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Mike Nencetti

Mike Nencetti

a tech from Upstate NY who lives in Charlotte NC. GV 980-428-9438
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wide awake at 2:27 am. when you go to bed at 6:30 pm. i guess this should be expected. trying to get over a bug.
Feel better, Mike. - Stephen Mack from iPhone
Thanks Steven.i hopefully will feel better in time for work Monday. - Mike Nencetti
Solidarity... - Julian
The lamp goes well with the old wooden barstool. Maybe I’ll leave it this way. -
The lamp goes well with the old wooden barstool. Maybe I’ll leave it this way.
its nice to have a place to call home, even if it is an apartment.
basically my wife's two children wanted access to our joint checking savings accounts, so they can withdraw her money. The estate lawyer said no, repeatedly. They also want to re define the beneficiary % for her accounts life, 401k, pension. Once again the estate lawyer said no. That was enough to get me to move ASAP and do my best to avoid saying anything, or doing anything stupid. - Mike Nencetti
My goal is to be fair. we still have a chance to do that. There was a will, before we were married. The kids get the house. I'm fine with that. They grew up in the house. By law the pension goes to the spouse, which is larger than the home equity which is basically the estate. you can see how complicated things will be as we sort this out next year. I needed a place to call my own. a place to get away from the home estate mess. - Mike Nencetti
when my wife died, basically I was a squatter. i had no right to live in the house. According to the will, I did not need to make any more mortgage payments. so I left. - Mike Nencetti
((hugs)) so glad you have been able to find a good place to live while the legal stuff is being sorted out. I hope they will see sense soon. - WoH: Professor MOTHRA
There may be 100k in equity in the house. The Charlotte market is very good. Hope the house can sell soon. we have no debt, except for a small mortgage. the probate should start today. - Mike Nencetti
So glad you have a sanctuary of some kind for the time being. You are an inspiration the way you're handling all of this with such grace. Remember to get what you need also, whatever that is. - t-ra supports #LOLSpidra from Android
this sanctuary rocks. y'all rock. I miss my wife. i just have her ashes, well, 1/3 of them. I will probably take them to the beach, like the outer banks this summer. - Mike Nencetti
I'm glad you have a place to call yours. I'll echo t-ra's comment about how you've handled Beverly's illness and passing with such grace and dignity. I hope the legal issues are resolved quickly and fairly for all. *hugs* - vicster
My advice to is brush up on estate law. a 401k beneficiary will override a will. - unless the will explicitly mentions the 401k, or life insurance, or checking account, ot there is a trust.... Will's are for stuff, like a house or car or boat. - Mike Nencetti
I am humbled at how you have kept your faith and kindness during this horrific life trial. May the untraveled road ahead be kind and comforting, you deserve this. - Janet
Janet, I have wanted to speak out. - in late September my wife is dying and the Dr's have recommended hospice. They give her 3 months. (she had 1.5) as her husband and the primary caregiver make the decision for hospice. (legally that is how it works, medical power of attorney is overruled by the primary caregiver) - I get attacked for this decision, and for every decision regarding her treatment. Being a stepdad is tough. I get little respect. - Mike Nencetti
Again, what you've done and how you've done it, with the utmost care and integrity, is beyond reproach to any observer. Her kids may be dealing with their stress by nitpicking you as an easy target. Anyhow, that's just conjecture. Point of the ramble is, I can't imagine doing what you've done the splendid way you have, and if you need to make your feelings known, then dammit do so. When... more... - t-ra supports #LOLSpidra from Android
Mike, I'm so sorry for the estate mess, but very glad that you have a home of your own and an estate attorney that is speaking up. Having been through an ugly estate settlement when my grandmother died, I'm sending good thoughts to you with hopes that probate goes as smoothly as possible. - Galadriel C. from Android
Her children sound like they are misdirecting their grief over the loss of their mother into attacking something visible. I hope they find it in their hearts to understand why love made the decisions they could not accept. They were coming at it from a self centered place of a different love, the child love. - Janet
I watched my mother treat my dying father horribly, it was only when a friend pointed out to me this is how my mother handled her fear could I maybe see why. I could NEVER understand the why. It is like her children are doing something similar and using you as their focus. - Janet
First workout at the fitness center at Crescent Alexander Village.
