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Well we made it thru the hair washing & combing without my shoulder falling off it hurt but not as much as I'd thought it would. Jayden has to stay up 2 hrs past bedtime so he's driving me nuts. Then I have to wake him at 5 & keep him up til the EEG at 1. Fun times.
Good luck! *hugs* - Anne Bouey
Good luck to Jayden! - Janet
Jayden's having an EEG done Tuesday and tomorrow his hair has to be washed and we can't put any product in it, conditioner or grease or anything. Do you have any idea what it's gonna be like trying to comb through a giant, dry, crunchy afro with no product? *sigh*
I guess it's the wrong time of year for a shaved-close haircut... I hope the EEG produces good news. - Spidra Webster
I'll comb it out for him while it's wet but that'll only help so much. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
I can't afford haircuts most months. He wants big hair but does a shitty job taking care of it. So I've mostly given up. You wanna walk around looking crazy, fine. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
How about a blowout then cornrows? That's how I worked my hair with no product. - Anika
I do not own a blow dryer. I cannot braid. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
Normally he washes his hair every week but two or three times a month, I comb it out while it's wet then when it's dry use some moisturizer and comb it out again. Then he's responsible for combing it every day, which he does haphazardly and only with much fussing from his mom. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
Would a blow dryer help him? - Tamara J. B. from FFHound(roid)!
Nah, he'd never use it and I'm not tying to do anything extra, lol. I haven't used one in nearly 20 years. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
What he really needs is his mom to find a boyfriend who owns good clippers and gives free haircuts without scraping up foreheads & necks lmao - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
Could you just do a dry spray shampoo just for this extra day? - Janet from FFHound!
No, the shampooing isn't the problem, it's the combing out. And it would leave residue right? We want th leads to stick to his scalp, which is why they tell us clean hair no product. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
Really the worst part is going to be staying at the hospital five hours paying for parking and not having anything to do while I wait. And entertaining J between the end of the test and the Dr appt to talk about the results. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
The next time he gets this done, it will probably be at an adult facility. I will miss going to Children's. Like, seriously. They've saved his life several times and we're fortunate to have them in our community. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
I usually start buying lil things for J's birthday & Christmas in August. This year I told him he was getting one big present, smart phone or TV, he picked TV. With everything turned upside down & all extra cash needing to be held for move in, he isn't getting anything until maybe February.
This is not an appeal for presents. I just wanted to share how proud I am of Jayden for dealing with disappointment and remaining optimistic. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
He's a good kid :) - Pete
^^^You're a great parent, Mandy. <3 - AHnix (Anna Haro)
That's awesome of Jayden. Shows a lot of maturity. - Tamara J. B. from FFHound(roid)!
I dig that kid muchly. <3 And you are an awesome mom. Aw hell, group hug! - Hookuh Tinypants from FreshFeed
HUGS FOR ALL! - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
Jayden is a great kid. But, then, he does come from pretty good stock! :-) - vicster: hon. canadian
Echoing what everyone else has written. <3 - Jenny H. from Android
That's when all the tvs go on sale to get ready for the new ones - Valz 4 TEAMMARINA
Someone on the news yesterday said that TVs also go on sale right before Superbowl Sunday, so that timing might be the best, anyway. - vicster: hon. canadian
Yep I've read the best time to buy em is October and late January/early February. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
You are teaching him the truth of life, for this alone he will succeed. Hugs dear woman, you are doing fantastic. - Janet
Okay so my "friend" who told me I'm a clinical pessimist who brings everyone down with my negativity is on my Facebook post about Tamir Rice, telling me to stop crying racism and defending bad behavior. I want to cuss her out so bad. She only got one or two more fucked up comments to go before I do it.
