Also, the small letters say something weird like "I am safety driver"
- Paul Buchheit
I'm guessing that was the only place they could get the magnet to stick
- Maggie
I've started seeing magnets on car gas tank doors in D.C. - but they tend to be shaped like sports balls - specifically soccer or basketball.
- Sarah Miller
from iPhone
Looking sharp! Good luck! So, you have a video phone?
- Nik
No, today's just a phone interview Nik, but I'm hoping to get called in for a face-to-face. I've had the thing since college, hence the question on whether it would fit or not. Probably needs to go to the cleaners if today goes well...
- FFing Enigma (aka Tina)
I've realized a small problem: I don't think I own any run-free pantyhose. As we're also now out of orange juice, I guess I'll muster enough energy to go to the store for both a little later on.
- FFing Enigma (aka Tina)
Tina! Pantyhose? Skirt? WTF??!! Thankfully those days are gone. I'm tellin' ya.
- anna sauce
Luckily I don't think it's a pantyhose job, more a 'business casual'. But, interview in clothes a notch above the company's daily norm is what I've always heard...
- FFing Enigma (aka Tina)
I stopped wearing my skirt suit because (as this thread shows) it just sends the girlie message a bit too hard. Now I do slacks, suit jacket, and nice top underneath. Glasses not contacts. If your'e curvy (like I am, and it looks like you are) you don't have to sex up the office clothes at all.
- anna sauce
It's a really nice suit and you look great- a women's tech group I am in talk about this *all the time* and in the early 90s there was a definite shift out of the skirt for reasons above. I mean, it's all in the impression. Since I'm going for tech roles, it's a tad different. If I was going for marketing, I'd vamp up a bit more. I'm more "trying to be taken seriously," though now that I'm older that's a little less of a worry than I was in my 20s trying to get a programming job!
- anna sauce
The best advice I got was- "dress for the pay you want". You may not want to out-dress your workplace, as that may send triggers of "she doesn't fit in." It's an interesting line. For corporate environments, definitely wear a suit (dress/skirt or slacks) for small companies, I'd go more for fitting in, but definitely show that you care and put effort into it (and dress for the pay you want).
- anna sauce
Well, it is a corporate job so a suit is appropriate if I get a face to face interview. An unfortunately, the skirt suit is the only one I have. Without my income and without even having my first unemployment check, I'm not in a position to buy a new one right now.
- FFing Enigma (aka Tina)
I sometimes do office visit interviews for my large IT company and I see skirts and pants. If it was my interview, I'd wear a knee length skirt.
- Sarah Miller
from iPhone
@anna "dress for the pay you want". I have to remember that.
- Nik
Wear your suit during the phone interview. You will magically come across as a true professional.
- m9m, Crone of FriendFeed
Coming late to the party - but it's gorgeous, and so are you. You'll knock 'em dead.
- MaryB, BrandingBroadOfFF
Very nice! Academia must be ultra-conservative this way b/c we are told to avoid showing our knees in our interview wear. Partly because of the pantyhose/shiny knee conundrum, but also because of how it might look when you sit down. Most initial interviews are done at our big conference, either at the conference job center or in hotel suites/rooms. You never know where you might be...
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- Katy S
Miracle Whip if only because there is a brick building on my street with a MW ad painted like a billboard. It says "don't be so mayo. We are Miracle whip and we will nit tone it down". Cracks me up every time I see it.
- Sarah Miller
from iPhone
Unfortunately, I have no energy for argument...err I mean vigorous debate.
- Alex Scoble
Padma Lakshmi vs. Tom Colicchio: Tom, bitches.
- Derrick
Trish, I've been to LA 4 times since I started this job. I've only been to SF once. I need to go to SF more. And LA people need to step up.
- ha3rvey (doesn't dance)
Do you ever shop at a corner market? You know, places that carry basic and unique grocery items? Do you have one in your neighborhood? Is it popular? What sort of things would be necessary for a good corner market?
My whole neighborhood is corner markets/liquor stores! Within walking distance (a couple of blocks) I have 12 of them plus 2 butcher shops! Expand out to 1/2 a mile and it's amazing so many of these places can stay in business. I only go them in a pinch (namely for smokes or alcohol). For my groceries or household items I go to the grocery store, Target, etc...The ones I do frequent are clean, brightly lit and have a nice selection of stock.
- Admiral Anika
I live across from Super Mercado #1 and it's where I buy fresh tortillas and Coca Colas made with real sugar cane. I also live in Oak Cliff, so a walk anywhere around here takes you back to Bonnie & Clyde or the Oswald days.
- Jackye Chan
My corner market is an ALDIs and I"m not a fan.
- sean808080
We love ALDI, good value ,their chips are great and so cheap. Frozen chicken is good value along with butter etc. Im surprised you don't like it Sean
- batsabode
The closest store to my house is a Trader Joe's, which I like, but sometimes you just want some Doritos, so for that I go to the Vons. Both are extremely popular, but I'm also a mile away from a college so tons of students, etc. I'd love to be close to a butcher. I also go to farmer's markets for my produce.
- Derrick
We get fresh tofu every Thursday from a tiny store run by family friends. It's not in the neighborhood, but everything in town isn't far. There must be at least 4 Mexican super markets too.
- Rodfather
Yes, Mayflower market in SF. Fresh produce, deli with good sandwiches, and lots of greek and italian speciality items make it great. Also, open early in the morning. 7:30am-9:30pm I believe, seven days a week. And you can ask them to carry stuff for you if you're a regular customer.
- Cristo
In Santa Cruz, I absolutely love New Leaf Market
- Rodfather
The reason I ask is because we have nothing like it in our town. We have two huge grocery stores at the northernmost end of town, but nothing downtown and nothing near thousands of people. There's a building open that could work nicely, but I already have an 80-hour a week job....
- Ben Hanten
In Cleveland I had a favorite corner beer and smokes place that also had an impressive wine and snacks section - good for impromptu house parties. In Chicago, I have small groceries, but they mostly contain obscure and/or expensive items. It's nice to have convenient yuppie food like arugula and brie, but the assortment is odd and never seems to have all the items one would need for a complete meal.