First workout at the fitness center at Crescent Alexander Village.
Celebration of Life - Beverly Anthony Nencetti -
Celebration of Life - Beverly Anthony Nencetti
This is the edited version with copyright free music for the slideshow. . - Mike Nencetti
New furniture
New furniture
New furniture
Value City Furniture arrives - Mike Nencetti
Looks great! - Melly
I'm moved in. cable and internet worked immediately, just needed to bring my own router for the internet. Each apartment has its own cable modem in the closet. It will take a while to furnish the place. I'll take my time. Already feels like home.
Looks nice. - Jim #teamFFrank
this is new construction, all new appliances, i am the first to have this apt. so I am providing feedback on my move in experience to my employer. No major issues so far - Mike Nencetti
*hugs* - Larua Boats from Android
I'm so glad it already feels like home! - Galadriel C. from Android
Testing the stove.
Testing the stove.
Testing the stove. first meal at the new apartment. - Mike Nencetti
My living room for the next few days....
My living room for the next few days....
Furniture gets delivered Thursday and Friday. - Mike Nencetti
tough to get a good pic. tried. - Mike Nencetti
Beautiful urn. Glad she is with you for this new path. - Janet from FFHound!
*hug* - Alix May
Be well - WarLord
(((Mike))) - Anne Bouey
Thanks everyone, still processing all this. Not the road I thought we would be on - Mike Nencetti
We're here - Johnny from iPhone
hugs, Mike - Brixie
update: getting an apartment with the company I work for, so I get a discount. get the keys tomorrow. getting all new furniture. Some will be delivered Saturday.
Kinda nice, if I have any issues, I work for the developer. They want to know if there are issues. Picked a 1st floor place. If I don't like the place in a year I can move to one of our other developments. - Mike Nencetti
Sounds like a great idea, Mike. - Friar Will
My Thought for the day. Do I still want to live in the house? or move. I have to refinance to give her children her equity.
There is a lot to consider, and you might feel like you have to decide quickly, but don't pressure yourself to have everything sorted out straight away. It'll take some time before you know what is going to best for you and the others. - WoH: Professor MOTHRA
I agree with WoH. Give yourself some time to figure it out. - Anne Bouey
Absolutely right. Very big decision. - Son of Groucho
Did you two talk about her assets previously? Going back to her wishes or desires might prove easiest. - Lnorigb from FFHound!
A friend whose wife passed away just over a year ago, made an agreement with her before she passed that he wouldn't make any major decisions (e.g. selling their house) for at least one year. Speaking with him a few weeks ago, he said that for him, he was grateful that they had this agreement because the time to think, decide, changes his mind, has been very valuable and meant he hasn't done anything he would regret. Sharing in case it is useful, please disregard if not. Mostly though, sending good thoughts. - Galadriel C.
If you have too many raw memories in this current house, you could rent it out and find a buffer apartment of sorts for now and place other things in storage. If you find her presence in this home as a need, stay and make the decision after at the minimum 6-8 months. You have had a journey of so many emotions, give yourself time to heal too. - Janet
Her wishes were for the house to transfer to me. Much depends on how greedy her children are. There is a will, pre marriage. should be lots of fun. But I like the idea of delaying things for a while. I do not care about stuff. I miss my wife. - Mike Nencetti
Just a thought, talk to the legal folks about creating a trust with this property, they will get their equity upon your passing. Not certain if I have the "trust" understood but something similar was done with husband's mother. - Janet from FFHound!
