A simple question. If you once attended worship or participated in a faith community, but no longer do so, what is/are your reasons for stopping? And don't worry about offending me with your answers. I am sorta asking for it with this question.
My dad used to bring me to temple as a kid. When he moved away, I stopped going.
- Georgia
When I was younger, I was a smartass and would tell people that God meant nothing to me anymore. Of course, that wasn't true. But these days, I would be more likely to say that the community no longer appeals to me.
- Cristal Blue Persuasion
I don't know if I ever believed in god. I was aware that I was supposed to because that's what I was told. And then one day I realized the world didn't make any sense to me if there really is a god so I decided to stop pretending for propriety's sake.
- peamageddon
from iPhone
That said, whenever I'm El Salvador I go to at least one 5am mass because there is something beautiful and peaceful about all the people showing their love for something they so passionately believe in. But that's not enough to draw me in while in the US.
- peamageddon
from iPhone
I stopped going because of bad experiences with hypocrisy and bad role models (mentioned that briefly here on Saturday). I never went back because I found spirituality elsewhere.
- Trish R
Few reaasons. 1. Minister cheated with a member of the congregation. 2. Hypocrisy of many members. That holier than thou attitude they put on while acting in a way contrary to what they said they believed. 3. Too much focus on growing the church and not on shepherding current members. This often went along with wanting to more money and things. 4. Cliques within the church that tend to want control of everything.
- Jyl Bit
I stopped going because my mom stopped taking us. I never really go now cause I only know everything in Spanish, and I feel lost when I go to the English ones. I tried going to a Spanish once, but the time to go was a little inconvenient. I have been saying that I need to go back to church.
- Shevonne
Three events: 1. the Catholic Church's horrible response to the multiple cases of child rape 2. after September 11th, one of the priests at the church I was attending at the time gave a sermon that was essentially a call for a crusade against all Muslims. 3. there was one day I was feeling extremely depressed and I walked by a church I had never been to before. I assumed that it was...
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- Victor Ganata
I wasn't raised in a church and never attended regularly until high school, so for me the default is non-attendance. I do go on occasion and have a couple churches I gravitate toward when I'm feeling the need for community. But spiritually I've got definite hermit tendencies, preferring to meditate, practice yoga, read, and/or listen to the local UCC's radio broadcast. Also, ever since...
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- Kirsten
Thanks for the responses so far. I appreciate you all taking the time to answer my question. I may DM some of you for a little more elaboration. This week I am going to be talking about Christian unity and community in my sermon, and it is my feeling that the lack of these two things in the church turns people off.
- Friar Will (:^)
I was raised catholic. I find I have a hard time fitting my beliefs about reality and spirituality into the doctrine (particularly the Trinity, Mary's virginity, and the Church's perception of the historical truth of the Bible). I miss parts of it, but I always feel like it's "whole hog or go home" what with the whole blasphemy thing and all. I miss the quiet peace of a dark church; it's generally the people in it I shy away from.
- ωαřмaiden ☆TeamOtto☆
I think what turns me off is "dont do as I do..but do as I say" - SOme of the paster/priest talk about fidelty and love..yet bang away half their persiionshers.. Now Now.. lets not talk about the pervs !!
- Peter Dawson
I felt the version of God supported by the Church was, frankly, mean. It didn't jive with my vision of God and Christ as understanding, tender, good humored, and forgiving. I stopped attending in part because I felt no affinity with the God I heard discussed in Mass and in part because I didn't want to support a group that I felt manipulated the idea of God and Christ to justify being intolerant jerks towards those people they (as a group) didn't like.
- Soup in a TARDIS
As for Sunday service.. Sports. Sleep.
- Rodfather
Community is a huge part of it for me. I still help out for fund raisers.
- Rodfather
Good Lord, Cecily. I am so sorry that happened to you. What an asshat that Sunday School teacher was.
- Friar Will (:^)
I don't know why she was in a teaching position to begin with.
- ☆彡Jazzy-B
from iPhone
our church went from being a place of worship and fellowship to being a social club for vindictive asshats with cripplingly huge egos. that was at the end of the 1970s. i became a confirmed atheist soon afterward. that didn't change until 2004. (the story has alot more to it than this)
- Joe The Sausage
Addicted to science, and logic, and reasoning as a kid couldn't find any of that in church still forced to go finally totally put off by the wealth in the vatican and the code of exclusion and degradation the christian community seemed to have when it comes to anyone not exactly their clone
- SteVe C
Saudi Arabia was exerting too much influence in our mosque. When they started sending imams, I left. I moved to a mosque with a larger South East Asian community, but racism is rampant, so I'm done.