- Sarah Miller
from iPhone
and what if the bug is in the leadership?!!
- abdellah
Then I would like to kindly offer up a report of my 'everyone' privacy setting not making status updates available on my public, world viewable profile (even though FB warns me every time that it will).
- FFing Enigma (aka Tina)
cool you`re in San Mateo now at Facebook!!!!!
- sofarsoShawn
Mike, in your privacy settings there are options to make profile, status updates, etc. viewable to 'everyone'. The privacy FAQ on FB says setting it to 'everyone' will make those items viewable to the entire internet, even people without a FB account. That is not, however, what is actually happening.
- FFing Enigma (aka Tina)
Benjamin, there is this bug - I can't get "facebook.com/torque" - can you help me?
- τorƍue
You can start with the email notifications! ;) They aint like the FF ones.
- Kreg Steppe
Here's one: when someone sends you a friend request, there's a box you check to say if you want that person to be in your feed. Regardless of whether that box is checked or not, the person will show up in your feed. That is annoying
- Becca
If you seek Zuckerbum....give him a swift kick in the nuts for me...no no, just kidding, tell him hey, from Shawn.
- sofarsoShawn
Benjamin, considering your expertise, I'll take a look at Facebook's mobile interface and see if improvements are warranted.
- John E. Bredehoft
from fftogo
ok, their real time search engine suck. and what they are using bing for web search?!!
- abdellah
One other Ben..when you go to your friends list and check to add them to your SMS list, it doesn't take the first two or three times...Eventually it does but it's very frustrating to have to keep going back and adding friends to your SMS list..
- Bill Heslin
Tina, ah, that was why I asked. I was playing with those settings and tried it from logged out browsers and was like WTH? Does "everyone" mean "everyone on facebook"? Guess so.
- mikepk
Hilarious. sorry. No that I doubt your enthusiasm ONE BIT.
- anna sauce
Ummm... if you get started on this, you may have to set up a cot at work... you won't be going home for a while...
- Paula W
Yes, Paula W. Truth. Get a comfy one for the body. The brain will compensate for sleep deprivation. Eventually.
- Michele Lorito-Chase
Could you start by reverting to the previous version of their UI? No, seriously! So many people I know (myself included) no longer use FB because it's too easy to miss things. The previous timeline view was much easier
- Anthony
I'm going to start calling you Bug instead of Dude. Nahhh, you'll always be my dude, Dude.
- Marci Golub
Can you fix the annoying "Write a Comment" tooltip? It stays up WHILE you are commenting (sometimes covering your comment text).
- Chris Myles
++ John, Why can't I delete messages from the FB mobile interface?
- Sarah Miller
from iPhone
Not a bug... more a wishlist... I wish oh how I wish for a native Symbian FB app...
- Pandu ● IT Optimizer
Same here Pandu. I'd like a Symbian FriendFeed application more, though
- Tyson Key
Tyson, have you been reading my mind?? xD Although since Ben's talking about FB, I limit my post to FB. And besides, for the time being, http://www.fftogo.com/ is sufficient for my needs :-)
- Pandu ● IT Optimizer
It's an Arnold Palmer. Jerimiah Weed sweet tea flavor vodka + lemonade is very popular in Chicago this summer - they call them John Dalys.
- Sarah Miller
from iPhone
I spent six days on trains (Los Angeles to Chicago and back) earlier this summer. While my father in law noted that the dining service wasn't where it used to be, it was 100 times better than the current domestic airline food service.
- John E. Bredehoft
Last Train Home http://www.youtube.com/watch... Great grandfather was a RR man. Something goes through me, a straight-through joy, when I ride a train or listen to the songs about them
- Melanie Reed
Favorite reason to take the train: I was commuting back and forth to Portland from SF. In the mountains, we lost an engine. I was in the dining car with a few random passengers in my booth. An announcement came on- we lost an engine, enjoy an extra drink on us, it'll be a longer ride. So we asked one of our companions, over a bottle of wine, the college plans of each kid in the JV basketball team he coached. It was so excellent.
- anna sauce
Not misquoting, just having fun with grammar.
- Akiva Moskovitz
Akiva that's a game my friends and I play- you forward a long email (usually from a person in authority- makes it funnier) and swap out one strategic word, or letter. But usually we do it to make fun of someone... not really each other...
- anna sauce
I didn't realize I was making fun of anyone.
- Akiva Moskovitz
I think there was a time when air travel was romantic. The days when stewards had smart uniforms and seating wasn't completely crammed. But nowadays the big TSA shakedown, the cattle call to line up in groups, the rise in items stolen by baggage handlers, the fact that you are absolutely trapped if you happen to be seated next to someone with really awful parenting skills, the general...
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- Spidra Webster
Spidra, all good points. It's precisely why I fly first class. It's the only way air travel is tolerable anymore.
- Akiva Moskovitz
I love the train. I wish we had a reason to take a train trip someplace.
- Rochelle
We need a reason? I figured taking the train was reason enough to take the train.
- Akiva Moskovitz
I wish some billionaire would get behind train travel in this country, dammit. Napa/Sonoma is a perfect destination for trains to be going to. Instead there's a Napa Valley Wine Train that doesn't really go anywhere. I mean, it's cool that the guy renovated the track and runs it, but having a train that went from SF & Vallejo to the wine country would be SMART.
- Spidra Webster
That wine train is a complete joke, ha.
- anna sauce
And better than being in a plane during a hurricane!
- joey
But it's a part of Logan that only has 3 gates, so the only food available inside security is at a newsstand.
- Gabe
If it's more than 4 hours, it may be worth leaving the secure area and walking back in later.
- Tudor Bosman
But it's possible that at any given moment my flight will get clearance and can leave in 20 minutes. That means I need to be in the area, or I risk not being able to get a flight until 8pm tomorrow.
- Gabe
better than spending forever in a dirt-nap, my friend.
