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Melly - #TeamMarina
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Zulema ❧ spicy cocoa tart
RT @hotdoorknobs: Some before-and-after the California drought realness:
RT @hotdoorknobs: Some before-and-after the California drought realness:
There *was* a lake about 30 miles east of me. I heard it's been there forever, but I only noticed it about 9 years ago. Now, it's pretty much a forest. All the trees that were underwater were uncovered. - Anika
L to tha B
Stupid hiccups.
*jumps out of a bush* BOO! - Soup in a TARDIS
EEEEEEK! - L to tha B
Are they gone? - Soup in a TARDIS
For now. Thanks! - L to tha B
*flex* - Soup in a TARDIS
I'd love to hear everyone's favourite hiccup cures! I'm a big fan of breath-holding. - Melly - #TeamMarina
drink a shot of whiskey, mumble something in "hick-up" aka red neck, shoot two rounds in the air and voila you're cured! - sofarsoShawn
BDH has cancelled her vacation! Now that made them stop!! LOL!! - Jenny
Melly - I drink some water while bent over at the waist. That seems to be the only technique that works for me. - Corinne L
This. Again. - L to tha B
So, yeah. 364 days later. o_O - L to tha B
Guess what's back? - L to tha B from Android
And here we are again. - L to tha B from Android
BOO! - Steven Perez from Android
*throws spider webs into the mix* - Sir Shuping is just sir
'Tis the season. :( - L to tha B from Android
MoTO: Team Marina
You know that thing where your teeange daughter still grins from ear to ear when you sing happy birthday to her and still closes her eyes like she did when she was 6 when blowing out a couple of candles you put on a slice of cake left over from her real party?
Yeah that. - MoTO: Team Marina from Android
*sniff* - MoTO: Team Marina from Android
Somebody's been a good poppa! :) - (Curtis) Alan Jackson
*sniff* DARN, these allergies... - vicster: full-bodied
Victor Ganata
Mondays that masquerade as Tuesdays, man. *flops on the ground*
Michael W. May
An old man on campus waits for his hot, young coed to get out of class @ Ferris State University
An old man on campus waits for his hot, young coed to get out of class @ Ferris State University
Stalker! - Steve C Team Marina
*sagenod* - Michael W. May from Android
Melly - #TeamMarina
Thanks to my awesome Internet stalking skills, I've managed to get in touch with one of my Dad's good friends from his Army days. I haven't seen him since we left Canberra in 1987, but I used to dog-sit his corgi, Tammy, and he would pay me in book store vouchers :oD
Victor Ganata
If you’re a boy writer, it’s a simple rule: you’ve gotta get used to the fact that you suck at writing women and that the worst women writer can write a better man than the best male writer can write a good woman. And it’s just the minimum. Because the thing about the sort of heteronormative masculine privilege, whether it’s in Santo Domingo, or... -
"Every time I’m teaching boys to write, I read their women to them, and I’m like, 'Yo, you think this is good writing?' These motherfuckers attack each other over cliche lines but they won’t attack each other over these toxic representations of women that they have inherited… their sexist shorthand, they think that is observation. They think that their sexist distortions are insight." - Victor Ganata
"And if you’re in a writing program and you say to a guy that their characters are sexist, this guy, it’s like you said they fucking love Hitler. They will fight tooth and nail because they want to preserve this really vicious sexism in the art because that is what they have been taught." - Victor Ganata
"It’s the same way when people write about race. If you didn’t grow up being a subaltern person in the United States, you might need help writing about race. Motherfuckers are like ‘I got a black boy friend,’ and their shit sounds like Klan Fiction 101." - Victor Ganata
"The most toxic formulas in our cultures are not passed down in political practice, they’re passed down in mundane narratives. It’s our fiction where the toxic virus of sexism, racism, homophobia, where it passes from one generation to the next, and the average artist will kill you before they remove those poisons." <— why representation is a big fucking deal - Victor Ganata
"mundane narratives".... *ponders* ... also, is this a verbatim? - MoTO: Team Marina
I think it might be a transcription of a talk. - Victor Ganata
"People know art, always, because they are uncomfortable. Art discomforts. The trangressiveness of art has to deal with confronting people with the real." - Victor Ganata
Doesn't "with the help of a community" seem like just another tired received formula? It reads just like another person trying to pummel their received wisdom into our heads. Which is another way of hiding from the real. - Todd Hoff
In the context of this talk? No.This isn't 'received wisdom,' it's a distillation of his experience as both a writer and a teacher of writing. He's not talking the whole 'wisdom of crowds' meme, he's saying that if you want to write about people that are vastly outside of your experience, falling back on stereotypes is typical, lazy, and bad writing. Better writers will actually talk to people who do have those experiences, rather than assuming a tired cliche covers all they need to know. - Jennifer Dittrich
Yeah, I disagree with this Diaz across the board on this one. Women writers will craft well-written male characters as well as poorly-written male characters. Same with male writers and female characters. I reject such a blanket declaration. - Jed rocks the party.