- Anika
When you ask the question to the effect of "So you have been away from your religion for a long time, what brought you back?" I can than participate.
- Janet-The Bottley Crue
I'd be interested in your answer to that question, Janet.
- Soup in a TARDIS
Soup, it was a long-ish process. In searching for happiness I took a twisted road. I joined a rock band, I purchased lots of jewelry and designer clothing. I had a nice life but still something was missing. It got so emotionally barren I thought I would rather die than live a life so empty. Small steps, lots of reading, going to different churches to find where I felt comfort.
- Janet-The Bottley Crue
I walked into the Catholic church, the church I married my husband in but never converted. I felt at home. Blessed to have a wonderful priest teach me how to build my spiritual life. He heard my first confession, the portal for self forgiveness opened. I still hear his words, "Do you really think the dummy line started with you in front?"
- Janet-The Bottley Crue
That's a lovely story, Janet. I'm glad you found such solace. The issues mentioned in this thread aside, I'm always amazed and impressed by the help and comfort religion can provide some people.
- Soup in a TARDIS
Will, I was raised in the 7th Day Adventist church & went to SDA schools from 1st through 12th grade. I was always fascinated by other religions but couldn't get behind a number of the things I was being taught (old line SDAs are very anti-Catholic, for example) and what I perceived as an obsession with the second coming of Christ. They also refuse to ordain women and can be very...
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- Corinne L
Had to go at least 3 times a week my entire pre-teen and teen life. I'm still a believer, I just don't go to church. I figure I've already attended more in 18 years than most folks have in a lifetime. I am in my mid 50's now.
- J.D. Deutschendorf
Mainly time and energy. I travel or work most weekends and fitting in church just has not been a priority. Also, being catholic, the cycle repeats every three years and being an acolyte and then lecturer growing up, I felt like i didn't need to go to hear the same readings and then have them explained again. The community was the best part and there just wasn't people my age. I'm guessing I'll go back once I have a family, but thats a little ways away.
- Dario Gomez
it's the sing-songy stuff, honestly. I had no issues with Bible study groups, things of that nature, but some of the ritual stuff I just can't get in to. The "modern worship" stuff is even worse, although I know I sound like I'm contradicting myself. It leaves in the ritual, but adds a lameness of Glee-like proportions that makes me cringe.
- teleken
from BuddyFeed
I went to church sporadically as a child, then more regularly as a teen in a Catholic high school. I never bought into the Christian brand of mythology, even before I knew there were people who took the bible literally. The stories just didn't match my experience of the world. I haven't attended church services regularly for almost twenty years.
- Bren
from iPhone
Thanks again for taking the time to answer my question. You all are giving me a lot to think about and ponder.
- Friar Will (:^)
I only went for my mother. I didn't believe. At the age I went, I felt it was phoney for those with money to allow those without that suffered to continue suffering while watching. Now I just believe in me to do what I know is best without worry of someone/something else that will punish me if I don't. Lots of good things to learn in the Bible/Quran/Torah, but nothing that should be...
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- CW✔
I was raised Catholic. I didn't have a real community experience because our family was so large that we were our own community unit of sorts. Church was not something I personally wanted to do, it was something I was forced to do. I had to go to Sunday school as well. Then my parents pulled me out of the public school system to send me to private school and I didn't like being uprooted...
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- Spidra Webster
Raised a catholic by mother of simple but clear ego-less faith, father unchurched. I enjoy the service and eucharist and I find the gospels to be simple stories with a clear message but the Catholic Church is rabidly rightwing republican. I find it impossible to square the Republican philosophy with those simple stories. So I ceased taking communion since I am in agreement, not "really" a member -wreching but needed for my peace f mind
- WarLord
I liked guys and that was incongruent with the teachings of the church.
- Derrick
Not all churches anymore, Derrick. Thank God.
- Friar Will (:^)
I imagine that might be the case, Friar Will. Alas, the damage is done. Not to say that there can't be repair, but my faith is just...not there. I wish it was.