- MikeAmundsen
Just after I posted last, they called to board my flight. I've never seen a plane board so fast! But alas, it was still too slow, and we lost our spot so we had to wait an extra half hour at the gate. Then the flight took an extra half hour to go arond the storm, getting in 2 hours late.
- Gabe
Occupancy sensors -- they turn off the AC after you've been gone for a few minutes, and only turn it back on when you return. This means your room is boiling hot or freezing cold every day for the first few hours you're in it.
- Gabe
Mag-stripe keys that stop working after rubbing coins or keys in your pocket all day
- Gabe
Gabe - I live in hotels 200+ days a year and at first I drew a complete blank. I'll have to say it's a tie between cheap TP and never enough cold diet cola in the lounge.
- Sarah Miller
from iPhone
Bathroom light switches that are outside the bathroom -- WTF?
- Gabe
Also - if you want your room cold/hot when you get there, call on your way home and tell them you have a baby. Hotels will do a million things if you just ask. Also - always sign up for their loyalty program in advance even if you'll never stay again.
- Sarah Miller
from iPhone
Sarah: Funny you should mention the baby -- one of the hotels I stayed in last month put a crib in my room.
- Gabe
Towels that are not within arm's reach of the shower
- Gabe
No fridge at all in the room, and no room service.
- Cristo
"Hi speed" internet, that isn't. I stayed in a Radisson one time that claimed "hi speed" internet (circa 2002), it turned out to be 56k dialup. They handed me a dialup # when I arrived and told me I'd be charged for using the phone. Pfft!
- Ray Cromwell
No ethernet plug. Only slow wireless access.
- Cristo
In a way I'm glad I'm not the only one, but OTOH I know it sucks so I'm not glad I'm not the only one. Boy, that made a lot more sense in my head...
- FFing Enigma (aka Tina)
You're definitely not the only one feeling that way. I guess the trick is to find someone else, who you can work with and complements your talents/skills/interests, and set up together.
- James Myatt
I'll add my "me too" reply. I've done a Team Management Index test to find out what my work personality was. In short, it said I like starting things and being involved but need to be able to pass on the work to someone else for implementation. Now to find a job that matches! :)
- CAJ, somewhere else
from iPhone
Curtis, that's it EXACTLY. The 'finding a job that matches' part is always the hurdle, though =/ When I worked at MCI they had a whole department that fit this work style and I was *this* close to being able to apply with them when they shut my call center down. Grrr...
- FFing Enigma (aka Tina)
Most large companies have a group of project based resources in their IT dept. and if I ever left consulting it is what I would want to do. These employees have knowledge about the company's systems and businsess processes and work on new implementations, upgrades, etc. One path is to become an technical expert that gets farmed out to various projects as a SME. Another path is to get...
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- Sarah Miller
Okay I totally went in another direction with this, but the good thing is, Ben made us all laugh. <3
- DO ANYBODY NO MONIQUE
I love that FriendFeed is still launching new stuff - this says something.
- Jesse Stay
I'll trust that it 'says something' when it's a few weeks from now or after the FF devs are off doing FB things. Whatever's happening now is stuff that they had in the pipe to be released anyway before this 11th hour sell-out happened.
- Akiva Moskovitz
Thank you Benjamin for fftogo. I am glad that FF was smart enough to pick you up for this ride and truly hope you have a starring role in what's to come. Cheers
- Andrew Smith
from fftogo
It's like that 80's game show where the contestants would chant "big money, big money, nooooooo whammies". At least that's what I'm thinking when new code gets pushed.
- Sarah Miller
I guess it is time to block Akiva, his whining is getting pretty annoying
- Shakeel Mahate
I wish his character was Donaghe - sadly, it's Donaghy. :( LOL - still awesome to hear my name all the time on my favorite sitcom!
- Internet's Tad
Hehe, Tad...My bad...For some reason I thought his name was spelled same as yours, LOL.
- Alex Scoble
from IM
Because that's how awesome Jack is
- Alex Scoble
from IM
I remember being disappointed when I found it was spelled differently. But still - same pronunciation!
- Internet's Tad
And when Jack meets Liz Lemon's parents and he thinks they are putting him on and they think he's funny...another great scene.
- Alex Scoble
That storyline also produced my favourite merchandising T-shirt ever, one which I actually bought and proudly wear. =) Alex, if you're not fully caught up yet, you might want to avoid clicking on this, as it'd be a spoiler: http://www.nbcuniversalstore.com/detail...
- Andrew C
Love it! They just used Star Wars to explain the "uncanny valley" principle.
- Alex Scoble
"It's business drunk...it's like rich drunk...either way it's legal to drive" --Jack Donaghy
- Alex Scoble
And the story arc where Tracy comes up with a porn video game? Effin' brilliant!
- Alex Scoble
"This corporation has a very strict 'bros before hos' policy."
- Andrew C
Alex, I'm going to have to be careful not to get too many spoilers from your feed; we are on season 2 right now in netflix, and they just introduced CC. 30 Rock is way better than we thought it would be
- Clare Dibble
Clare - wait until you see the Cleveland episode!
- Sarah Miller
from iPhone
We already saw the Cleveland episode. It was very funny.
- Robert Felty
We've eaten at so many yummy restaurants since we arrived, so I don't know how much more we can cram in before we leave - but I'm willing to bear what I can for the sake of stimulating the economy.
- Jeanette Bosman
Hit the hot springs resorts around Calistoga.
- Spidra Webster
Hike in Bothe Napa Valley State Park, between St Helena and Calistoga. Beautiful.
- Sheila Taylor
Any interest in automobile racing?-- when I was there last fall I dropped into Infineon Raceway and watched some testing sessions.
- Brian Sullivan
I'm not sure Jim's family would be an improvement over the dentist; after all, his dad is in the business of putting people to sleep!