That's her? Oh man, how you haven't already blocked her ass speaks volumes to how patient you are! - vicster: hon. canadian
I'm so offended. Who exactly is she writing that for? Because she put "my (black) son" all in parentheses n shit like I don't know him, but I was feeding her ice chips when she was pushing that boy out. Fuck outta here. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
Oh and when she was birthing her son? She was 14. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
I hope you don't mind my comment on the post. - vicster: hon. canadian
No, in fact thanks, it's a good stat & easy to remember, too. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
Holy shit that woman. Did she even read what you wrote? - Hookuh Tinypants from FreshFeed
She is a flaming mess. You are much more patient with her than I would be. - Corinne L
Just like she never heard what I said back in the day, I don't think she reads what I write. If y'all could read that text exchange we had last month...smh - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
Ugh, that woman is an asshole. - Hookuh Tinypants from FreshFeed
She always has been. I don't block her because I love her children and she'd probably talk a gang of shit about me to our many mutual friends. I just tune her out normally, but ranting on my posts & telling me what my opinion should be I can't ignore. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
Internal Backlash After's Coverage of Tamir Rice's Father's Criminal Record
Some people who refuse to see a black 12 year old as an actual child, or even fully human, find it necessary go on at length about violent households, to dig for ANYthing to blame that child and their people for that child being killed. Nowhere in that video did I see the cop stop and ask Tamir Rice about his family history. He didn't ask if his dad was violent or if his mom had been arrested or if they bought him guns instead of books for his birthday. So FOH with that but-he-came-from-a-violent-household BULLshit. That is irrelevant when the boy is shot ONE POINT FIVE SECONDS after the cop pulls up. This tragedy also drives home another ugly truth: black children are constantly perceived, outside their families/communities, as not really children, as more sexual or dangerous than white kids their age. This allows racists to blame those children for whatever horrible things might happen to them, to punish those children as if they're adults, to see a 20 year old man instead of a 12 year old boy. I want to see the officer who killed Tamir Rice charged and jailed for murder. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
I'm thankful for this beef roast and these chicken wings because fuck turkey and we gon eat ALL these leftovers.
Also thankful I bought that frozen Sara Lee sweet potato pie last month when it was two bucks! It is very good for not homemade. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
:) - Jenny H. from Android
If we have to go to a shelter it won't be in some nice family section, Jayden will be 17 in 2 1/2 weeks so he would have to be in single men's housing and I would go to single women's housing. We probably wouldn't even be able find beds in the same shelter.
And in December or January, there may be no shelter beds for singles at all. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
I'd make y'all come live in our spare room before it came to that. - Mary Carmen from iPhone
Thank you Mary. I love you. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
My brother & sister in law are the only other people I know with a spare room. When we were homeless they wouldn't let us stay with them, they said Jayden was too much to deal with and they needed the spare room for when her mom & brother visited. So since this crisis started I haven't even talked to them about what's going on. They can't be bothered to even check on us. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
:'( - Jenny H. from Android
Well, they suck. And I'm serious. I would not let that happen to you. If I have to drag you here I will :-) - Mary Carmen from iPhone
I really hope you don't have to go back to a shelter. I hated seeing families broken up like that when I stayed at one. It's really unfair to the kid. - Anika
I saw that happen too. If it ever actually came to that I would advocate for an exception based on his special needs status. But getting special treatment at a shelter is dangerous, too. I got targeted because as a diabetic i was allowed to keep cottage cheese in the refrigerator for between meals and those bitches would steal it or put cigarette butts in it and talked hella shit about me. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
I hope it doesn't come to that but I'm so thankful wonderful people like MC and Scott have offered you an option. <3 - Tamara J. B.
Oh dang, honey. Really hoping it doesn't come to that. And, I second what Tamara said about MC and Scott. - AHnix (Anna Haro)
MC & Scott's house could be dangerous, what with homemade bread & adorable babies & such. ;-) - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
And I'm pretty sure I'd have at least a couple months to fight if someone's going to try to force us out. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
The volcanic stress pimples I get when things are bad make me long nostalgically for the puny lil period pimples I sometimes get.
Oh man, can I relate to this. My chin and forehead look like a jr. high school. - Anika
I wanted to soak in a bath so bad that I forgot all about how I'm unable to get out of the tub. I screamed & cried for more than 30 minutes but Jayden had his headphones on and really, what could he do anyway? He can't lift me. I finally wrenched the hell out of my frozen shoulder-afflicted right arm taking 4 or 5 attempts at pushing myself up.