- Derrick
I was also raised Catholic. I had various low-level issues since the age of 9 with organized religion. In college, I met a person who was so vehement in his belief that he would have considered it a calling to kill an abortionist. There was no way this kind belief could not be known at the campus chapel community as he was extremely involved with it. I couldn't participate in a faith...
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- Katie
I used to go to Mass every Sunday with my mom until I was around 10 and then we stopped going on a regular basis. When I did go I went with friends. I never gave up on the church until after our daughter was born. When Amanda was around 3 months I called the Catholic church closest to us, one that I had attended several times, one that my own nephew was baptized in and I was told that...
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- Elena
Sorry to read this, Elena. Another example of asshattery.
- Friar Will (:^)
I don't blame you, Katy, for not participating in such a community.
- Friar Will (:^)
Will, thank you for asking this. And all of you, thank you for sharing your stories. I'm so sorry for the things y'all have endured. :(
- LB shining
We had a baby and got lazy :o/ Josiah just asked this morning why we don't go to church anymore, we really need to make the effort!
- ☆ Mellyboo ☆
PREFACE: I'm still part of a faith community, but it wouldn't be inaccurate to say in body only, not in spirit now. I grew up in an evangelical home and church family, and carried on into adult- and parent-hood in a born again tradition, very involved (as a layman, serving/leading through worship/music ministry; though I was in the position of elder for a time). Moreover, an...
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- Micah
Thanks, Micah. We have very similar backgrounds. I grew up in the Pentecostal Church of God and during my childhood and youth the church was everything to me, though the legalism and judgmentalism of that church ultimately drove me away. But, as you said, life was easier back then.
- Friar Will (:^)
I suppose it comes down to the fact that I'm still searching. There are a lot of ideological issues and political issues (many similar to what others have said) but when it comes down to it...I think I just haven't found a stable community that ignites my best self and connection to the divine.
- joey
Joey, there are more times than I care to number that I feel the same way. I wish you well in your search.
- Friar Will (:^)
I was a confirmed Episcopalian and altar boy. My mom took us to various churches growing up -- Protestant, Church of England, Catholic. In college I decided I didn't believe in God. After that, I have only attended church on rare occasions with my mom.
- Stephen Mack
from iPhone
I stopped because I simply didn't believe. Back in the old country, we had two choices for the afternoon after school: go to chapel or do crafts. After a few times at the chapel, I decided I'd rather do crafts.
- Morton Fox
I was raised Catholic but didn't believe. I went through the motions and tried to feel a personal connection with God. Later in my teens I actually got pretty into it, was confirmed, taught classes, gave talks, but I still never really quite thought there was a guy in the sky. I felt weird about professing to others what I didn't find true. The pastor at my church sometimes made...
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- Lo the Baker
I watch Mass on tv and follow it will my Prayer Guide...its hard for me to get out.
- just ZONED
As terrible as this probably sounds, life got in the way. I would still like to attend church, but, over the years, we have moved further and further, geographically, from our preferred church, so it takes more effort and time to actually attend than it used to. Add on top of that the fact that we seem to have soccer games, shuttling the kids all over God's green earth, visiting with...
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- Curdy G
I have twice. I was raised Christian, but once I hit 8 or 9, realized I had some problems with it, and just grew further and further away from it. I participated in another faith from 15 until I moved to Texas and got married. My husband wasn't of that faith, so I just kinda boxed it outwardly. It's still in my heart, but I somehow doubt I'll ever find another community quite like the...
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- Lix
Matthew 6:6 "But whenever you pray, go into your room, close the door, and pray to your Father who is hidden. And your Father who sees from the hidden place will reward you." http://bible.cc/matthew...
- chaz2b
I agree with Chaz2b, but I have also come to the realization that I need to fellowship with other like minded individuals to really help myself and others.
- Key West
I was raised Catholic, but it never made any real sense to me. In my college years I did some exploring of Jew-deism and other Christian faiths both in theory and in practice. While I always enjoy the feeling of a house full of people with love and faith, truthfully religion in general never totally made sense to me. I feel more at peace in a forest sitting in the silence than I do in a...
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- Rachel Lea Fox
Thanks again to everyone who took the time to answer my question. As I said earlier, you have given me quite a bit to think about and mull over.
- Friar Will (:^)
In my Grandmother's house it was tradition that everyone in my family line follow the leader but you would assume or think that the leader took the time to really research what it was that they were joining before they lead the sheep to the slaughter. I was the one who flew the coop and never looked back. ALL Organized Religion Has Another Agenda That Does Necessarily Have Anything To Do With Actual Truth and Faithfulness In Godhead.