- Anne Bouey
Castello di Amorosa, Mumm Napa (fine art photography collection), The Hess Collection (art collection and winery), Old Faithful geyser, di Rosa Preserve (if here Tuesday), Petrified Forest, Bale Grist Mill at Bothe State Park, Skyline Wilderness Park, Robert Louis Stevenson State Park (hike to top of Mt. St. Helena), Napa Valley Museum, Napa River Adventures
- Anne Bouey
go to Point Reyes on the way back for great views of the shore, trekking through the park, seals, wild elk. It's very windy, but worth it.
- Sarah Miller
from iPhone
While you're still there - an olive oil tasting at Round Hill may be a nice break from wine.
- Sarah Miller
from iPhone
Thanks all! We're checking out many of these options.
- Jeanette Bosman
In case you're curious: the other derby warpaint I bought last night (other than the popular lipstick choice) was silver creme eyeshadow and a dual green eyeliner (one dark June Bug green and one lighter glittery green). I tried everything on and then washed everything off, and still have glitter all over me. This could prove troublesome.
LOL! I've heard that too and pretty much agree. Turns out the really glittery eye pencil doesn't show up well so I likely won't be using it much for bouts.
- FFing Enigma (aka Tina)
Urban Decay makes some glitter eyeliner that has such big glitter chunks that I am amazed it doesn't result in eye injury. Good luck with your derby debut! http://www.sephora.com/browse...
- Sarah Miller
I've heard the herpes theory too so it must be true!
- R1CC1
Glitter is horrible to try to remove, especially nail polish. The stuff is like armor. If you want something without glitter, and lots of control over the color shades & strength, what you can do is buy a thick liquid foundation makeup of the fairest shade and mix in some non-toxic childrens tempra paint till it's the exact color you want. Don't use around eye area though and stay away...
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- April Russo (app103)
I just subscribed to my employer on FF. Browsing the other subscribers for anyone I might know, I noticed that Kim Kardashian is a fellow subscriber. I've seen her show on E! and never would have guessed she was was interested in IT services.
The bride didn't get to have nearly enough fun with that!
- Rachel Lea Fox
awww... (did anyone else get a little misty-eyed watching that, or was I the only one?)
- Andrew Terry
Andrew: I definitely started to tear up a bit. It just looks like they are so happy!
- Benjamin Golub
What a sweet idea. Definitely unforgettable.
- April Buchheit
I got super misty eyed. I loved that they had so much fun with their entrance.
- EricaJoy
Hrm....nice, but now it makes me wanna do the Thriller dance up the aisle....
- Rahsheen ™, Coach Rah
I *always* cry at weddings, even with something this fun and whimsical.
- Derrick
I wonder how many wedding rehearsals they had to have.
- Gabe
I have seen much more dancing at a baptist church service.
- EricaJoy
from IM
Sean: It might be completely appropriate for them, their beliefs, and the people they invited to their wedding. Not to mention that I'm sure the church knew about it before hand and was ok with it too.
- Benjamin Golub
Interestingly enough, when I showed this to my boyfriend, his response was "they aren't taking their wedding seriously." He couldn't answer me as to why serious equates to solemn in his head. I suspect it has something to do with his Catholic school upbringing. He denies that, of course.
- EricaJoy
I was in a wedding where the entrance to the reception was kind of like that. The whole bridal party (except for me and the recovering alcoholic) was totally trashed. The wedding party thought they were really funny. Their friends found them mildly funny. The relatives were not at all amused.
- Robert Felty
Speaking as the son of a man who got married on a carousel (I carried a Snoopy doll carrying a pillow with the rings on it) I thoroughly approve. Houses of worships encompass the breadth of society, and celebrate the diversity of the human condition. To say that they should cast even our most joyous occasions as serious and solemn is to be far sillier than this wedding was.
- Kevin Fox
Meh. Your wedding should be what you want it to be.
- Kevin Fox
++ Kevin a wedding should be about the couple and who they are. It should be about them joining their lives together. If that means they join in dance, then why shouldn't that be part of the wedding? Kevin and I took photographs of each other, our wedding party and our guests from the alter. Photography is a huge part of who we are together and we wanted that as part of our ceremony....
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- Rachel Lea Fox
Yes, no one else should even THINK of trying to determine how others should get married, unless he/she's asked for his/her opinion. That's THEIR day. Why people think weddings should be dull events in uncomfortable clothing is totally beyond me. You'll have the rest of your life to get shoved into conformity.
- MiniMage TKDteacher of FF
Oops, now *I'm* doing it, sort of. People, I want to say I completely support your right to have a dull wedding in uncomfortable clothing, even if I can't comprehend it. Have fun! -- er, or no fun, you know, whatever makes you feel truly married :)
- MiniMage TKDteacher of FF
This was so fun. It reminded me of a friend's wedding last fall. The bride and her father did Devo's Safety Dance as the father/bride dance. It was instantly clear where the bride got her dance moves as well as her sense of humor.
- Sarah Miller
Hey, 87 is an improvement over the 90s it has been at this hour for the last week.
- Alex Scoble
Having spent most of my life without A/C, my best advice it to get some gel filled icepacks. Place on the top of your head before you go to sleep. It's like the opposite of wearing a hat outside in the winter.
- Sarah Miller
For all the single people out there...the best advice I can give you is to do what you like to do. Whatever your hobbies, join a group that does the same thing. Make friends. Friends lead to romantic relationships. Don't waste your time with dating.
Make friends assumes the people you discover in your 'niche' will like you.
- Mo Kargas
However, I strongly recommend flirting.
- Glen Mistletoe
I just went with the asexual route but I guess that works also. Add: I don't have to worry about any nagging or having to please someone else.
- Jimminy
Well, chances are there's at least one person out there who likes your hobbies that thinks you are OK, regardless of your personal foibles.
- Alex Scoble
Hehe, Derrick, we did not just have the same conversation..."these are not the droids you are looking for"
- Alex Scoble
most (but not all) of the other musicians i know are miserable, anti-social, back-stabbing jerks who i trust about as far as i can comfortably spit out a week-dead rat.
- Joe Silence is not Santa
"Hi, I'm gay. Oh, you're gay too? Do you want to be gay together?"