The family has a meeting today. should be interesting. I did contact a lawyer. I am learning a lot about estate law. We had had a joint savings/checking acct, that has now transferred to me. this is not part of the estate. Unfortunately someone still want access to it. - Mike Nencetti
I'm glad you spoke to lawyer, and I'm sorry you are getting pressure from the family. Are you part of the meeting today? If so, I hope you can find ways to protect yourself if things get heated. I'm not sure how things work over there, but I'm fairly certain that any reasonable person would agree that this is an early stage in the grief process, so asking you to make decisions that have... more... - WoH: Professor MOTHRA
^^much wisdom - Janet
Meeting went well. My main issue was the joint checking savings account not be part of the estate. legally it transfers to me. its 70k. so that was why i was a bit agitated. The children will be compensated via beneficiary allocations specified in each account. My wife specified 50% me 25% each child. We will put the house up for sale, and take advice from the estate lawyer the best way to handle the transaction. - Mike Nencetti
I'm glad a resolution seems to have happened, Mike. I hope the lawyer gives you good advice. It seems so overwhelming from the outside. - Anika
I'm glad you've had some reassurance, and I hope things go smoothly ((hugs)) - WoH: Professor MOTHRA
I hope you are happy with the resolution and that you aren't being rushed. *hugs* - Anne Bouey
Beverly walking the greenway. -
Beverly walking the greenway.
Taken June 8th 2014 - Mike Nencetti
Mike, I hope you have a long, long life and when you see Beverly again, that it seems like only yesterday. - Greg GuitarBuster
Thanks Greg. - Mike Nencetti
Here is a link to my wife Beverly's battle with Glioblastoma Multiforme brain cancer
Here is a link to my wife Beverly's battle with Glioblastoma Multiforme brain cancer
Thank you. - bentley
That's quite the battle, Mike. - Stephan from iPhone
Glad that this is helping you, and that you have a record. It's hard to know what to say, Mike, but I think of you and Beverly often, and I wish you all the love and joy you can find together ((hugs)) - WoH: Professor MOTHRA
Aw. Many hugs to you both. - Meg VMeg from Android
My thoughts and prayers continue to be with you all. - Friar Will
Sending you and Beverly lots of prayers and comfort hugs. - Tamara J. B.
Thinking of you and Beverly and praying for comfort and peace for both. *hugs* - Anne Bouey
Reading this made me pause, and offer up a prayer. All the very best to both of you. - Iain Baker
Hugs, lots of hugs also from here - Brixie
Thanks everyone. I had been forgetting to use Twitter, so I thought I would leave the link as my last tweet for a while. Forgot it would filter here. Been busy managing the hotel/ restaurant/ zoo that is our home. Her condition is changing slowly, vitals are good. I'm good. - Mike Nencetti
Still thinking of you both. Hope your weekend is going well ((hugs)) - WoH: Professor MOTHRA
We celebrated thanksgiving today, in case she is unable to later this month. Have a full house of family. We had a successful first week with her bedridden, keeping her clean and comphy. She is not in any pain. She is able to enjoy most food.. my days usually start at 4am .I'm doing good. thanks for checking. - Mike Nencetti
Thanks for sharing Mike Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours. - Steve C Team Marina
sending my prayers your way! - mina_sydney from iPhone
I bet the Thanksgiving was wonderful. - Anika
Early Thanksgiving is a great idea. I'm sure everyone present appreciated it. - Marie
I'm glad you all were able to enjoy Thanksgiving. - vicster
Seeing the whole story in journal form -- so many tears. What a devastating kind of cancer. Much love to you and your family, Mike. Rest in peace, Beverly. - Stephen Mack from iPhone
Thank you for posting this. - Brian Johns
Dignity Memorial - Beverly Anthony-Nencetti Obituary - McEwen Funeral Service Derita Chapel | Charlotte NC
Thank you. - bentley
*hugs* - Anne Bouey
(((Mike))) - Jenny H. from Android
*hugs* - Stephen Mack from iPhone
*hugs* - vicster
Beverly walking the greenway. June 8th 2014.