- Jeunelle Foster
And as far as TRUTH. There is no such thing on this plane. Nothing Is As It Seems
- Jeunelle Foster
The reason I originally stopped attending services was that the other parishioners made me feel unwelcome. The reason I left the denomination was because I felt like I'd been brainwashed as a child and that particular church was a big con. Unfortunately, that has made me question my belief in Christianity and I struggle with that to this day.
- Jenny R
This is a truly awesome thread .Should read personal wisdom dispensed here.
- Key West
Thank you all.<3 Today has been crazy. I go from being fine and surprised about how normal I feel, and then completely breaking down and sobbing the next minute. I'm scared to go home in a few days because it's going to be a full week of heavy heart and tears. Right now, I've got a 3,000 mile barrier from the reality of the situation.
- Anna Haro
that's horrible. my condolences for you Anna - I hope you have enough strength to help your sister through this besides your own pain. feel hugged.
- esther
My condolences to you and your family Anna. So sorry for your loss. Sending you love <3
- Penny
I read that they should be working with some US libraries soon. If they start working with my BC library, I'm getting one :)
- Eivind
you can use kindle with Overdrive through the library here. I think they're nice, but I'm also intrigued by the touchscreen e-ink nooks and, if she reads a lot of things like magazines or items with color, he might want a device with a color screen.
- Katy S
White is better than black. Unless her favorite color is black.
- Arlan K.
and nooks also work with overdrive/libraries
- RudĩϐЯaЯïan
Right, nooks work with overdrive, as well, but it's a much clunkier download b/c you have to go through Adobe Digital Editions. With the kindle books, you check out your book, sign in to amazon, and then it downloads through wireless.
- Katy S
yes. You connect your library account to your amazon account when using Kindle. Which I will always always always protest against
- RudĩϐЯaЯïan
There are potential privacy issues that way for some, but I've talked to a lot of people who don't seem to care and want it that way, so it's really a matter of comfort. One thing I dislike about nooks is that they require you to use the exact same user name and password for the Barnes & Noble account and the Adobe Digital Editions account. It annoys me.
- Katy S
She reads a few magazines, but not on a regular basis. Stuff like Better Homes & Gardens and Smithsonian. I'm really not sure how she's going to be using it. We both love bargain books so I think she might be kind of shocked by the price of e-books.
- <3Heather<3
Your dad might find it useful to go to Best Buy, Wal-mart, or another location that has the different e-readers on display and see which ones he thinks she will like to hold. They really do feel different in the hand. Some are heavier, they have different balance, controls are located in different places, etc.
- Katy S
Ugh, I think I rather tell my dad not to get her an e-reader. I don't know what she would prefer, and I'm not sure she even knows.
- <3Heather<3
Can he set it up in a way that he can get her the one she wants - say, they go to a store together to try them out? There are a lot of free books (mostly classics, granted) that can be put on them, if the cost of the books is an issue.
- Katy S
Yeah. May want to wait until Amazon announces the Kindle Fire. That's basically a 7" lcd tablet. If an eInk screen is a priority (looks like paper), a normal one is fine.
- Rodfather
My dad decided to go with his back up plan and let my mom check into what she wants. Though now I have to think of something to get her!
- <3Heather<3
When despair for the world grows in me and I wake in the night at the least sound in fear of what my life and my children's lives may be, I go and lie down where the wood drake rests in his beauty on the water, and the great heron feeds. I come into the peace of wild things who do not tax their lives with forethought of grief. I come into the presence of still water. And I feel above me the day-blind stars waiting with their light. For a time I rest in the grace of the world, and am free.
- J.D. Deutschendorf
"Much of the United States sweated through an unusually humid heat wave during July, a month that brought record-breaking temperatures to many areas across the Great Plains. As temperatures soared, NASA satellites observed the unusual weather from above. The Atmospheric Infrared Sounder (AIRS), an instrument launched on the Aqua satellite in 2002, is unique in its ability to yield highly accurate data about the troposphere, the lowest layer of the atmosphere and the part that most directly affects life on Earth. Hot temperatures struck Texas and Oklahoma particularly hard, AIRS observed. Large swaths of both of these states persistently experienced highs above 100° F (311 K) during the day for the month of July. Nights offered only minimal relief with low temperatures averaging close to 90° F (305 K) for the month. That's about 20° F warmer, both day and night, than the average July temperatures for the past eight years of AIRS observations. AIRS also offered clues about what may have...