- Derrick
One of my gf's joined a coed hockey team and that's how she met her husband. I prolly like spending too much time alone and get in my own way.
- Gabrielle V
how about joining a group that doesn't do the same thing?
- adam garrett
LOL, Adam, that's up to you on what to join. Just try to be a bit zen about it. Love comes looking for your if you aren't looking too hard for it.
- Alex Scoble
Thanks Alex. It hasn't been suggested that I be zen about anything in quite a while. I try not to be Johnny Lee. (Lookin' for Love)
- adam garrett
This works if your hobby isn't typically antisocial, such as computer gaming...
- Philip Evans
from twhirl
Heh, yeah, you've got to actually get out there and meet people to meet someone special. They are MOST LIKELY not going to come knocking on your door. That's a little too zen.
- Alex Scoble
from IM
@Alex: music is also a hobby, it's the OTHER consuming passion in my life. thankfully, i've not been single in a long time.
- Joe Silence is not Santa
I don't live life expecting to meet someone. When I do, I do - not too worried about being coupled or single...but that's me. I just need the internet ;)
- Mona Nomura
It’s funny you should bring this up right now. I don't know where to start, except to say that the last three days have been interesting. Three days ago, I received a request on Facebook to add a girl I haven't seen or heard from in years. I was apprehensive at first, because she was a close friend with my ex. Against my better judgment; I decided to add her, in the hopes my ex had...
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- Michael Fidler
Sorry, but you lost me at needy...what's wrong with that? :)
- Alex Scoble
from IM
There's a good kind, or healthy kind of need, and another type which requires constant attention. They can never be alone. It's gets to the point of being obsessive. I hope you understand the difference. She has to be in a relationship or she isn't happy. I think you have to be happy with yourself as an individual first, if your ever going to add something to a relationship.
- Michael Fidler
Excellent advice. I use my camera to meet people and share common experiences. If I had a puppy I would be Golden.
- Russellreno
I think this is good advice, but not because I think people will actually find "the one" this way. It is good because putting yourself out there to meet new ppl or try new things tends to result in being a happy, self sufficient person and thus an attractive candidate for partnership.
- Sarah Miller
from iPhone
I thought that you were supposed to put a ring on it. Hm.
- Wirehead
I was sure you were going to give the advice not to get married. ;)
- Cristo
I'm wanting to respond, but cautious, because not that long ago I was what I'd probably have termed "involuntarily single." And I'm trying to think of what I can say that wouldn't annoy 3-or-4-years-ago me. For me, the key was being myself, ACCEPTING myself, and accepting that I *could* live a perfectly happy life as a single man if I didn't find the right person. And I know that last acceptance is the most difficult, but I think it's the most important, too, IMO.
- Scott of Two Countries
Scott, I agree after having someone that I spent nearly a quarter of my life with pulled away from me it was hard, but I finally decide I'm fine by myself if that happens.
- Jimminy
I believe it's very important to be good with being by yourself first. Knowing you don't 'need' someone around to have a good life. Makes it easier to recognize when you've made a mistake and jumped a little too soon. :) And makes it easier to see the good ones when they do finally come along. Be good with yourself, then you can be good together. Then the mutual interests come into play nicely.
- Bette Cooper
++ Scott, Jimminy, Bette. Exactly what I wanted to say.
- Sarah Miller
from iPhone
My husband and I don't have much in terms of shared interests or hobbies, although we do have shared values and goals. We were both happy with ourselves first (before we met). I found a dating website helpful because it made it clear we were on a date when we met up. There was none of this "does he like me, or does he just like the same things I do?" ambiguity.
- Clare Dibble
I met every woman I had a romantic interest in this way. "Dating" / the "singles scene" sucks.
- Trent Hamm
Neither dates nor friendships have worked for me since high school. All the relationships I've had since have resulted from hookups. Including the girl I'm currently seeing. Sad but true.
- LANjackal
from IM
Good advice, and I'd add that if you want a relationship but can't find anyone worthy who's into you (and you did put forth effort) it's probably because you need to work on yourself first. It's unreasonable to expect a non-crazy person to want you if you don't have it together yourself. And you bet I learned this the hard way, getting into a string of disasters because I couldn't face...
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- Lo is not learning
Funny, a female friend and I were having a conversation about that same issue last night: serial dating vs. developing yourself/self-improvement
- LANjackal
from IM
Do whatever it takes to stay that way. :) Divorce is expensive.
- Alex Scoble
from IM
Exactly...it should happen organically.
- Alex Scoble
from IM
Good advice, organic has worked for me. But I know several couples who met via personal ads/internet dating, including a couple whose wedding I officiated. I think there's nothing desperate or wrong to go that route.
- Maria Niles
I agree. Nothing wrong about specifically looking for a relationship. However I do have a problem with the practice of swinging from relationship to relationship as some people do
- LANjackal
from IM
Yeah, I don't think you should cut yourself off from online dating venues because you never know where that special someone will come from, but I do think that meeting people doing what you like to do is a much better way.
- Alex Scoble
from IM
One of my hobbies is drinking beer. I meet lots of interesting people at the pub.
- Nick B.
+1. I meet 98% of the girls I know from bars and clubs too. I'm often criticized for this and told that I'll never meet a decent girl that way, but I love going out and partying and I'm not the outdoors, artsy, library, book club, gym or playing sports (the usual suggestions I get) type. Partying (NOT getting trashed, I'm rarely wasted) is just what I do for fun and I love it. Whoever I get with is just gonna have to be OK with that or we'll never work
- LANjackal
from IM
Alex: good advice. Divorce is expensive. :)
- Valley
Then do friendfeed get togethers in your area.
- Alex Scoble
from IM
I think you're referring to all of us in that statement, lol I deliberately shut my laptop lid when the current girl's around unless I'm queueing up some music
- LANjackal
from IM
Some of us are perfectly happy on our own, of course.
- Slappy Line
My hobby is using Friendfeed. And I have 500+ friends there. So it shouldn't be long before those friendships lead to romantic relationships, right?
