat on or off...but I'm rarely in FB long enough to notice.
- Walt Crawford
Primarily, I was just feeling guilty for avoiding someone in pain who might want to chat. My parents didn't raise me to do that sort of thing, so there was a little additional family-induced guilt going on.
- Katy S
I'm always invisible on FB chat for precisely that reason.
- Kelli H.
from Android
Apparently, my DL has been suspended since 12/21 and they sent the notification to my old address. So, I've been riding around for over a month now with my kids and everything and could have been sent to jail had I even got pulled over for anything.
- Rah-PM 2012
Sounds like a new DA. She actually didn't talk down to me like poop she just scraped off her shoe. Gave me a reasonable option to resolve the situation. Not that I actually have the money, but she's being flexible.
- Rah-PM 2012
I will have to see what I can do. I may be able to swing it while still keeping the lights on. But, I'm sure you'll find me complaining here if I can't :).
- Rah-PM 2012
This has me feeling so sick right now. Gah.
- Rah-PM 2012
Thank you all so much! I'm just still tripping over this whole situation so I definitely appreciate your help. My paypal is Rahsheen dot Porter at Gmail dot com. Thanks again!
- Rah-PM 2012
Husband too chicken to play along, but agreed to compromise by blowing off his afternoon. Woohoo! I want to go to the conservatory at the botanical gardens, which is a magical place where you can sit *in the sun* in a t-shirt in February! OMG!
- Lo the Baker
Yeah, a botanical garden with a tropical greenhouse has got to be a relief to people in wintry climes.
- Spidra Webster
I'm also reading the Redwall books, if anyone knows those. When I was a kid I read all three in the trilogy. Last month someone at work told me that there are now over 20 books! I had no idea the series kept going. The food described in the books is amazing, and now I kind of want to try to duplicate everything they cook and try it myself. Except the nasty food the searats eat!
- Lo the Baker
It's very hard in the beginning to understand that the whole idea is not to beat the other runners. Eventually you learn that the competition is against the little voice inside you that wants you to quit. - George Sheehan
applicable to 99% of life unless you're a professional runner
- SteVe C
The one year I ran (I train to train for the marathon; did the marathon; never ran again) I got this John Bingham t-shirt. On the back, it said, "The miracle isn't that I finished. The miracle is that I had the courage to start." But I really bought it for the front. It had the penguin and the words, Waddle On." (I didn't waddle, but I liked the penguin.) http://bit.ly/xMYskM
- Betsy
"Viruses have insinuated themselves into the genome of our ancestors for hundreds of millions of years. They typically have gotten there by infecting eggs or sperm, inserting their own DNA into ours. There are 100,000 known fragments of viruses in the human genome, making up over 8% of our DNA."
- Zulema ⋅ spicy cocoa tart
from Bookmarklet
Fascinating. My undergrad thesis was all about the control of human - who was really in control? Us, or the multitudes of cells and virus that we are made up of?
- WoH: Minding her Steves
That sounds really cool WoH any chance you still have a copy?
- SteVe C
:) we're talking 20+ years ago, Steve - I think I have a manuscript somewhere but it's typed and ancient and would be horribly out of date.
- WoH: Minding her Steves
Okay but if you stumble across it one day i'd be interested in taking a look.
- SteVe C
"I love Mardi Gras, since I learned that it’s not just about watching 20-year-olds do things that will end up on Facebook pages and ruin their future careers. Throughout the Gulf coast, Mardi Gras is a party that matters; it ties communities together. The political realities are complicated, but as parades roll through neighborhoods, families of many colors scream and cheer for the many colored paraders. There is a joy on the street. You don’t see doffed shirts, but you do see, as I did in uptown New Orleans, a black man pick up a white child so he has a better chance of catching the throws. You do also occasionally see, as I did, a married woman give a cop a kiss on the mouth and slip him her phone number. Just because it’s family fun doesn’t mean it’s fun for all families."
- Derrick
from Bookmarklet
I wish I could get King Cake out here.
- Stephen Mack
Have you checked your grocery stores, Stephen? Even some stores in Indiana have them, but they're only around for a week or so, so you have to move quickly.
- Kamilah Reed (K. Gill)
Stephen, I just sent one to my co-workers at my old job back in California. Shipping is the biggest expense, but it's a pretty tasty cake. I sent mine from Randazzo's: https://www.randazzokingcake.com
- Derrick
I can't see the full-size (blocked Tumblr at work), but they look like the patterned decals I've seen (I tried some out here: http://friendfeed.com/jenn2d2...). That said, I've seen some pretty incredible free-hand nail art, and this could be done that way.
- Jennifer Dittrich
Janine has done that with temp fake nails that look like that.
- SteVe C
I was wondering about that. I'd rather not get fake nails. I have enough problems with my own nails. :P
- Zulema ⋅ spicy cocoa tart
from Android
I love the Sally Hansen Nail Strips. They super quick and last over a week. Plus, they have lots of fun designs like this. http://sallyhansen.com/product...
- Tamara J.
The initial purpose of health insurance was, in fact, to minimize the losses businesses experienced when their employees had to take time off work due to their health, which is why it's employer based.
Of course, most other industrialized nations have moved on to universal access, while people are busy with "taking America back"--in time, apparently
- Victor Ganata
I read somewhere recently that the difference in policy between Canada and the United States in this area was driven primarily by the source of the demand for health care. In the US, it was primarily driven by the large industrial employers, especially in the automotive sector around Detroit, which is why it became employer driven, and why unions negotiated for the continuation of health care benefits into retirement.
- DJF
In Canada, it was driven primarily by the agricultural sector in the prairies, with a lot of small farm holders lobbying for health care, which is why it is a government program, and not dependent on employment.
- DJF
I'm not as familiar with the history of health care delivery in other nations, but it makes sense that workers ended up driving its evolution. And a big part of the reason why universal health care hasn't taken root in the U.S. is because the labor movement has never been as strong here as it is in other countries.
- Victor Ganata
LOL Spidra. No I didn't. I have too many friends who work there and I don't want to start a fight. They know I don't love G+. There is no strong community there so I'm rarely there.
- Rachel Lea Fox
Aw, dammit. G+ could use some taking down a peg or two. :-p
- Spidra Webster
Just saying it one more time before Valentines Day is over! :)
- Rachel Lea Fox