He's also talking specifically of the context of writing workshops and creative writing classes he's taught, so he's not necessarily talking about a broad, ill-defined "community". - Victor Ganata
Well, I think Diaz is just talking about the dynamics of privilege in general. And while it might read as a blanket declaration, it also sounds like he's run into these things in the workshops he's participated in, the classes he's taught, so it's not just some ill-informed abstraction. - Victor Ganata
Seriously, though, why is the default response to immediately try and invalidate someone's personal experience? When talking about things like this, I don't really think it's necessary to preface it with #notallmen #notallheterosexuals #notallwhitepeople #notallcispeople I think that's just a given. - Victor Ganata
The "real" is just code for saying I know what's truly important and has value. This is shown in the rather narrow and self serving view of art and the declaration of a process you must follow to be accepted as real and thus truly artistic. - Todd Hoff
Maybe so, but this is said in the specific context of resisting what the powers-that-be prescribe as "real". In context, this seems more like a description of a process he's actually participated in, not necessarily some abstract, theoretical, unpracticed universal prescription for "realness". - Victor Ganata
All of my white friends are people who grew up among non-white people. The way they talk and interact is vastly different than white people I know who have always been around just white people. When I write my white people, I base them on friends. In workshops and classes, I've been told by white people of the former group that my white people are 'unrealistic'. Why? Because they've... more... - Anika
I don't read it that way Victor. I read it as a standard that if you fail to meet you are doing it wrong. The problem is found in Anika's experience. Everyone has a different experience of what feels real to them in a character. - Todd Hoff
That's fair. Of course everyone has their own sense of "realness" but there's also the fact that some experiences of realness contribute to problematic representations that have real world negative consequences, and maybe it might be worth examining those experiences instead of clinging to them unexamined. - Victor Ganata
Do you think that process was about examination? An examination could lead to various end results. Here we are told the process and the desired end state of real art. That avoids the real, the real of differentness. It seems like just another layer of simplistic distortion. - Todd Hoff
Yes, I do think it's about examination. Sure, art can be used for lots of different purposes, and sure, all of those different purposes can be valid. But I don't think this is an ontological discussion about what is and what isn't art. - Victor Ganata
I certainly don't think this is a universal prescription for what art should—I think that's reading too much into it and not considering the actual context. What it seems, though, is that it's a discussion about trying to produce art that has fewer unexamined prejudices in them, unexamined prejudices that have actually come up in workshops—actual experiences, not hypothetical constructs. - Victor Ganata
Is this the only central aim in art? No, of course not. But is it an aim worth pursuing? Well, I think that depends on the person. - Victor Ganata
I think you're reading into the article a give that's not there. I've been told any woman can write about my experience without resorting to stereotypes, which I highly doubt, that I've been told women aren't real human beings, which is laughably untrue, and that I went to college thinking women are for doing in both senses, also laughably untrue. The unexamined prejudices are all over... more... - Todd Hoff
Well, OK. I mean, I don't think that's what he's actually saying, but, you're right, that's not in that excerpt. The underlying idea is that regardless of our backgrounds, our class/race/gender/orientation, we all tend to get taught the same default normal concerning people. Yes, of course there are exceptions, yes, of course not everyone is like this, but this really need to be qualified? - Victor Ganata
The thing is, if you're not *actually* one of these default normal people, you still end up absorbing the tropes about what being default normal is about (and, yes they're tropes and cliches but they are literally constantly being reinforced in all forms of media, all the time.) So people who are not default normal often end up constructing both the default normal identity and their own personal identity. - Victor Ganata
Although, again, not everyone successfully does this, and some default normal people can conversely successfully construct ideas about non-default normal people that aren't ridden with pre-packaged stereotypes. - Victor Ganata