- Brome
I've always found this kinda odd. Women are everywhere; the supermarket, Starbucks, church, Twitter, school, etc. The same goes for my women friends who complain about how hard it is to meet a great guy. Just look around you.
- Mark Davidson
from BuddyFeed
You're right ! I think I have a kind of romance on blip.fm :-)
- lotre demedeu
You can also get lucky online. I met my man through Plenty of Fish. We've been together for almost a year and a half now. Helps that we have some interests in common. We just clicked immediately, like we'd known each other for years.
- Kamilah Gill
According to TV adverts in the UK: "2% of Americans who married in the last year met using eHarmony"
- Slappy Line
That's bizarre Slippy, of course their contribution to the divorce rate should be included for the number to have meaning. Surprised that's not in the ad too...
- Lo is not learning
There are two types of schedule, which I’ll call the manager’s schedule and the maker’s schedule.
- Bindu Reddy
from Bookmarklet
Perhaps it's my manager bias, but it doesn't have to be all or nothing. My day is planned in 1 hr blocks, but my team is not - so I try to have standing meetings first thing in the morning or just after lunch to avoid breaking their day into uselessly small chunks. Programmers and other makers - how can managers make meetings less disruptive?
- Sarah Miller
from iPhone
Been there, done that, got the T-shirt. And only since a year ago too :(
- CannonGod
from BuddyFeed
I remember a while back the Today Show or some other morning TV had chefs make meals that would fit in the budget of a family on food stamps. I agree with the blogger - a little planning and creativity go a long way.
- Sarah Miller
from iPhone
OH: elderly woman 1- "I won't put money in any of these big banks that failed us. That's why I use the credit union. Elderly woman 2 - I totally agree. Not after they took all that government money. Oh, but I did just get a new account at Citi because they gave me 20k frequent flier miles. EL 1 - Really? What kind of account?
My mom made great crabcakes by following the recipe on the Old Bay box - and leaving out the Old Bay. Our Subway shop puts it on tuna and seafood subs by request. And Heather - never boil crabs! Steam them.
- m9m, Crone of FriendFeed
Wow - when did Old Bay get so popular? We used to have to explain this stuff to out-of-towners.
- m9m, Crone of FriendFeed
@alex but, i thought only whimps prefer old bay on steamed blue crabs laid out on yesterday's newspaper
- ishak
Yep, in Maryland they have this at the Subway shops. Put that heavily onto a seafood and crab sub and you're in for a treat. Goes great on pasta salads and any seafood. Makes me miss Maryland.
- Josh Haley
When friends move out of Maryland we send them Care Packages of Old Bay and Tastykakes.
- m9m, Crone of FriendFeed
*sigh* Tastykakes - chocolate juniors by the case when I am on my deathbed.
- Janet
Yam and coconut sounds good. I make a fake poi with sweet potatoes and coconut milk and lots of butter...It's a really good combination anyway. I'd eat this ice cream even though it does look kinda gross in the picture. EDIT: Oh! I clicked through and that IS gross... spaghetti and cheese? ugh!
- Trish Haley
OK, you're right Rochelle. The rest are disgusting. I considered the chili pepper ice cream until it mentioned the tomato flavored base. And why would anyone eat horse ice cream?
- Christopher Harley
Definitely click through for some seriously gross and weird flavors. Salad ice cream is wrong on so many levels.
- Trish Haley
"Calorie counts on food labels around the world are based on a system developed in the late 19th century by American chemist Wilbur Olin Atwater. Atwater calculated the energy content of various foods by burning small samples in controlled conditions and measuring the amount of energy released in the form of heat. To estimate the proportion of this raw energy that was used by the body, Atwater calculated the amount of energy lost as undigested food in faeces, and as chemical energy in the form of urea, ammonia and organic acids found in urine, and then he subtracted these figures from the total. Using this method, Atwater estimated that carbohydrates and protein provide an average of 4 kcal per gram, while fat provides 9 kcal per gram. With a few modifications, these measurements of what is known as metabolisable energy have been the currency of food ever since. We know these values are approximate. Nutritionists are well aware that our bodies don't incinerate food, they digest it....
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- April Buchheit
from Bookmarklet
"Just 20 kcal per day more than you need can add up to roughly a kilogram of fat over a year." Yaaaaaaaargh.
- Andrew C
The other thing is that the energy cost will vary from person to person as well. So what's the solution?
- Victor Ganata
It seems like glycemic index is an attempt to move away from the calorie test, but ideally it would be done on you. "The glycemic index (GI) is a measure of the power of foods (or specifically the carbohydrate in a food) to raise blood sugar (glucose) levels after being eaten. The GI values of foods must be measured using valid scientific methods. It cannot be guessed by looking at the composition of the food." from http://www.glycemicindex.com/
- Clare Dibble
So when a food has 0 calories, does that mean it doesn't burn?
- Gabe
It seems to put science behind the idea that whole, raw foods - uncooked veggies, whole grains, etc. are better than highly processed foods. How many months until someone writes a popular diet book and makes raw or macrobiotic the new Atkins?
- Sarah Miller
from iPhone
Sarah, I saw a TV show where they cooked some foods and found they had more nutrition than the raw version of the same foods, while others had less. It just depends on the food.
- Gabe
The glycemic index is great if you're dealing with high blood sugar or insulin resistance, but it doesn't tell you much about your energy intake, which is important to know if you're trying to lose weight by dieting.
- Victor Ganata
Sarah, I wouldn't necessarily take the conclusion that whole, raw foods are the way to go. Raw foods take a huge cost in digestion. Anyone with stomach irritation would probably make their situation worse by switching to just raw foods. Whole foods (raw or cooked), on the other hand - definitely better than processed foods. Great read.
- Darren
A lot of times, what zero actually means on a label is <0.5, although I guess if so-called "food" didn't actually have any digestible fat, protein, or carbohydrate in it, I guess that really is zero calories.