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- John (bird whisperer)
from Bookmarklet
I hope it is never again as hot as it was in Oklahoma this summer.
- J.D. Deutschendorf
from Android
Joe's answer is my second favorite especially when it reminds me of the Seinfeld episode where George couldn't stand the sound of his own voice as an audiobook narrator.
- Akiva
How does one become an audiobook narrator? I think I could do that. If any book needed a narrator who sounded like a 12yo girl.
- ☆ Mellyboo ☆
i know an engineer who occasionally records and edits audio books for clients. he has some interesting stories. he once sent me some untouched audio from a session. you would not believe the amount of editing even experienced voice talent requires. all those breaths and page rattles and chair squeaks and lip smacks. 0_o
- Joe The Sausage
I don't think it is, he's gonna share a post with me and i'll get an notification e-mail about it and click on the link from the e-mail,then, I'M IN. (saw it on TNW)
- batuhan icoz
robin.hastings@gmail.com (thanks in advance!!) - EDIT: I'm in, thanks to the ever-fab Amy Buckland. Thanks for the offer though!
- Webgoddess Needs A Drink
LisaLenea at gee-mail. w00t! I'm unemployed! Gimme something interesting to play with for a few days. :) And THANKS!
- Lisa L. Seifert | FHG™
from Android
marybaumcreative@gmail.com - and then when I'm logged in as that, I can go around +1ing people (like you) like crazy until it's time to go do stuff as Apps again.
- Auntie Buttinsky Botts
from iPhone
Weirdly, I found posts promising Profiles for Apps users 'within weeks' back in MARCH.
- Auntie Buttinsky Botts
from iPhone
still valid? gbabun [at] gmail [dot] com.
- Bojan Babic
caitlinmoen@gmail.com :) if it still works, thanks!
- Caitlin
Don't waste one on me... I have a Google Apps account!!! Ugh.
- Skyler Call
still available? one for me please. marun2 [at] gmail [dot] com
- MohanArun
merynstol@gmail.com - Thanks in advance.
- Meryn Stol
Thanks. apparently I screwed this up by trying to accept from my ipod touch last night during the tiny window when they were still accepting new users. Now I have to wait until they have not "temporarily exceeded capacity." Oh well, see you soon!
- Laura Norvig
Louis, you rock. If you've got any left, I'd love one. sean.smm@gmail.com Thanks very much!
- Sean
any left Louis? i see you are a mario fan! :)
- ffcode
even with the advent of Google+ i can't get away from friendfeed i come here for reading posts! but mostly as Jesse said on Google+ https://plus.google.com/u... here they are closley knit!
- ffcode
"Today, however, the credentialing provided by universities is becoming decoupled from the knowledge and skills acquired by students...While the “cost” of learning is falling dramatically, the cost of college continues to rise."
- J.D. Deutschendorf
"The days of jamming 500 students into lecture halls supervised by graduate students and charging them several hundred dollars per credit hour for the “privilege” of learning in this fashion may be numbered."
- J.D. Deutschendorf
"Hey, Yahoo? Running del.icio.us cost you pennies, and bought you so much goodwill. Now you’re just another of those scumfucks who acquires great services just to bury them. But then, firing all those people before Xmas really showed what kind of people you are anyway, didn’t it? ”Oh, we didn’t want people to spend too much money at Xmas and then fire them in January with that extra debt on their shoulders.” Right."
- Steven Perez
from Bookmarklet
"Everyone I know is currently working out how to back all their photos off Flickr, in case that’s next. The thinking being, if Yahoo didn’t know what they had with del.icio.us, they’re not going to know what they have with Flickr. Which is a fair point."
- Steven Perez
I really disliked when Yahoo forced me to have a Yahoo email account in order to use Flickr. I moved all my photos to smugmug after that. Yahoo doesn't get it and hasn't for several years now.
- J.D. Deutschendorf
I never said we had an EXCLUSIVE relationship.
- Joe The Sausage
I didn't know she was your sister, otherwise I would have cheated on you with someone else. Geez. I'm not a complete prick. By the way, when you see her, please tell her I said thanks.
- Mark Davidson
I wish we could put you back in the trash can your father and I dug you out of.