So, be insulted if you want, and yeah, the excerpt is deficient because the full context isn't there, but I think there's still something there behind the hyperbolic language, and if you don't want to look at it, that's also fair. - Victor Ganata
Nice twist there. - Todd Hoff
More context if you're truly interested: 'The Baseline Is, You Suck': Junot Diaz on Men Who Write About Women - The Atlantic - Victor Ganata
Interviewer: "It sounds like you're saying that literary 'talent' doesn't inoculate a write—especially a male writer—from making gross, false misjudgments about gender. You'd think being a great writer would give you empathy and the ability to understand people who are unlike you—whether we're talking about gender or another category. But that doesn't seem to be the case." - Victor Ganata
Junot Diaz: "I think that unless you are actively, consciously working against the gravitational pull of the culture, you will predictably, thematically, create these sort of fucked-up representations. Without fail. The only way not to do them is to admit to yourself [that] you're fucked up, admit to yourself that you're not good at this shit, and to be conscious in the way that you create these characters." - Victor Ganata
Diaz: "It's so funny what people call inspiration. I have so many young writers who're like, 'Well I was inspired. This was my story.' And I'm like, 'OK. Sir, your inspiration for your stories is like every other male's inspiration for their stories: that the female is only in there to provide sexual service.' There comes a time when this mythical inspiration is exposed for doing exactly what it's truthfully doing: to underscore and reinforce cultural structures, or I'd say, cultural asymmetry." - Victor Ganata
*dithers over weighing in ... figures, "what the hell"* ... Within the context of young writers and the mistakes they're prone to, and given that Diaz is well respected within his profession, I take his comments seriously. Also given the dreadful representation women get in popular media, I'm guessing he's probably in the ballpark for many professional writers too.Also, isn't there a... more... - MoTO: Team Marina
I mean, I think it would totally be possible for you or I to write a book or short story about a totally clichéd non-default normal person and not be called names. I think we'd be able to get it published and even win awards and critical acclaim and even have a movie made out of it because that pretty much seems to happen all the damn time. So, no, I don't think the "both sides do it" argument flies in this case either. - Victor Ganata
From Barry's Tumblr, I think Gene Yang pretty much touches upon a lot of the same things, though perhaps in a less inflammatory fashion - Victor Ganata
"We have to allow ourselves the freedom to make mistakes, including cultural mistakes, in our first drafts. I believe it’s okay to get cultural details wrong in your first draft. It’s okay if stereotypes emerge. It just means that your experience is limited, that you’re human." - Victor Ganata
"Just make sure you iron them out before the final draft. Make sure you do your homework. Make sure your early readers include people who are a part of the culture you’re writing about. Make sure your editor has the insider knowledge to help you out. If they don’t, consider hiring a freelance editor who does." - Victor Ganata
"And let’s say you do your best. You put in all the effort you can. But then when your book comes out, the Internet gets angry. You slowly realize that, for once, the Internet might be right. You made a cultural misstep. If this happens, take comfort in the fact that even flawed characters can inspire. Apologize if necessary, resolve do better, and move on." - Victor Ganata
I think it just comes down to this: if you're going to write outside of your experience, you're probably going to get it wrong. Expect to be criticized. Perhaps savagely. Especially if you're in a creative writing class that's being taught by Junot Diaz. And hopefully you can make things better before you publish. I suppose the whole asymmetry between the experiences of the privileged vs. the non-privileged (in whatever axis) can be regarded as wholy speculative if you really want/need it to be. - Victor Ganata
I wish I could find the source, but I remember something about George R.R. Martin's introduction of Daenerys Targaryen starting with her thinking about how her boobs felt moving under her shirt. I've also seen him being praised for writing women so realistically. I think sometimes men get too much credit for writing "realistic" women because they are slightly less stereotypical. Just a thought. - Heather
Yeah, and Weiss and Benioff definitely make GRRM look a lot better in comparison. But I don't think it's a *huge* stretch to say there's always room for improvement. - Victor Ganata
Louis Gray
Congrats to Stephen Mack for blowing away the 200k on Fitbit barrier and beating my own all time one day stat! Congrats Burner!