I couldn't skip the shower afterward because that's gross but it hurt so bad and I cried the whole fucking time. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
My center of gravity is like that of a lopsided 13 months pregnant person. I can't climb ladders anymore. I can't wear heels anymore. I can't take a fucking bath anymore. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
Oh, god, I am so sorry. - Jennifer Dittrich from FFHound!
Oh honey. :-( - Corinne L
I'm just glad it didn't result in more injury. I'm so fucked up as it is. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
Oh, Mandy. I'm so glad you're okay. I hate that you had to suffer. - Tamara J. B.
That sounds awful. :( *gentle hugs* - Jenny H. from Android
That punk ass prosecutor acting like a defense attorney made it clear from day one that there would never be an indictment. Looting and rioting aren't the answer, but apparently neither is peaceful protest or letting the justice system take its course.
I have to teach my son about cops and racists and how to stay alive and it's still no guarantee he won't be killed by a trigger happy cop. Our black & brown children are treated as disposable, vilified even when they're victims. If being civil & calm & respectful won't protect our kids, then I don't really care if a business gets burned down or looted. Ain't no business worth more than our children. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
A tin of Danish butter cookies & a cold cup of milk is almost all I can think about right now.
Sort of took care of the craving with a few bites of a pot brownie. Bonus is, I'm calmer now than I have been in days. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
This pic shows the porch floor from where the stairs landing ends to my front door. The tiles are white ceramic, which is ridiculous already and hazardous when it rains. They are very hard keep clean. But at least dirt can be washed off easily. Look at all that shit-brown paint. And grout from the bottom of the guy's shoes.
So, they didn't even cover anything while they were painting? - Anika
I was told they were going to paint the wall of the porch, I specifically asked if they were going to paint the railing. I was told no just the wall. I said okay I'll move my stuff, he said don't worry we'll cover it. I take my basket of flowers and bell off the wall, moved everything by the railing. Go inside & close the door, because they're using a paint sprayer. When it started... more... - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
I have to let prospective buyers look at my unit. If/when they come while I'm still here, I'm telling them every shady thing that's been done and pointing out every expensive thing wrong with the place. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
Didn't realize until I was coming up the stairs after an errand that there's also a nice spray of brown paint on one of the living room windows now :-\ - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
These people suck - Steele Lawman
Yes they do. Seriously. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
Can't sleep. Every time I close my eyes my brain starts ranting about the asshole realtor, her asshole husband, and the asshole landlord. And the shitshow that went on over here until after dark and left me with brown spray paint on my chair, my broom, my basket of flowers, and the white tiles on the porch floor.
(((Starmama))) - Spidra Webster
And how dare I mention that they did such sloppy work, how dare I ask them to respect me & my stuff, how dare I hope someone will apologize or offer to clean the paint off my things. How dare I. That lady actually turned her back on me and refused to answer my concerns & questions. Who the fuck does that?! - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
I wouldn't be able to sleep either. It's bad enough they did all kinds of wrong in regards to the property, but then to treat you, so blatantly/aggressively, like you don't matter? ASSHOLES. So sorry you had to experience that. - AHnix (Anna Haro)
Oh man, they sound like complete jerks and stupid ones at that. Please take pictures of everything they messed up and make them replace or clean it. - Anika
My belongings that got messed up are probably worth less than $10 all together. I'll take pics anyway when the sun comes up. Yeah it's junk but it's MY junk. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
I've been going over & over our interactions yesterday to take an honest look at my behavior, whether I was too shrill or at all inappropriate. But I think seeing Tito over here helping them with this bullshit paint job, almost a month past the deadline he shoulda had it done by, gives me the right to be pissed the fuck off. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
I believe none of the workmen are going to be displaced, you have every right! - Janet from FFHound!
*hugs* Hope you've managed to get some sleep. - Kirsten
The realtor had the bright idea that the house should be power washed so her husband rented a machine and their first attempt was Thursday. It rained hard that day and the machine wasn't working right but even before that, I didn't know they were coming until the guy knocked on my door to tell me to close all the windows.