- SteVe C
I will always cherish the initial misconceptions I had about you...
- J.D. Deutschendorf
from Android
"For the last seven years, the company has been plagued by serious problems, including misreading the desires of its customers, poor customer service, suspect product quality and improper accounting."
- J.D. Deutschendorf
from Bookmarklet
"All the actions and few tid bits of information all lead to one inescapable conclusion. The well pipes below the sea floor are broken and leaking."
- J.D. Deutschendorf
from Bookmarklet
""We are very proud of our city and Topeka is an Indian word which means 'a good place to grow potatoes.' We're not going to change that.""
- J.D. Deutschendorf
from Bookmarklet
Quick favor to ask...can you answer this 1 question survey for a project I am planning?
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"I have a major gripe with the trend of misspelling baby names. On purpose. The parents’ logic runs something like this: “My child is special and unique. Thus, my child deserves a special, uniquely spelled name.” The upshot is that Chloe becomes Kloey, and Jacqueline metastasizes into something ghastly, like Jaq’leen. It would be easy to blame this on celebrities, since there appears to be an unspoken contest among them to saddle children with awful names. Gwyneth Paltrow set the bar high when she named her daughter Apple, but not high enough. Reign Beau, daughter of Ving Rhames, and Vanilla Ice’s Dusti Rain and Keelee Breeze are way up there. For boys, could any name be worse than Bronx Mowgli, son of Ashlee Simpson and Pete Wentz? Perhaps Jermajesty Jackson?"
- April Buchheit
from Bookmarklet
"Misspelling a child’s name won’t make Junior special, creative or unique. Y’s and I’s are not interchangeable, and apostrophes are not some sort of newfangled confetti to be sprinkled liberally throughout groups of letters. Parents shouldn’t impose cryptic, incoherent or foolish spellings on their own children, nor on society as a whole. And they shouldn’t condemn their children to a...
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- April Buchheit
Has anybody beaten Frank Zappa for kids names? Moon Unit and Dweezil are hard to top. In fact, Dweezil's name is actually something else because the hospital refused to put that on his birth certificate.
- Gabe
My sister teaches kindergarten and has encountered a lot of unusual names. My favorites: ImUnique. or Yur Hi'ness.
- J.D. Deutschendorf
My friends have kids that go to school with a set of triplets whose names are all spelled the same but pronounced differently!
- Gabe
Wow, Gabe! My mother-in-law is a triplet; the three girls are "Vada," "Veda," and "Vida," all with the same middle name.
- LB shining
"If there were any truth to the idea that a particular name can guarantee a particular character trait for the child — or vice versa — most people would be named Vaguely Dissatisfied. Or Kinda Bitter."
- Clare Dibble
And this is why nicknames were invented...
- WarLord
I named my daughter the less common spelling of "Stephenie" (instead of Stephanie) and I don't regret it. It's easier for a child to learn to spell...every 3rd letter is an "E". Plus the person I named her after was named "Stephen" and not "Stephan".
- April
One of the instructors at the college in our department's first name is Senator. It used to be Michael (aka Mike), and now goes by Senator Mike. He said he changed it because all of a sudden he got all this respect. o_O
- Derrick
Names, for whatever reason, aren't a primary key in my relational database. It's as if the entirety of a tuple makes up an identity in my strange mind. In other words, no I don't remember your name or that we were in the 5th grade together, stop talking to me.
- Geoff Schultz {TF}
This article does seem a bit too crotchety - for example, "Chase", which Schmidtberger complains about, /is/ a name. It's been a /last/ name for generations now. The Chase Manhattan Bank ultimately derives its name from one of its founders. Repurposing it into a first name is not that egregious.
- Andrew C (✓)
Plus, in the days of ubiquitous, pervasive websearch, I rather think a kid should have the option to have a unique or at least semi-uncommon name. With maybe a choice if she or he wants to go by something more common for anonymity's sake.
- Andrew C (✓)
That said, this article does remind me of the outstandingly funny "CARMICHAEL and shane" short.
- Andrew C (✓)
Those dash-es and apos'trophes in names are not allowed in our agency. Try explaining that to a client who wants her name spelled the way she likes it. We also have a hard time with hyphenated last names.
- m9m, Crone of FriendFeed
In the post-Google world, a more unique name can make you "findable" - for better or for worse.