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Thanks, Louis. Almost back from the playa now. - Stephen Mack from iPhone
What are you RUNNING back from the Playa? :-D - vicster: full-bodied
Stephen Mack
Hi FF! I'm back. Had a great time. Missed you all. I don't have my pictures uploaded yet, so in the meantime here's one Paul Buchheit posted to his Facebook timeline, of the immense sculpture "Embrace" burning on Friday morning.
Don't worry, I'll just pull them down from icloud. - Todd Hoff
Paul's caption ( Camilla: "It looks like they have a really intense headache" - Stephen Mack
That was me this morning. - Cristo
Todd and Cristo: :) - Stephen Mack
Todd Hoff
The Police Tool That Pervs Use to Steal Nude Pics From Apple’s iCloud | Threat Level | WIRED -
The Police Tool That Pervs Use to Steal Nude Pics From Apple’s iCloud | Threat Level | WIRED
"On the web forum Anon-IB, one of the most popular anonymous image boards for posting stolen nude selfies, hackers openly discuss using a piece of software called EPPB or Elcomsoft Phone Password Breaker to download their victims’ data from iCloud backups. That software is sold by Moscow-based forensics firm Elcomsoft and intended for government agency customers. In combination with iCloud credentials obtained with iBrute, the password-cracking software for iCloud released on Github over the weekend, EPPB lets anyone impersonate a victim’s iPhone and download its full backup rather than the more limited data accessible on And as of Tuesday, it was still being used to steal revealing photos and post them on Anon-IB’s forum. “Use the script to hack her passwd…use eppb to download the backup,” wrote one anonymous user on Anon-IB explaining the process to a less-experienced hacker. “Post your wins here ;-)”" - Todd Hoff from Bookmarklet
Apple is usually pretty good on security. For a login API to not be protected against a brute force attack is hard to imagine. - Todd Hoff
Jason Toney
Reason eleventy-seven why I won't be watching football. // Michael Sam and the NFL's Virulent Homophobia
Reason eleventy-seven why I won't be watching football. // Michael Sam and the NFL's Virulent Homophobia
Rumor has it he is signing with the Cowboys though! - Chris Topher
Todd Hoff
Why Doctors Are Sick of Their Profession - WSJ -
Why Doctors Are Sick of Their Profession - WSJ
"All too often these days, I find myself fidgeting by the doorway to my exam room, trying to conclude an office visit with one of my patients. When I look at my career at midlife, I realize that in many ways I have become the kind of doctor I never thought I'd be: impatient, occasionally indifferent, at times dismissive or paternalistic. Many of my colleagues are similarly struggling with the loss of their professional ideals." - Todd Hoff from Bookmarklet
"only 6% described their morale as positive." It's no wonder so many self-medicate. - Ken Morley
I wonder how much the internet has contributed to this... Is it harder to feel heroic when your better-informed patients cause you to second-guess yourself? - Ken Morley
The surgery I attend is classified as a training surgery, which essentially means that doctors who have finished their education and done their mandatory time at a hospital work there for a year before they go to their chosen practice. It is a joy to see them so eager before the system has crushed the care out of them. - Slippy
Crush the Care Out should be the name of an all burnt out doctors band. - Micah from FFHound(roid)!