So I look over the side of the porch, & see they had my hose hooked to my faucet & they're about to be using my water for the job. Hell no! - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
Power washing in a drought? Abd you wanna use MY water & raise MY rate? - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
The people in the back let them use their water faucet but that's when they found the machine didn't work & then another storm cane through so they left. Came back yesterday finish the job. Again didn't let me know. They accomplished nothing except making a mess they didn't clean up. Paint chips EVERYWHERE all over our wooden stairs and the concrete outside. I didn't even see the mess until I went outside after they'd left. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
I called the realtor to let her know about the mess they left so maybe she'll call me back today. I shouldn't have to clean up after inept work and workers. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
Geeeeeeezzzzzz. :-/ - vicster: hon. canadian
Abd how fucking irresponsible to wash chipping paint off and just let it go wherever. What did they expect, the paint would just wash away down the gutter? And end up in the estuary? The bay? Jerks. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
I'm starting to doubt every hopeful thing that lady told me. All she wants is to make a sale. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
Grrr! How old is this house? Old enough to have lead based paint? Lead based paint was banned in the 70s. - Greg GuitarBuster
It was built in 1914, converted to a duplex in 1959. No idea how long since it's been painted, we've been here 8 years & it looked like an old paint job then. But even "safe" paint chips should be swept up, not washed into the gutter. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
Lead testing in old houses rented with a section8 voucher is required by HUD, this house passed all the tests in 2006. & Jayden's had bloodwork done twice since we lived here, lead levels fine. But who knows what's in the layers of paint on that ancient wood siding. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
well, that sounds a little better, but they should have done some research before even thinking about power washing. - Greg GuitarBuster
I have never heard of a realtor doing that themselves. That sounds chintzy and dangerous. - Anika
Today they're on ladders scraping paint off the siding. Tito, the landlord who didn't want to paint, is over here on a ladder. I said "Tito why you doing that, thought you were selling?" He said "I'm just helping these guys" I said "well you 3 months late, coulda did all that in September when it was dry, and you'd still be getting paid" all he said was "yeah I know" - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
Then I'm talking to the guy in charge, realtor's husband. About the mess. He was on the phone acting huffy. He says "we can't clean it until everything's dry (from the rain)" okay, fine, someone coulda told me that before y'all left yesterday. Then he's yelling at me, "leave my guys alone so they can do their job" wait, what? Had to let him know, you don't talk to me like that. I got a question I'm asking it, whatever you say. And I'm the wrong one to be talking down to. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
They had to have entered your unit to "borrow" your tap like that. It's illegal to do that without 24 hrs notice. Also, I suspect it's illegal to run a tenant's water bill up for maintenance that isn't specific to that tenant. - Spidra Webster
It's an outside tap, and I removed the handle so people would stop using it but it's easy turn anyway with pliers. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
Oh no. Wrong on so many levels. - AHnix (Anna Haro)
Have fun at the Oakland High 30 year reunion, it's the last thing I wanna do.
I want an umbrella patterned to look like a tiffany or similar art nouveau lampshade. And chocolate covered Craisins. And a nifty knife block holder to stand on a table. #threethingsiwant
Oh that's lovely! - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
Janet, that one's more colorful. - Greg GuitarBuster
That is beautiful! - Heather Cheaper with free shipping - Janet
So pretty! I love that Frank Lloyd Wright one too. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
Realtor called to tell me the property has a buyer, who plans to stucco the house and wants me to stay. More than two weeks after the deadline. Maria said she'd tried to contact the housing authority but they're notorious for not returning calls or emails, so I'm going to their office this morning see if this is doable.