Beverly walking the greenway. June 8th 2014.
Almost lost this picture. I like it. - Mike Nencetti
Beverly's Story Thank you Mecklenburg Community Church @MeckChurch
Beverly's Story Thank you Mecklenburg Community Church  @MeckChurch
<3 - Jenny H. from Android
Thank you for sharing, Mike. This is beautiful. - MoTO: #TeamMarina
Beautiful video. - Son of Groucho
Absolutely beautiful. Her, oh, my. - vicster
<3 - CarlC
My Jam zzz alarm clock. It has Bluetooth. I prefer using a wifi only iphone4 and the audio jack. I play Pandora. Great sound from a small device. -
My Jam zzz alarm clock. It has Bluetooth. I prefer using a wifi only iphone4 and the audio jack. I play Pandora. Great sound from a small device.
listening to the Moby station this morning. - Mike Nencetti
Forgot I had Tumblr. I'll try to remember to use it. - Mike Nencetti
I am doing good. Services are not until next week. I do not think I will be able to really grieve until the services and events are over, and people leave. Walking on the greenway helps.
Good morning, Mike. It's good to "see" you. - MoTO: #TeamMarina
Good morning Moto. My walk yesterday was in the 70's it was a good walk. - Mike Nencetti
Sounds lovely. - MoTO: #TeamMarina
That looks like a great place for a good walk. - bentley
long walks still do a lot of soothing of my soul after the last few months. Peace to you. - ellbeecee
I cannot imagine the journey you and Beverly shared through her illness. I know grief is something you get through at your own pace. You are in my prayers for comfort. - Janet from FFHound!
Hello, Mike. Looks like a lovely walk. - vicster
Glad you are getting out and about, and all the best for the coming days. - WoH: Professor MOTHRA
When my dad died, I kept in all my grieving until the arrangements were over. That left me in a really weird state of not being able to grieve completely. When my mom died, I didn't try to hold it back. I cried during funeral arrangements, memorial, scattering her ashes and all the way home. Whatever I felt, I just allowed myself to feel, no matter who was around. I felt like I was... more... - Jenny H. from Android
Nearing the end, holding her hand. Love my girl.
You're a good man Mike. - Mark H
You two are present in my thoughts today. *hug* - Marie
Loving hugs for you and Beverly. - Anika
We are holding you both. - m9m, Crone of FriendFeed
You are both in my thoughts. - Kristin
Much love to you both. - Corinne L
Mike, you and Beverly are incredible people!! strength and love to both of you ... (((((((Hug)))))) - Sepi ⌘ سپی from iPhone
Holding you and Beverly so tight in my heart today. - vicster
So much love for you both. <3 - Jennifer Dittrich
Love and peace to you. Endings are hard, but an ending that's as peaceful as possible is a blessing, to my mind. May she slip as easily as my father did. My thoughts are with you both. - ellbeecee
Peace be with you both. *hugs* - Anne Bouey
Wishing you peace, love and light. - Gabrielle from FFHound(roid)!
I've been thinking about you from across the state. - Stephan!e•CogSc!L!brar!an
*many hugs* - bentley
Love and peace to your whole family. You are wonderful, amazing people. - Shannon - GlassMistress
Thank you everyone. we do no know how long, she's refusing food drink and medicine. I think her body has stopped digesting food, etc. so there is no point in feeding her. we have morphine when we need it. Very fortunate she has had no seizures. - Mike Nencetti
Sending lots of love and prayers to both of you. *hugs* - Tamara J. B. from FFHound(roid)!
*Love and peace* - AHnix (Anna Haro)
Sounds peaceful for you both. - Lnorigb from FFHound!
Love and peace to you both. - Mary Carmen from iPhone
(((((((Mike))))))) - Pretty LaBelle
Our love to you both, - Pete
Prayers for peace. Love to you both. - Friar Will
Such honor you show all of us. Prayers of comfort for you both. - Janet from FFHound!