- Mitchell Tsai
I have a hyphenated middle name (a Romanization of a Chinese name) and it is a pain. in. the. ass.
- Brian Chang
My favorite fragrance is a natural one which I have never found it in any human made. I wish I could find it. Also I love to find one which I used to wear when I was a kid, unfortunately I forgot the name and I have never been able to remember it since last time I saw it.
- ۳۰ مرغ Loves Y'ALLLLL
I always go to Body Time and have them mix me one up out of essences.
- Ruchira S. Datta
Natural soap and water. If its chemically extracted oils nada. only natural extracted and those are too expensive for me. The last knock offs I checked had enough butane in them you could use as a blow torch fuel
- Melanie Reed
Love those scents pictured above on men - provided they use self-control in applying them. Fragrances I love: Nectarine Blossom & Honey, Jo Malone; L'Imperatrice, D&G; Ed Hardy for Women (original scent); Eau de Givenchy (had this years ago and it was recently re-released; I'm seriously longing to buy a bottle); Carnival Crush, Stacked Scents; Between the Sheets, Demeter; I Love Love, Moschino; Malachite, Banana Republic.
- Corinne L
Honestly when I buy cologne I just go to Macy's and ask the lady behind the counter which new scent she likes to smell on a guy. She usually comes back with 3 options, 2 of which are usually good. Caveat: when it's a gay dude at the counter :S LOL
- LANjackal
The two I have in my bathroom are Nautica and Candies for Men. I used to have Aspen back in my broke college days. Of the three Candies is my favorite.
- BRҰANSAҰS
eternity for men was my fave scent for a guy til my grandpa started wearing it. I do love hugo on guys yumm
- Angela P.
I love Black Phoenix Alchemy Lab scents and a Moss & Ivy scent that I got on Etsy (it makes me feel like I'm in the forest). I love things with jasmine oil. Nothing synthetic, just extracts. I often don't wear anything, though.
- joey
i personally wear all kinds of stuff. I have perfume oils from the body shop and body splashes from bath and body works as well as other perfumes. i probably have enough to go over a month without repeating
- Angela P.
from IM
My mom used to wear Tigress. I still remember the nights she and dad would go out to a party or some function (Naval officer -- lots of those!). I remember the swish of her pantyhose and the scent of Tigress. And her goodbye kiss after the babysitter was settled in. Just the barest hint of Tigress, and the memory floods over me. Amazing how scent can do that.
- Ladyepiphanybug
In the evening: Gucci Homme or Michael by Michael Kors. In the daytime: Gucci II Homme.
- Mark H
I find it hard to like anything better than good old Eau Sauvage. It may be old school but it's all the better for it.
- JSLeFanu
"In 2017, states can decide whether to let large employers into the exchanges. That's important: The exchanges are the bridge between the employer-based system we have -- where few know how much their insurance costs or have any choice about what kind to buy -- and the competitive system we need. But just because there is a bridge doesn't mean we'll walk over it"
- J.D. Deutschendorf
from Bookmarklet
This morning I woke up feeling "I can't" and wanting to get drunk for the first time in MANY years. But I don't have to throw my life away out of fear, I can do more than I think and all it will take is just putting one foot in front of the other.
- Lo the Baker
from Android
If life were easy and didn't scare us from time to time it wouldn't be nearly as fun or adventurous. It also wouldn't provide us with the opportunities to change, evolve, and grow. We can choose to look at the hard times very negatively or we can choose to endure, persevere and try to learn something from the experience. It's easy to do the former and requires much much effort to do the...
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- Mary Carmen
One day at a time, one step at a time.
- Anne Bouey
Sometimes it's better (as in this case) to refrain from thinking about doing things and simply take action to do them.
- Lit
You've got it in you, Lo, to do this. You really do, and the more you exercise those muscles the better you'll feel and the more natural it will seem. And when you need to, go ahead and lean on your pals. I'm excited for the adventure you have ahead of you.
- Ayşe E.
You have the strength, Lo. As I was contemplating starting to exercise again to ease some of these aches this popped into my feed. I am going to exercise now and you will do what needs to be done. All best wishes for a fulfilling day.
- WoH: Minding her Steves
I have reached my articulation quota for the weekend. I will now begin speaking monosyllabicly.
