haha, just mouseover this link, FFers, and look at the URL. Enough said. ;) - Tamar Weinberg from Bookmarklet

I remember that there I was nine-months pregnant with a nine pounder, and the only person who offered his seat was a disabled man, while all these men with no disabilities didn't budge. I kept saying no cause I felt bad, and his response was the best. "You are having a baby, so you deserve it, and it doesn't seem like any of these HEALTHY men are getting up" - Shevonne

People are such jerks. The same thing happened to me toward the end of my pregnancy about 6 weeks ago. All these guys were looking at me in my big belly and didn't offer to get up. But some nice young girl actually offered. I feel that the healthy *men* should've done it - not the girl. Instead, they opted to stare. - Tamar Weinberg

When I was pregnant, I took the bus to/from work every day. I was always amazed and how rarely I was offered a seat. People would purposely look away, I noticed, to "pretend" not to see me so they wouldn't have to offer their seat. - Rochelle

no class. hate these kinds of people. one of the things about ny that i can't stand. it's incredible to see how unaware or even selfish people are - Cee Bee

If I was really uncomfortable, I sat down in the handicapped seats even if it was between 2 fat people. They'd normally then look at me and roll their eyes at me. Maybe you should've gotten up! - Tamar Weinberg

by the way, did anyone actually see the URL? I think it's the longest domain name ever. - Tamar Weinberg

@Tamar LONGEST EVER! @Cee Bee I will have to say DC is worst! In NYC, some people offered their seat. In DC, I had old ladies pushing me. - Shevonne

Screw waiting for the offer. I'd look 'em straight in the eye and ask them if I could sit down. - Nathalie

That sort of sense of entitlement doesn't help either... - Mona Nomura

people did this in tokyo when my wife was quite obviously preggers. diaf! - Eric Nakagawa

this stuff kills me - when i was a little kid my mother would beat my arse if i didnt get up - people are such pigs - this is totally getting posted on insidetransit - love the idea - Allen Stern

Total agreement with ya all. Funny Allen, my mom would do the exact same to me. The empty thousand mile stare is so common on the buses over here also. I find often that once I stand up for someone, it kinda breaks the dam and people start getting off their "fat donkeys" (:-P) at the next stops. - Rasmus Lauridsen

<rant>when a person gets on with 3 kids and slaps them down into the first 3 seats - and then the parent just sits there and watches old people and anyone else stand - i give them the look of death - if it comes to it, i say something. this (and people playing their walkmans so loud the whole subway can hear it) is the real world - not twitter.</rant> - Allen Stern

wow. - anna sauce

This reminds me of my recent trip to my mom's eye doc. I'm pushing her along in the wheelchair. Two people are ahead of us, neither one of them holds the door. Two men are inside talking on their cell phones watching me hold the door and push Mom inside. Now, granted, I've managed this enough times to where it isn't a big deal, but, come on people! Hold the door for the next person, able bodied or not. When we are leaving the office, a group of people was coming at us. I get mom through the door and then proceed to hold the door for all 5 of them. - Yolanda

I've been lucky to take trains that aren't that packed when I was pregnant the first time. Though I don't ever demand a seat since I sit on my butt at work all day anyway :p - Zulema ⋅ spicy cocoa tart

im going to start "peoplewhoplaytheirmusicsoloudeveryonecanhearit.com" :) - Allen Stern

hit them with your freaking crutches and tell them to move if you NEED to sit there. i always sit in disabled seating. they're not better than me because they're different. freaking rosa parks all over again. - Tyler Gillies

Yolanda, that's awful. :/ I went to the post office in January, while very much 9 months pregnant, in the snow and ice, with an arm full of packages. I decided to do a sort of experiment and stood outside until someone opened the door for me. It took several people going in/out before anyone let me in. - Rochelle

Just to add a counterpoint: sometimes, when a woman has a big belly going on, there is some ambiguity as to whether they're pregnant or...well, fat. If a woman is very obviously pregnant, then...yeah: rude as fuck to not give up one's seat, reserved seat or no. (Then again, if one is male, one could just offer one's seat up and play it off as general chivalry, I guess.) - Chester

Chester, what I do in that situation is just get up and stand closer to the doors as if anticipating my stop. That way she won't be insulted if she's not pregnant. - Bruce Lewis from fftogo

HAHAHAHHAHAHA!! I just realized *THIS IS A BLOG! HOLY SHIT LOL.... HILARIOUS Idea :)). Tons of hilarious posts updated often with pretty good titles. will actually subscribe to this thing - Matt Kaufman

even if you're pregnant. whose fault is it that you got knocked up? plus technically pregnant people aren't "disabled" - Tyler Gillies