Love, peace, and grace for you both. - Greg GuitarBuster
Thank you everyone. we are on day two of no food or water. she is refusing oral medicine. fortunately the hospice is visiting at 8:30. i will not force anything now. we have to leave her this afternoon to meet with the funeral director at 1pm. Fortunately we have an aide who will stay with her.She coughs from the saliva in her mouth. the atrophine does not fully help this. she did get some rest last night. - Mike Nencetti
*hugs* - Anne Bouey
You are both in our thoughts. Wishing you strength and love ((hugs)) - WoH: Professor MOTHRA
Thinking of you both, you're in my prays! *hugs* - Halil
Sending so much love right now. *hugs* - Jenny H. from Android
Much love and peace to all of you, Mike. - Larua Boats
Thanks everyone, we are on day 3 of no food and water. Still stable condition. Sleeping most of the day. So it's just sit and wait. I'm good. - Mike Nencetti
*hug* - Kevin Johnson from Android
*hug* - Marie
Peace be with you both. - Irrational Numbers
Peace and love to you both - Victor Ganata
(Mike) - Micah from FFHound(roid)!
we are getting some water in with a dropper. we just have to be careful it does not go into the lungs. - Mike Nencetti
*hugs* Thinking of you and Beverly, Mike. - Stephen Mack
Continuing to pray for you and Beverly. - Jim #teamFFrank
Oceans of love, to the both of you:* - Monaca di V.le Monza from BuddyFeed
Gentle hugs for Beverly and big hugs for you, Mike. - Anne Bouey
Thinking of you. - Meg VMeg
*Hugs* - Brixie
For those following this thread. it is the start of day 6 without food or water. she has to be kept very still. we stopped daily baths, as it is painful, and the rehydration is prolonging her suffering. we will need to give her morphine before we try to change her. her lungs are clear as of yesterday. We have no means to communicate with her. skin rashes are under control. We lost... more... - Mike Nencetti
Thinking of you Mike and sending hugs. - Galadriel C. from Android
Thank you for the update. Thinking of you both every day. *hugs* - bentley
A big hug, Mike. I pray the Lord have mercy. - Monaca di V.le Monza from BuddyFeed
Oh God. Thank you for update. I wish God has mercy… - Irrational Numbers
My thoughts are with you both. May Beverly be at peace. - J. Marie B
May you both find peace. *hugs* - Anne Bouey
Mike, may she soon be free of this pain and suffering. Holding you in my prayers, still. - Janet
*hug* - Marie
I'm so sorry and I hope the pain is over soon. *hugs* - Stephen Mack from iPhone
I'm so sorry, Mike. Sending prayers of peace and mercy. - Corinne L
Love, peace, and comfort to you all. - joey
Yes we are on day 9 without food or water. The RN said it could be at any time. It has been rough, but the nurse said we have done a good job. We just wait and administer morphine on a schedule. ... and tell her we love her. - Mike Nencetti
You are both in my prayers and thoughts. Wishing you both peace and comfort. *hugs* - Anne Bouey
Wow, Mike. Holding you both in prayer. You're a good man. - Larua Boats from Android
You are in my thoughts. I am so sorry - Elena
Love and strength to you both, Mike ((hugs)) - WoH: Professor MOTHRA
She passed peacefully at 8am this morning. I was by her side. uncommunicative, but she did have tears when I told her I loved her and goodbye. - Mike Nencetti
Oh Mike. I am so sorry :'(. My deepest simpathy - Monaca di V.le Monza
((Hugs)) thank you for sharing with us, Mike, and sincere condolences to you and your family. May Beverly rest in peace, - WoH: Professor MOTHRA
Our thoughts are with her, and all who loved her. - Pete
Thank you for sharing mike. Love to you and yours. How terribly sad to lose her and how wonderful to have had her in your life. May peace find you. - Shannon - GlassMistress
Much love to you and your family for sending Beverly home peacefully and lovingly. - Anika
followed silently your posts for months, thank you for sharing with us. my condolences to you and your loved ones ((((((hugs))))))) - ((°}
another silent bystander sending you love and grace and admiration. - Jenica
Hugs Mike, sorry for your loss. I'm sure she knew how much you loved her. - Brixie
I'm glad she's at peace. I'm so sorry for your loss. - Larua Boats
I'm very sorry for your loss. Thank you very much for sharing her with us. *hugs* - bentley
My deepest and sincere condolences, Mike. - Eivind from Android
I'm so sorry, Mike. May Beverly rest in peace. May you find comfort and peace, too. *hugs* - Anne Bouey
My condolences, Mike. - MoTO: #TeamMarina
So sorry Mike. Glad you got to be there at the end. *hugs* - Jaclyn aka spamgirl
I'm so sorry, Mike. My deepest condolences. - Jennifer Dittrich
You have my deepest sympathies, Mike. - Fred Garvin from iPhone
*hugs* I'm sorry, Mike. - John (bird whisperer)
*hugs* sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing. - Gabrielle from FFHound(roid)!
