Jim Reverend

"ZING! Texts From Last Night is a train wreck. A beautiful, magnificent train wreck." - Jim Reverend

"YES! Replacing expectations with agreements and boundaries is ideal. In many of my cases, the agreements have to be entirely with myself, as I cannot even "expect" that the other person will hold to that. But, even then, agreements with myself result in stability and acceptable losses. With agreements in place, I can hope for success and plan for failure all at the same time. I'm getting there. Thank you for reading, and for your support." - Jim Reverend

"You do, indeed, need some expectation to get anything done. This is true as a single person, true as a married couple with kids, and true as a single person with children. I feel that the expectations are more obvious and more assured for single people and married people with kids, because there are simply more of them. They are the "norm" so to speak. My difficulty is that the mismatch is, more often than not, not due to misunderstanding or complications or emergency, but often, blatant disregard for commitment. Like my parents indicating they'll be home "any time after 4pm" and then they aren't there at 5pm, aren't answering their phone, I'm an hour from my house, and I've got a starving kid in the backseat with no food on me because I didn't plan for my expectations to not be met. Thankfully my expectation that my bank will honor my credit card swipe and that Wendy's will still serve chicken nuggets and cups of oranges saves the day. Or like booking a photoshoot for an evening..." - Jim Reverend

"She really, really is. I'm certain that, in the event of an emergency, though she'd be a bit shaken, she'd be perfectly fine with you and J, or you alone. Perhaps even J alone, to some extent. And you're right, one day she will need you. I firmly believe that children are better raised by many people -- more than just 2 -- and that multiple positive influences allow them to round out the edges inherent in all of our screwed up personalities and become better, more stable people. As hard as I try and as fortunate as I am to be a little more "feminine" and "nurturing" than most men, Celeste NEEDS happy, positive, feminine influence in her life. I'm grateful for all of the wonderful women in my life who provide that to her and I'm happy to count you among them. You have no idea how comforting that is for me, to be able to add the two of you to the list of people that I can call upon if needed. Just gotta teach you how to install a car seat and get you changing diapers. Ha." - Jim Reverend