Ken, if as a doctor you have a hero complex rather than a get the person well complex then perhaps you should be doing something else? - Todd Hoff
Well I don't mean to bring the room down but I consider this merely one of the symptoms of middle age. You get tired of doing the same thing you've always done? Shit, Get in line. - MoTO: Team Marina from Android
It is also frustrating when the treatment plans for better health are continually ignored by the patient. - Janet from FFHound!
Isn't the interesting question then is how could treatment plans be structured to be better followed? Typically plans are in the form of orders, which isn't all that helpful. - Todd Hoff
Todd, if you are a diabetic and you are asked to follow a simple diet plan and walk 10 minutes post meal and you don't. If you have asthma and on oxygen and you are asked AND assisted to cease smoking and you do not. How much more structure is needed? I believe in personal accountability but similar to give me something for my headache and then I won't take the medicine. Then I complain about my headache. - Janet
A simple diet plan? It's not a diet change. It's a total change of your life. Everything you've done your whole life is not only wrong, it's killing you. Every meal out, every meal at home, every time you want a snack, every time you are thirsty, every birthday, every holiday, every social situation, everything has changed. How do you make the transition? There's nothing simple about it. - Todd Hoff
Enabler or caretaker. You are preaching to someone who lost loved ones because they would not or could not break their health disorder. Psychological counseling with dietician supplementing better choices? My point is the vicious circle of 'help me doctor' - 'I will not take responsibility for my actions' - 'help me doctor'. I am a burned out healthcare worker, sorry. - Janet from FFHound!
I'm not preaching, I'm saying what my experience has been. I definitely hear you about taking responsibility for your actions. But just giving an edict and tossing up your hands when it's not followed is also avoiding responsibility. How could that ever work? I don't see how psychological counseling with dietician will be effective. People need to learn how they can live their lives completely differently. I don't think that can be done with a visit to get a lecture. - Todd Hoff
People under going weight reduction surgery DO get psychological therapy pre-surgical. It is approaching the mental and physical. Stigma exists for people to openly admit and accept help. - Janet from FFHound!
How effective is it? - Todd Hoff
Very, it is a life changing step they take. We have a very busy bariatric surgeon at our hospital and psychotherapy as well as dietary as well as physical rehab are part of the program. I can count six of my co-workers having success with the full revision surgery. More complications and less success with the lap band. Patients can overeat with those. - Janet
Odd that we don't do that for other interventions? - Todd Hoff
Let's see, it's September.... So I only waited 5 months to get a case for my iPad!
Why no one should freak out about the giant crack that opened in the Mexico desert - The Washington Post -
Why no one should freak out about the giant crack that opened in the Mexico desert - The Washington Post
"On the issue of the huge gaping chasm that opened in the Mexican desert earlier this month, scientists have assured us this does not herald the end of days. The chair of the geology department at the University of Sonora, in the northern Mexican state where this “topographic accident” emerged, said that the fissure was likely caused by sucking out groundwater for irrigation to the point the surface collapsed." - imabonehead from Bookmarklet
nothing to see here, carry on; o' you cant, the roads broke, :/ - chaz2b
Aw, crap. That's where I buried Yog-Sothoth. I knew I should have used a better lock. - Steven Perez from Android
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Jed rocks the party.
Yes, Dad, I want to hear how I've messed up in moving to California and in my job search. While you're at it, yes, please tell me how awesome one of my older brothers is doing in his job and his promotion, the same brother who was a thieving fuck-up until a couple years ago. Grand.