- Mary Carmen
You guys are so awesome, and I will definitely be looking back at this in the future :D
- Lo the Baker
You can do most anything you want to do, the world is yours for the taking
- RAPatton
from iPhone
I come from a family of athletes, but I am absent their gifts. All I have is good size. On my first day of football in the 4th grade I was dead last in the sprints that conclude practice. By the 6th grade I was the fastest kid on my team, by the 7th I was anchoring the 4x100 meter relay for the track team. My friend, the NFL Scout, is still dubious of my 4.6 40 that I was able to run in...
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- RAPatton
from iPhone
RAPatton, that was awesome. Thank you! :)
- Lo the Baker
I could fill you with tales like those, which is one of the great thing about sport: it shows you, and allows you to demonstrate what you can do
- RAPatton
from iPhone
Funny you say that, I've always wanted to run but "couldn't." A few months ago I started with the goal of being able to run 1 mile without stopping, which I had never done. Now I can run five miles, over an hour without stopping. That was the first thing that made me think "maybe I can do a lot more than I currently realize." Totally awesome. Thank FF that I know you :)
- Lo the Baker
On that middle school football team, there were at least 5 other 6 footers(it was in Texas) and one of the best players on the team was a 5'2" inch kid named Doug Desolo. He was our free safety and was making outstanding tackles while some of the giants rode the bench. If you looked at him in street clothes you'd have thought he was someone's elementary school kid brother, but he didn't let that stop him for a second
- RAPatton
from iPhone
I have two sayings that I use when I'm freaking out and can't take a step forward. The first is, "A life lived in fear is a life half-lived," and who wants to live half a life? Not me and not you. The second is, "Just breathe into the fear and it becomes a creative adventure." That one is harder to hear and to do, but it is true. All of my greatest adventures were the things that scared me the most. Oh, and I second what everyone else has said.
- Cassandra
Cassandra, that bit about what scares you the most being the greatest adventure is *absolutely* true in my experience! Thanks for sharing :) I'm feeling so much better than when I woke up this morning.
- Lo the Baker
"Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it." - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
- J.D. Deutschendorf
Ok this might sound silly, but on the first episode of Lost, Jack (my least favorite character) said how he gets past being scared is to let it take him over while he counts to 10. At 10, the fear just stops. It's totally worked for me being angry/sad/hopeless. The other thing I haven't tried yet is to write down the situation you're thinking about and the absolute worst case outcome...
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- <3Heather<3
Oh and, you so totally rock I never have doubt you will beat the crap out of any situation that dares to try and drag you down.
- <3Heather<3
"But there's also another, more salacious tidbit we've found which may or may not be irrelevant — we're still trying to fit this piece into the puzzle. Apparently, according to one of the commenters at TTAC, Sikes owned and operated a web site called AdultSwingLife.com. Interesting."
- J.D. Deutschendorf
from Bookmarklet
This is the first time he has been allowed to do so. A coach I respect told me to hold off until he was a "teen" which we have done.
- J.D. Deutschendorf
"At the heart of Dr Faber’s argument is a fundamentally gloomy view on the US economy and its capacity to service a growing mountain of debt. His belief, fund managers were told, is that the US is going to go bankrupt. Under President Obama, he said, the country’s annual fiscal deficit will not drop below $1 trillion and could rise beyond that figure."
- J.D. Deutschendorf
from Bookmarklet
"The simplest and shortest strategy won, a program that precisely enforced the Golden Rule. But what precisely made Tit-for-Tat so successful? Axelrod analyzed the results of the tournament and came up with a few principles of success."
- J.D. Deutschendorf
from Bookmarklet
"Don’t get greedy. Tit-for-Tat can never beat another strategy. But it never allows itself to take a beating, ensuring it skips the brutal losses of two “evil” strategies fighting against each other. It actively seeks out win-win situations instead of gambling for the higher payoff."
- J.D. Deutschendorf
"Even in empty space, time and space still exist. Physicists have no problem answering the question of “If a tree falls in the woods and no one’s there to hear it, does it make a sound?” They say, “Yes! Of course it makes a sound!” Likewise, if time flows without entropy and there’s no one there to experience it, is there still time? Yes. There’s still time. It’s still part of the fundamental laws of nature even in that part of the universe."
- J.D. Deutschendorf
from Bookmarklet
"It’s just that events that happen in that empty universe don’t have causality, don’t have memory, don’t have progress and don’t have aging or metabolism or anything like that. It’s just random fluctuations."
- J.D. Deutschendorf