Thank you for sharing this journey with us. Please know that we are still thinking of you. - m9m, Crone of FriendFeed
I'm so sorry Mike. My thoughts are with you and your family. - Me
So sorry, my condolences, you're in my thoughts and prays. *hugs* - Halil from FFHound(roid)!
Our thoughts are with you. I'm sorry for your loss. - Marie
My condolences, Mike. Peace and comfort to you and your family. - Corinne L
I'm so sorry. I've been thinking about you and your family & will continue to do so. May you all find peace. - Stephan!e•CogSc!L!brar!an
Blessings peace and love to you and your family. - RetiredTeacherD
Wishing Beverly a beautiful and peaceful rest. And wishing you and all who love Beverly peace. My deepest condolences. - vicster
You and your family are in my thoughts. *hugs* - Kristin
Sending condolences to you and your family Mike. Wishing Beverly peace and good wishes. - Galadriel C. from Android
My thoughts and condolences for you and your family, Mike. Thank you for sharing this part of your life experience. - Micah from FFHound(roid)!
So very sorry for your loss. Many hugs to you and your family. - Elena
I am very sorry for your loss, Mike. - Stephan
May she rest in peace. Love and peace to you and your family. - AHnix (Anna Haro)
Voting. Nice to see a long line.
We may have reached the point where she stays in bed. The Hospice nurse recommended no more commode. She is experiencing pain. May need to start the morphine drip. Our plan is to keep her here. She still has her smile
What a tough thing. Thinking of you.. - Mary B: #TeamMonique
Sending you both prayers of comfort. - Janet from FFHound!
Sending good thoughts to you both. - Galadriel C.
Keeping you both in my thoughts. - vicster
Mike, I have been praying for you and your wife and will continue to do so. - Jim #teamFFrank
Much love, Mike. Praying for y'all. :( - Larua Boats
I'm glad you have the hospice to support you all ((hugs)) you are in our thoughts - WoH: Professor MOTHRA
Love and prayers to you both. - Mary Carmen
My thoughts are with you. - Micah from FFHound(roid)!
Strength and peace. - J. Marie B
Thinking of you guys... Praying for peace and comfort for both of you. - Lisa L. Seifert from iPhone
I am so sorry :( - Monaca di V.le Monza from iPhone
Much strength. - Stephan
Be well - WarLord
Wishing you both peace. *hugs* - Anne Bouey
Peace and blessings to both of you. - Corinne L
Thinking of you both. - Me
Lots of prayers and comfort to you both. - Tamara J. B. from FFHound(roid)!