:( - Anne Bouey
C'mon dad, he's in California. He's already won, geographically. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
Also, {big hug} - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
Thank you. :) Just frustrated. Thanks for letting me vent. - Jed rocks the party.
I am mad at your dad. :( - Lisa L. Seifert from iPhone
I'm not super happy with him right now either. :) - Jed rocks the party.
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Let me tell you a story about #athensga... there's a group of older folk that gather round the bus shelter in front of Athens Regional...
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late at night. Nights like tonight, when I'm walking home from Normaltown, I cross Prince Ave there at the crosswalk with the signal...
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and I smile a greeting to them as I push the button and wait for the walk signal. I don't want to intrude on their conversation, though...
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I can't help but overhear updates about family members and friends, some good and some bad, so I face toward the street away from them...
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Then as the light changes and the walk signal comes on, a car is coming fast down the avenue, and either it's the three beers in me or...
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just the tone of their easy conversation all around, I say to the car out loud 'I know you're gonna stop'. And a man says from behind me...
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’Well he might stop, but best you wait for it all the same.' So I do, and he does. Then the walk timer starts counting down from 15, so...
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I start to cross the street, but look back and say 'I know, right?' And another man says, 'These cars out here be crazy sometimes'...
Andy Bakun
Prized for its teeth, the noble saber-toothed cat was hunted to extinction for our telephone-using comfort.
Prized for its teeth, the noble saber-toothed cat was hunted to extinction for our telephone-using comfort.
Andrew C (✔)
RT @shaunking: Federal investigation shows officers lied about motive of killing unarmed men in St. Louis
RT @shaunking: Federal investigation shows officers lied about motive of killing unarmed men in St. Louis
Andrew C (✔)
RT @cliffschecter: Perhaps least surprising headline ever written: "Eric Cantor to Join Wall Street Investment Bank"
L to tha B
Fried bologna and Velveeta biscuit? Really, Hardee's?
ew - ellbeecee
O.o I can assure you they are not selling that at their western counterparts *gag* - Soup in a TARDIS
Hwarf. - Marie
suddenly it's 1974 and i'm visiting my classmate in his mom's single-wide. - Big Joe Silence
Fried bologna DEFINITELY. The other, NO! - Jenny
velveeta was too posh for the mid-70s trailer-set. you had to live in a roach and rat infested rent house for that. like my family did. we ate "longhorn cheddar" instead, tho. - Big Joe Silence
*side eyes Jenny so hard* - Soup in a TARDIS
Don't you side eye me, Girl! I grew up in the South. It's a southern food. :-) - Jenny
I like regular bologna but not fried so much. - L to tha B from Android
Don't do regular bologna. *Side eyes LB* - Jenny
My bologna has a first name and it is not F-R-I-E-D - Soup in a TARDIS
All I see here, is cheese biscuits and fried bologna. And that sounds fucking delicious. I love cheese biscuits and I love salted meats. - NOT THE CRICKET
o_O - Steven Perez
My childhood was all about fried bologna. I have no idea what a Velveeta biscuit is. Sounds scary. - Anika
The Velveeta is sliced and put on the biscuit with fried bologna and egg, it appears. - L to tha B from Android
LOL No. See, I just watched a drama where a dude took a cookie, put a slice of cheese and tinned salmon on top, then microwaved it. This sounds a lot like that. - Anika
Fried is the only way I like bologna. My mom didn't buy it so I learned about it at other kids' houses. Everybody ate it but us, white kids, black kids, Mexican kids. I was so jealous of their bologna & miracle whip & wonder bread & cheese singles! - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
BTW, fried bologna is best when slightly burnt around the edges and put with mustard! - Jenny
Cut the edges three times so it'll stay flat! - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
I would not eat bologna unless it is fried. It just takes the bologna edge off. - Laura Norvig
Two different tennis channels going and both have the same match WTF!!!
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