- Victor Ganata
From what I have read, cooking makes food more digestable, and makes it easier to absorb nutrients. However, depending on how you cook things, some vitamins and minerals get cooked off. This is why steaming is supposed to be better than boiling. There can also be interactions. For example, spinach is rich in iron, but some other chemical in spinach makes the iron almost impossible to absorb.
- Robert Felty
Victor, presumably fat and/or protein cause changes in blood chemistry as well. Maybe we should invent an energy index that measures how much energy healthy subjects get from food. If it doesn't make it to your blood, then it wasn't really absorbed and can't make it to you cells either.
- Clare Dibble
Maybe we should encourage moving away entirely from a reductionist approach to nutrition, and instead focus on centuries-old traditions centered on healthy eating and integrating food into a healthy lifestyle.
- Darren
There's no easy way to measure how much fat, protein, or carbohydrate actually gets absorbed into the system, because the liver usually pulls most of the nutrients out of the blood before it gets into the general circulation. You'd have to cannulate someone's portal vein to get measurements, and this is technically demanding and not a little dangerous. With fat, it's even harder,...
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- Victor Ganata
But couldn't we measure how much was _not_ absorbed into the system?
- Andrew C
Andrew, yeah, I guess that would probably be a lot less invasive. Of course, you'd have to have subjects that would be willing not to eat or drink anything for long periods of time, to make sure that everything you ingested made the full trip. While it takes about two hours for the stomach to empty, and about two hours to traverse the small intestine, the average journey through the large intestine apparently takes 30-40 hours.
- Victor Ganata
That actually sounds relatively minor for a long-term test subject. Robert Rodriguez took in a few grand for a month-long study where he lived on the premises...
- Andrew C
Name some funny pronunciations (well to you anyway) of words spoken by people from other parts of the World than yours (audio comparisons welcome :-)):
Josh, now that's interesting! We had some OS professors (when I was a student) and some pronounce "scheduler" as "s'keduler" while some other pronounce it as "cheduler"
- directeur
Tyson, that's more down to spelling, they are pronounced the same I believe?
- Kol Tregaskes
(Color and Check, if I remember correctly). I recall some people talking about phase and faze, but that was clarified, since they mean completely different things.
- Tyson Key
Primer: Most people here say "PRY-mer" whereas I was raised and most Europeans I know say "prim-ER"
- Admiral Anika
Weird. I don't know any Europeans who pronounce that "prim-ER", including me.
- Mark H
Hmm, as a Brit, I've always thought of a garage as a place to purchase fuel, a place to store cars and a place to service them, but I'm sure those on the other side of the pond have a different take.
- Tyson Key
My dad taught me how to fish though I forgot. It isn't hard to sing it but.
- directeur
Interesting about "Primer". I've always put emphasis on the "PRY", and most other people I've heard also do so...
- Tyson Key
Still, I manage to mangle "thoroughly" and "three", after many years, so that's best taken with a bucket of salt.
- Tyson Key
while you're talking about herbs.. oregano.. Brits: Ore-GA-NO US: Or-EG-AN-o. Also, the Aluminium thing is a bit convoluted because Aluminium and Aluminum are two different alloys, in the sense of soda cans etc the Americans are correct in that Aluminum is used, not Aluminium. And here's another... anything that is to do with children in a medical term - Brits: Paed US: Ped (as in Paediatrician not Pediatrician)
- alphaxion
Cache (the computing term) - "Cash"? or "Cah-shay"? I've always pronounced it the former way, but I've heard a small number of people use the latter on some occasions.
- Tyson Key
Router in computing. A router the way the Americans pronounce it is a wood working instrument. Rout-er not R-out-er :)
- alphaxion
'route' pronounced like 'boot' in the UK but in America it's pronounced like 'bout'.
- Kol Tregaskes
or route is pronounced "root" here in Arizona
- martha
'route' is pronounced 'root' is most of the US. I've only heard a few people say, "rout". However, 'router" is said, "Rout-ER".
- Admiral Anika
We eat our fish fillited, but some times we might have a nice beef fillit or a fillay even. Some like a French Fillee I prefer a Scotch Fillet, but. Though youse mob might not. We would serve that with basil, not baysil; and perhaps some ory gano - not oreg nio - is that how you pronounce it? Alum in ium is the way I pronounce alume in um - that's not just because our been comes in aluminium cans. We don't put a lot of gas in our cars unless it's LPG, but we do put our foot down on it a lot.
- Chris Loft
Kol: it's gas because the product itself is gasoline so it's just a shortened version. Petrol is a shortened version of petroleum which isn't actually accurate (since you're not in fact putting petroleum in the car). As for route v route: it's pronounced both ways here. A router, however, is "r-OW-ter"
- FFing Enigma (aka Tina)
Unless you're talking about tile grout, but that's something different
- Tyson Key
The back of some cars, where you store things - "boot" or "trunk"?
- Tyson Key
To clarify: In the UK - router (pronouned root-er) is the network device. When pronounced rout-er it's the tool used in carpentry.
- Mark H
As a proud English Northern lass I pronounce garage "ga-ridge" - most southerners (and Canadian and Americans) pronounce it "ga-raaaaage" (I may be over-emphasising a little....)
- WorldofHiglet
That's what I'm thinking of... Yes, I do call it a "ga-ridge".
- Tyson Key
Thank you, Tina. Like I know anything about cars anyway. ;-)
- Kol Tregaskes
If it moves you from one place to another, who cares? I don't know a great deal about cars either. ;)
- Tyson Key
When I lived in England, I recall seeing a headline in the Times: "OAPs injured in motorway coach crash" and thinking that most Americans would not have a clue what it was talking about. (OAP=Old Age Pensioners="retirees", motorway="freeway", coach="bus", crash="wreck").
- Glen Mistletoe
Vaguely related: Sean Connery saying "sitting."
- Nate Pilling
from twhirl
I'm reminded of a debate on IRC ages ago about the pronunciation of "Mach" and "Bach", for what it's worth. (Was that some were pronouncing "Mach" like "match", and "Bach" like either "Back" or "Bar-kh", or something like that, but I don't remember the specifics).