*hugs* - bentley
Thinking of you and Beverly. Peace for both of you. - Greg GuitarBuster
having been through this so recently with my father, my thoughts are very much with you all. - ellbeecee from Android
I'm glad that, despite her pain, she is still smiling. You're both in my thoughts. - Jenny H. from Android
definitely keeping you both in my thoughts - Mr. The Jason Fleming
may you all be peaceful: you, your wife, your family, and the hospice workers. may you all be free of suffering. - Stephan!e•CogSc!L!brar!an
thank you everyone. FF is a special place. y'all rock. - Mike Nencetti
Tonight many siblings visited, (From New York, California and Illinios.) Beverly was well enough to be wheeled into the kitchen, as food was bring prepared. She was only able to stay in the chair around 90 minutes, but what a a great time. The party was relocated to her son's house so she could sleep. Wonderful evening.
Our only issue is I cannot wake her to give her Kepra, her anti seizure pill. out cold. - Mike Nencetti
I'm glad you had a good visit. - Larua Boats from Android
That's good to hear, Mike. - Anika
I'm so glad that you and Beverly had a great evening. - vicster
that's wonderful for all of you. - Stephan!e•CogSc!L!brar!an
My wife can barely speak at all, due to the tumor. (to communicate we ask questions and she nods) I have noticed in the early mornings she says a few words. I made a short video and emailed it to her daughter, saying thank you and love you. only 5 words, but the video made her day.
You are a good guy, Mike. These days are precious and it takes a huge heart to share them. You are amazing. - Shannon - GlassMistress
no matter how bad things are - we try to find some joy in each day, we call them small victories. its going to get tough in the coming weeks. we have all the hospice meds ready to make this as comfortable as possible. thanks shannon. - Mike Nencetti
That's really beautiful, Mike. - Jenny H. from Android
Be well - WarLord
that's a wonderful thing to do -it's something her daughter can hold on to and save. Having just watched my dad in hospice care and my mother caring for him, please remember to take care of yourself too. And yes, the small victories, whatever they are, are so important. - ellbeecee
What a beautiful gift, Mike, both for Beverly that she was able to tell her daughter that she loves her, and for her daughter, who will treasure that. I continue to hold you both close in my thoughts. - vicster
That's a wondferful thing to have done, Mike. I wish you both many more victories and joys in the coming weeks. - WoH: Professor MOTHRA
Do what you can to take care of yourself. With my mom we would watch videos of family a little bit but lots of distracting videos like Too Cute kittens and dogs. Different situation for you but I hope you keep finding your Too Cute moments together. - Steve C Team Marina
All the best Mike. - Eric - ill subliminal
contacting hospice creates family drama. Im ok with being the bad guy.
I'll do my best to keep the drama off of Facebook. I just desperately needed a hospice bed. My poor wife is going through hell. She may be put through more hell, I'll just do my best to give her the best care. She deserves it. - Mike Nencetti
She cannot talk, she cannot walk, she cannot dress herself, she cannot tell someone she is in pain. Things will get worse, horrifically worse. My calling hospice was an intervention for her. A cry for mercy. But unfortunately family may step in and - well hopefully the bad guy can get her the care she needs. I do not need to be liked, - Mike Nencetti
What is the opposition to hospice? - Anne Bouey
Do what you need to do. My dad has been at home under hospice care since mid/late August. He's very near the end now, but this was the right thing to do. You know your wife and what she wants. Focus on getting that. - ellbeecee from Android
Chemo is out because she cannot move without crap loads of steroids and and almost choked on her vomit a few days ago, by the time could qualify for a trial she wil most likely be dead. I really have no idea. - Mike Nencetti
I'll just let things play out. My only drama was taking the Drs advice and contacting hospice. But wow, am amazed how that can cause so many attacks on me. I'm ok. I will take the hits for my wife. - Mike Nencetti
Oh, Mike. I really hope that the family comes around and realizes that hospice care is what is best for Beverly. - vicster
It's her daughter. She will be here soon. - Mike Nencetti
I'm sorry that their way of dealing with their grief is to lash out at you, Mike, and you are a very forgiving guy to take it on the chin like that. You know what is best, and you are doing what you need to do. All strength and love to you both ((hugs)) - WoH: Professor MOTHRA