Nervous about getting hopes up because the last few months have been full of letdowns. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
That would be great and I hope the housing authority let's it work out. All available fingers are crossed. - bentley
Oh! I hope it works out! Fingers crossed here, too! - Yvonne Renee
I hope it works out! - John (bird whisperer)
I will definitely let y'all know what I find out. Thank you <3 - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
Fingers crossed. - Anne Bouey
^ this! Thinking all the good thoughts for you! <3 - Jennifer Dittrich
Saying prayers that this works out. - Corinne L
Hope this works out! Fingers crossed. - Bren - pseudo-Buddhist from iPhone
Fingers, toes, eyes crossed... - Me
Rooting for you that this works out! - SAM
That would be fantastic. I hope you finally get to catch a break! Sending good juju your way. - Kristin from iPhone
Fingers and toes crossed! - vicster: hon. canadian
I hope you hear some good news - Anika from Android
oh man please please please, yes, calling in all karmic debts... *fingers and toes crossed* - t-ra supports #LOLSpidra
Thank you my loves! At the very least, I can stop obsessing over time running out. Whether I'll be here in the spring, or next year, is up to the new owner and how long it takes him to fix the exterior. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
So, a trip well made. & since I was in that part of town, I stopped at Honeybaked & got me a big bag of ham bones so my side dishes will be on fleek this winter. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
Yay! What a huge relief that must be!!! - Yvonne Renee
Boom! *Ratchet dance with Mandy* - t-ra supports #LOLSpidra from Android
Congrats! I am so happy for you. You deserve to have a party. :D - April Russo
Loving this! The universe finally gave you a warm embrace. - Janet
Ha nothing definite yet, I'll still be looking for another place, and tryna pack, but with far less stress about it :-) - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
:))) - Jenny H. from Android
That's a win for now! Glad to hear it. - SAM
Did anyone else learn about Pageant of the Masters from Mike Rowe's CNN show? It's the most amazing thing and I need to attend this at least once before I die.
I lived in SoCal for 10 years and never made it to this, though I always wanted to go. FF road trip! - Corinne L
RT @KTVU: Coroners office confirms that child was killed when hit during a pursuit related accident in unincorporated San Leandro this evening
Phone I had for almost three years was charging haphazardly so I had to get a new one since I'm constantly getting & making important calls these days. $50 deductible, ugh. But they upgraded me. New phone is giant to me. But I'm out of space with only half my apps installed!
Ugh. I hate when that happens, which is all the time. Is your phone capable of having apps loaded onto a microSD card? Even if you get an 8gb, it helps. - Anika
Yeah I've got an SD card but I don't know how big it is. - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
Is it an Android phone? Setting > Storage scroll to the bottom and it tells you how much space you have on it. The harder part is getting the apps to the card. Some phones won't let you move apps and some apps aren't moveable. - Anika
Yeah seems like the biggest apps are the ones you can't move to the card - Starmama from FFHound(roid)!
Clearing out the cache on those space-hogging apps, then rebooting also helps. - Anika
The gorillas at SF Zoo are mourning the death of Kabibe. Their emotion is touching & heartbreaking. Po baby :-(
:( - Stephen Mack from iPhone
:( - Anne Bouey
Sad for the survivors. :( - Steve C Team Marina
:( - SAM
And hogwash to all the scientists that tell me animals have no feelings. - Janet
scientists have yet to prove scientists have feelings. - Todd Hoff
Janet, I know this debate has gone on forever, but I think the majority of articles I've read about animals and feelings, by scientists, actually supports that they do have them. Maybe these are PETA scientists/anthropologists??? - AHnix (Anna Haro)
The Year Of Roosevelt Franklin is the best Sesame Street record no one knows
RT @PenguinTruths: Zoboomafoo, who died at the age of 20, was highly respected by the penguin family 🐒🐧
RT @thejournalista: Why do people use babies and children in memes that reference sex? I find that to be highly inappropriate. #fb
J is with his play cousin 2 days outta this 4 day weekend. I was gonna get so much done. Mostly been sleeping. *stretches* *rolls over*
you call it sleeping, i call it self-maintenance. - Big Joe Silence
RT @oaklandlocal: What does the #Oakland Public Library have going on that you need to know about but don’t?
RT @OUSDNews: Video from the @nytimes on how #OUSD & Oakland Intl. HS help refugee students from Central America adapt to the U.S.
If I lived somewhere that had made feeding the homeless a crime (& didn't have a kid & dogs to take care of) I'd be out there getting arrested every day. Every time I hear about this my blood boils and I want to go give sandwiches to every homeless person in those towns.
RT @fuckeveryword: fuck belonging
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