- Tyson Key
I pronounce Moet as "moh-ay" and with a little french accent hiding in there.
- alphaxion
Petrol makes me think of petrolium which makes me think of Vaseline.
- Josh Haley
DO NOT put petrolium jelly in your vehicle!
- Josh Haley
However "Petrol is a petroleum-derived liquid mixture" and "Most current or former Commonwealth countries use the term "petrol", abbreviated from petroleum spirit." http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki...
- alphaxion
same as josh when it comes to those words
- alphaxion
Come to think of it, "last.fm" makes me wonder - I pronounce it "Last Dot Eff Em", but I know some people drop the "Dot"...
- Tyson Key
Some of the American/British pronunciation differences mentioned here are subject to regional (or even person-to-person) variation in the U.S., like "route."
- John (a.k.a. dendroica)
same in the UK.. the different regional accents in the UK make it unpredictable for people of the same country, speaking the same language to understand each other ;)
- alphaxion
+1 alphaxion. You'd never be able to tell where I came from from listening to me speak...
- Tyson Key
Hmm, there's always "Linux" - that's as much of a divisor pronunciation-wise, as it is technological direction-wise.
- Tyson Key
The Commonwealth pronunciation of "lieutenant" as "lefftenant" always makes me giggle.
- John (a.k.a. dendroica)
Vitamins with a soft I as spoken in the UK (like 'fit'), in the US its hard (as in 'bite') I have a Scottish friend, cracks me up every time I hear it.
- jcunwired
I always seem to giggle when I hear the Brit way of pronounciating "glacier" as /GLAH/syur/ like Aubrey Manning does in Earth Story. (It's pronounciated /GLAY/shur/ in /KAN/uh/duh/)
- Edward Zwart
Well having lived all over the one that cracks me up the most is Wash. In mos to of the US it is pronounced just like it looks - but in some parts of the Midwest, Ohio, and Michigan it is pronounced Warsh. I'm not sure where that "r" comes from.
- Bill Rawlinson
I can't believe, even with a cartoon of monkey boy as a reminder, nobody's mentioned nookular.
- jcunwired
@bill Just wait till you hear the way Bath is pronounced across the UK ;) B-ath, Barth, Baf
- alphaxion
Hmm, Nokia. Is that "Knock Ear"? "Noh-KIA"? "Know KIA"? "NOH-Kia"? Or something else?
- Tyson Key
Anytime I open my mouth, you can be sure something will be mispronounced.
- Steven Perez
"Pop" or "soda"? "Hoover" or "vacuum cleaner"? ;)
- Tyson Key
Nuclear is even more fun to hear people mangle. It's not "Nucular", damn it!
- Tyson Key
@jcunwired - That one was just for you! ;)
- Tyson Key
Th- at the beginning of words is pronounced f- as soon as you fink you're a Londoner.
- Mark H
Lots of Japanese examples. SA-MOO-RAI kind of flat vs US SAMmoo-rye. GEISHA kind of flat vs US GEEsha. oSAH-KEH vs US nasal SAA-key.
- Rick Cogley
Working in IT, my favorite is developer. US English duh-VEL-oh-per. The other pronunciation I often hear is de-VLOP-er. On the Moet & Chandon example, it is actually Mow-Eht. Rhymes with wet. While Chandon, like their most famous product, is French, the Moet is Dutch.
- Sarah Miller
from iPhone
I'm always amused when I hear Scott say metadata (meetadata, with a short a in data). I say maytadayta. :)
- Ladybug Heather
Similar to jaguar: puma. Poo-ma, or pyoo-ma. I say the latter.
- Mark H
regional speech patterns can be pretty interesting. In most of the us a toboggan is a wodden sled with a curved front, but in appalachia it is a knit cap (also known as a beanie). In some parts of the counrty a liquor store is known as a package store and in others its a red-dot. And finally, in some places a "poke" is a brown paper bag.
- Bill Rawlinson
why give a line when you can write a sticky note?
- Jason Wyttenbach
When looking at an ugly baby & I feel forced to say *something*: "Wow, those eyes!"
- Admiral Anika
Go do your thing, Josh, I don't care. *pouts* (Side note: This reminds me of a game they used to do on Whose Line Is It Anyway? where they had a topic like, "Things people say when their plane is crashing." Hmm, Josh, you just gave me an idea. :P)
- Mol, Santa Claws
You're entitled to your opinion, wrong though it may be.
- Alex Scoble
"Did you get a haircut?" "I thought so."
- Trish R
From a friend's four yr old, I learned that "it's not my favorite" can be a useful response in many more situations that I would have guessed.
- Sarah Miller
from iPhone
Greg, it was inadvertent. Completely. *clicks delete yet again* :-)
- Rick Cogley
"I don't care what anyone else says, but you're alright."
- Diego Barros
The only one I use is "with all due respect..." Technically I'm still being honest, I only use it when the other man is not due respect.
- Lo is not learning
haha...so do I! Only, it would appear...not enough!! Can you feel the burn?!
- JA Castillo
If I'm lucky, no. And I wear it mostly to protect myself from some very expensive tattoos I've acquired over the years.
- Derrick
I'm tending to wear lightweight long sleeved shirts so I can have less skin exposed. I figure if they can make it work in the hot dry middle east, it'll work just fine in the not-that-hot dry Wirehead City.
- Wirehead
I tried to reply to this on my phone last night. But like Derrick said, even I wear sunscreen. SPF 50.
- Admiral Anika
I was at the store this weekend and they've got SPF 70 now! I was sorely tempted, but as I avoid the sun anyways whenever possible, I just got SPF 45.
- Andrew C
I think SPF is getting to be like megahertz.
- Wirehead
I was tempted to wrap myself in foil before walking across the parking lot to my hotel. Fortunately, I found a close-in parking space. And yeah, I wear sunscreen, too. No tats, but somebody ate all my ozone.
- ha3rvey (doesn't dance)