My hope is that when her daughter arrives, she will be able to meet with hospice and see that they are there to keep her mom comfortable and to support you and all the family (including her). These are always tough decisions, but you know best. I wish you peace, Mike. *hugs* - Anne Bouey
glioblastoma destroys famiies. We are fortunate, most GBM patients have little quality of life. I'll let her daughter do what she wants. I am as worried for her as I am for my wife. Being the step dad, not being likes is part of the job. I do not think there is much she can do.. - Mike Nencetti
Hopefully she does what's best for her mum and not just what's best for her. Quality of life goes up and down the chain and playing the hero (or martyr) isn't always the best option for the person who needs the care. Sending peace and love, my friend. - Johnny
I can't say enough wonderful things about hospice. In my experience, people get upset that hospice gets involved because they're afraid it means their loved one is dying today or tomorrow .. and while that can be the case .. you'll get more benefit from hospice if they get involved before it gets to that point. Hospice offers amazing support and counseling for the entire family and they... more... - Kristin
Thanks everyone. i meet with the social worker, and hospice nurse today. not yet heard about the bed. I'm going into work the rest of the week, to avoid as much drama as possible. i'm being treated like one of the kids, not her husband. i'll try to update this thread soon. i'll get counselling soon. i am sure I will need it. - Mike Nencetti
I often wish Josh's family had been okay with hospice care for my MIL rather than try to nurse her themselves at home. I honestly think it would have been better for everyone. - Melly
oh dear, Mike. I'm so sorry. But I am glad you've called hospice. I hope you get counseling and the support you need from your own sources. (I bet hospice can help you!!) - Stephan!e•CogSc!L!brar!an
Being "the bad guy" is often merely surrogate for "doing what no one else has the courage to do, even though they realize it must be done." You are to be commended in the manner you've taken care of your wife, Mike. Not that you need a pat on the back from me (or anyone else). - MoTO: #TeamMarina
Thinking of you, Mike. I hope the family will realize you are trying to do the best thing for Beverly and the rest of you. - Larua Boats
Maybe it isn't that they object to hospice care, as much as they object to what it means. And yes, you would naturally be "the bad guy" for making them face the truth and taking away any false hope they have left. But for your wife, it's probably best that she is cared for by people that understand her needs, as you understand them, and not cared for by people trying to cling to their... more... - April Russo
Well said, April. - MoTO: #TeamMarina from Android
Fear does horrid things to people. I hope her daughter understands you are doing this for love of her mother. So very sorry you are dealing with this! - Janet from FFHound!
Love you man I made the call on mom's hospice but I had a supportive family who trusted me and my decisions. I can't imagine going through it up stream. You're doing all you can the best you can and for the right reasons. Take care of yourself please. - Steve C Team Marina
Thanks everyone. Great meeting with the hospice nurse today. Huge help for Beverly. So glad we have this in place. We would soon be in the ER if not. The nurse will return in two days and meet with Beverlys daughter. I'm going to work wed-fri. We still do not have the bed. I believe the drama will be minimal. Beverly will get the care she needs. - Mike Nencetti
Glad it sounds like things are getting resolved. - Anika
I'm so glad that things are settling toward Beverly getting the care she needs and hope that the drama stays at bay. I'm glad you are seeking out care for yourself as well. Care for caregivers is so hugely important. It is exhausting in every way. - vicster
I'm so glad that the meeting went well and I'm sending good thoughts to you all - Galadriel C. from Android
Drama is done for now. I'm slowly seeing people help.Family becoming family. neighbors volunteering to help. more food than we need. we have a lot of challenges ahead. I think we will be ok. - Mike Nencetti
So good to hear that things are settling down a bit and people are helping out. Don't hesitate to say if there is anything you need, or if you just want a place to vent. ((hugs)) to you both. - WoH: Professor MOTHRA
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