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"Mine does the same thing to some extent. She'll get mad at me and she'll do something non-constructive (or, downright destructive) as a way of ... punishing me, I guess. The stance I've taken so far goes something like this. First I tell her she shouldn't be mean or upset or angry. Then I ask her what she really wants. Then I just let her do whatever it is she's going to do (unless it's destructive, which case I remove her or the destructive items from her path). As she calms down, I ask her again until she finally says what it is that she really wants. Then we resolve that issue (usually, I'll give her whatever it is, I just didn't know what she wanted in the first place). And I think you're right. She's so very slowly -- yet most certainly moving -- headed toward being more and more okay with it. My hope is that if a) she likes the person and b) I tell her it's okay, then that will be enough to make her comfortable. If she doesn't like someone, then I don't expect her to be with..." - Jim Reverend

"And yeah... you're right. We are pretty similar I'd guess. At least in that regard." - Jim Reverend

"No. You're right. Punishment is better. I'm changing my mind (and my post)." - Jim Reverend

"You're right. It's not 100% correct only because discipline means several different things. I debated using that word specifically for a while, and finally decided to stick with it. My main reason was that the word "punish" is too weak. Because I don't scold or reprimand or any of those other things that are part of discipline. I do teach. As a verb, discipline is a synonym for BOTH teach and punish. Which, is really sort of sad if you think about it." - Jim Reverend

"HA!" - Jim Reverend

"This right here, is why people keep coming back for more at HijinksEnsue. Brilliant, Joel. HAHAHA!" - Jim Reverend

"So the moral of the story is... you either clean up your shit, lose your shit, or, eventually, step in shit? I've lost my shit way too many times. And stepping in shit is ... well... shameful. So... I guess I'd better start cleaning it up." - Jim Reverend

"Apology accepted. But, really, NY Subs is better. I'm just saying. Remind me next time you're in my neck of the woods and I'll prove it to you." - Jim Reverend

"ZING! Texts From Last Night is a train wreck. A beautiful, magnificent train wreck." - Jim Reverend

"YES! Replacing expectations with agreements and boundaries is ideal. In many of my cases, the agreements have to be entirely with myself, as I cannot even "expect" that the other person will hold to that. But, even then, agreements with myself result in stability and acceptable losses. With agreements in place, I can hope for success and plan for failure all at the same time. I'm getting there. Thank you for reading, and for your support." - Jim Reverend

"You do, indeed, need some expectation to get anything done. This is true as a single person, true as a married couple with kids, and true as a single person with children. I feel that the expectations are more obvious and more assured for single people and married people with kids, because there are simply more of them. They are the "norm" so to speak. My difficulty is that the mismatch is, more often than not, not due to misunderstanding or complications or emergency, but often, blatant disregard for commitment. Like my parents indicating they'll be home "any time after 4pm" and then they aren't there at 5pm, aren't answering their phone, I'm an hour from my house, and I've got a starving kid in the backseat with no food on me because I didn't plan for my expectations to not be met. Thankfully my expectation that my bank will honor my credit card swipe and that Wendy's will still serve chicken nuggets and cups of oranges saves the day. Or like booking a photoshoot for an evening..." - Jim Reverend

"She really, really is. I'm certain that, in the event of an emergency, though she'd be a bit shaken, she'd be perfectly fine with you and J, or you alone. Perhaps even J alone, to some extent. And you're right, one day she will need you. I firmly believe that children are better raised by many people -- more than just 2 -- and that multiple positive influences allow them to round out the edges inherent in all of our screwed up personalities and become better, more stable people. As hard as I try and as fortunate as I am to be a little more "feminine" and "nurturing" than most men, Celeste NEEDS happy, positive, feminine influence in her life. I'm grateful for all of the wonderful women in my life who provide that to her and I'm happy to count you among them. You have no idea how comforting that is for me, to be able to add the two of you to the list of people that I can call upon if needed. Just gotta teach you how to install a car seat and get you changing diapers. Ha." - Jim Reverend

"As you can see, I use Disqus now. And... JS-Kit has been replaced with ECHO." - Jim Reverend

"I know, right! I mean... I'm a looker... so there was already a strong possibility. But this surpassed all expectations. :)" - Jim Reverend

"True. At least there is family. (thank you for commenting. I was beginning to wonder if my damn email to blog thing was working or not)" - Jim Reverend

"I think you should have given yourself a nicer ass. Something cut and toned. Tom Cruise ass." - Jim Reverend

"This is a test." - Jim Reverend

"Ferris Wheels are scary. But she was SOOOOO excited about it. I couldn't say no. :)" - Jim Reverend

"Then again... if no one is reading or no one bothers to comment after pandering, maybe it just isn't worth it. Ha." - Jim Reverend

"I think she would enjoy it as well. The next free weekend that she and I are together is the weekend of 10/24." - Jim Reverend

"reply by email is really, really nice. It makes keeping up with comments from a phone so much more possible." - Jim Reverend

"I *think* this thing lets you comment without logging in. I think. Maybe not. I should probably poke around at it more often. I was just SOOOOO tired of the Spam I got without it and being able to reply by email is SOOO useful... that I didn't even think twice about switching." - Jim Reverend

"I'm glad someone is keeping up with my bullshit." - Jim Reverend

"Yeah. Well. Who needs you anyway? :)" - Jim Reverend

"Ta da! You have a photo! And even if you only have ONE eye, it's much more attractive than those two square eyes you had before. And your name is easier to pronounce. :)" - Jim Reverend

"Makes perfect sense. But that's why my comments can't show your name or face, because you've forbidden them from the public. You could always log in with Twitter instead, then you'd at least have a face. :)" - Jim Reverend

"Awww. Thank you. That's really nice to hear." - Jim Reverend

"It does that to you because of your Facebook Privacy settings. Have a look at this for information on how to fix it: http://wiki.disqus.net/Faceboo......" - Jim Reverend

"sure." - Jim Reverend

"That'd be PERFECT and I'd be happy to buy it off you." - Jim Reverend