@Tyler true, but many pregnant women suffer from swollen legs and feet which is normal but can be painful. - Zulema ⋅ spicy cocoa tart

Let's just say there's a ring of hell where people who are young and fit, and occupying those seats, go. It's a place where they have to stand for hours on the worst jolting, turbulent bus that never ends, and they have to pee. Or something. - anna sauce

Tyler, being pregnant might not be a disability but the swelling, muscle tears, bone separation, and physical pain sure are disabiling. - Rochelle

wow!!! I would say something - Rachael Depp

Now, I'm the sort of person who would give up their seat for.. well, for most anyone, but I do take some small issue with the entitlement feeling here. Not from the disabled, or the pregnant. No, the comment that it should have been a man, not a girl who offered their seat up. Do my feet hurt less than a woman's after a long day? - Marty

Tyler, it kind of sounds like you want to punish women for so inconveniently getting pregnant, damn us! Your mother would be proud. - Kamilah Reed (K. Gill)

I feel bad if a woman is standing while I have a seat, pregnant/crutches or not. I offer my seat. Probably my Virginia upbringing. - Hutch Carpenter

Hutch, I used to always give up my seat to any woman in the vicinity. But, once I started riding BART regularly, during rush hour, I came to embrace equal rights...and burdens. If one were to go the chivalrous route during rush hour, one would be guaranteed of never being able to sit down, as it always ends up SRO. - Chester

@Chester - look at it as a continuing physical fitness opportunity for yourself! - Daniel J. Pritchett from IM

Ha, this was just a blog I needed for writing an article. :-) Thx, Tamar. - Ton Zijp

You bet. The sad thing and funny thing is that I am pretty sure this whole website is a parody and that the guy doesn't really have crutches, but the FF discussion certainly rings true -- and with that, I'm glad this blog exists. - Tamar Weinberg

That website is some passive aggressive BS. Don't take pictures and post em, that's rude. Just ask the jerks to get up out of your seat. Be a Rosa Parks not a mean photog. - Pete D

Pete, have you ever lived in NYC? And rude? Cmon - if someone really was on crutches and these jerks didn't get up, the only people who are rude are the people sitting comfortably. For real rudeness, look at this NYC subway blog: http://asleeponthesubway.tumblr.com/ - Tamar Weinberg

For other people who have contributed to the disability discussion, see this: http://cityroom.blogs.nytimes.com/2009... - Tamar Weinberg

From that link, you get this pregnancy disability story: http://blogs.wsj.com/juggle... - Tamar Weinberg

I can't believe the defensiveness of some of the replies to that last one, Tamar. Calling expecting a seat during pregnancy "quaint" and so on. When someone is *clearly and visibly* about ready to pop a baby out, how about a little sympathy, people?? I haven't been pregnant yet, but it looks uncomfortable toward the end. I always jump up for elderly, disabled, or pregnant riders (when I'm in a place where it makes sense to do so, i.e. in the aisle, not by the window with someone sitting in the aisle next to me). - Kamilah Reed (K. Gill)

Kamilah, I think the lack of compassion comes out of not experiencing the event. Personally, before I was pregnant, I had NO idea that it would be so hard -- I thought evolution/anatomy/biology would mean that it would be tolerable and easy. The only pains I have previously heard about associated with pregnancy was morning sickness and nausea, not all that other stuff. I actually am in the middle of writing a blog post about this on my new mommyblog -- stay tuned. I meant to keep to keep this blog under wraps, but I will share among my FF friends. :) - Tamar Weinberg

Tisk, tisk, tisk... "unconscious humanity" - Damien Robinson

I love being a sleep-deprived mommyblogger. I wrote my convoluted rant, incorporating most of what I've shared here and elsewhere (and what FFers contributed as well - at least via links). There are also some nice pics of baby. Please comment and share your thoughts. http://mymommyand.me/2009... - Tamar Weinberg

Hilarious! I'm so happy you posted these pictures. Sick thing is that if they didn't see anything wrong at that time- they probably won't feel like complete a**es if they saw their pictures here. - Gekd Boutique

I commented! I will have to say that is one of the best posts I have seen in awhile. - Shevonne

Thanks Shevonne!!! We need an ongoing discussion too... I guess I'll have to make the post/blog more public. - Tamar Weinberg

btw today on good day ny - they reported that the mta is going to ramp up going after these people - and giving them fines - how they will do that i have no idea - but they plan to do it. - Allen Stern