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My daughter has two moms, one dad, and no complaints. A group of our friends were spending a weekend at a cabin in the mountains, and our hosts' not-quite-three-year-old was starting to do the math. Over the squalls of nap-resisting toddlers, her mom responded without missing a beat: "Because they're lucky."

Want to live a little longer? Get a second wife. New research suggests that men from polygamous cultures outlive those from monogamous ones. After accounting for socioeconomic differences, men aged over 60 from 140 countries that practice polygamy to varying degrees lived on average 12% longer than men from 49 mostly monogamous nations, says Virpi Lummaa ...

Being in a successful open marriage is about four things: 1) finding the support you need, both within your marriage and from the people around you; 2) accepting that jealousy is a manufactured emotion that, with enough conscious effort, you can learn to let go of; 3) treating an open marriage as you would a "traditional" one—that is, normalizing it as a choice for everyone; and 4) overcoming ...

"Life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness." The phrase came to me this morning while musing over the predicament of my friend, the sex blogger Jefferson. Because his ex-wife recently discovered he is bisexual, he is now fighting for custody of his kids. It's an ironic twist that the man who took as his pseudonym Jefferson, in homage to freedom-loving Thomas Jefferson, should have that man's ...

I'm told that if something seems too good to be true, it probably is. That's likely why I've never given polyamory a second thought. Openly dating two (or more) people without drama or moral conundrums sounds great, but there's got to be a catch, right? Further research, however, indicates that there isn't, really. I mean, yeah, it's certainly not for everyone, but you can't really accuse ...

Certainly our society's fetish for monolithic, life long monogamy as the be-all and end-all of relationships creates fertile ground for cheating. This doesn't let the cheater off the ethical hook, but it does go a long way toward explaining why people in western society - and especially in the puritanical United States - cheat in such significant numbers. With those cultural underpinnings in ...

Christian Right lobby group Family First and pathetic gutter "journalist" Ian Wishart have attacked Labour's SocialDevelopment Minister, Ruth Dyson, over a non-existent social policy 'speech' that she never made 'endorsing' polygamy and polyamory.

On Friday, Scarlett Johansson, Penelope Cruz and Javier Bardem hit the big screen as a trio of volatile lovers in Woody Allen's "Vicky Cristina Barcelona." In the movie, Bardem kisses Johansson. Johansson kisses Cruz. Then, they all fall for each other. But in real life, far from the jaunty shores of Allen's Barcelona, the mechanics of a "three-way-tionship" are more complex.

I really didn't know what polyamory was until I fell into it at 27. I was arguing one day with a couple I'd been sleeping with for about a month, when BAM! I ended up in a three-way relationship. I've always been open-minded as far as sexual relationships were concerned and was sleeping with a male/female couple. That day, Dan was being overly critical of Ellie. I told them the nit-picking was ...

In New York, traditional relationships are becoming less and less fashionable. Having several boyfriends or girlfriends is something of a lifestyle choice for many. However, critics say it just shows a lack of responsibility. You don't need to go far to see that New York is celebrating sexual lfreedom. Polyamory - literally meaning "multiple love" – or consensual non-monogamy – is becoming ...

IN A YEAR when "Virginity Rules" became an abstinence movement motto, the pendulum swings to new rules for an open marriage. With recent statistics from 13 countries showing that marriage is down while living together is up — and monogamy being challenged by polyamory — will the words "for better or worse, until death do us part" become obsolete? Polyamory means sharing more than one intimate ...

Oh Hai, Ure Poly?

Nothing comes between Jenny Block and her husband - except perhaps her live-in lover, Jemma. Louise France meets America's new queen of the swingers Sunday July 6, 2008 The Observer <http://www.observer.co.uk> Jenny Block who loves her husband and her live in lover Jemma, photographed in Dallas last month. Photograph: Martha Camarillo

In Part 3 of momlogic's "Secrets in the Suburbs" series, we pierce the veil of secrecy surrounding the mysterious and often secret world of polyamory. Meet Robyn. She's a 44-year-old mom of three and a polyamorist who's currently involved in loving, intimate relationships with three men. And she's open to more, time permitting.

Sometimes when I bring up the subject of polyamory, critics characterize it as selfish. People who believe in polyamory just want to have their cake and eat it too. They just want to schtupp anything that moves, and who cares about anyone else's feelings? Well, leaving alone the prospect of having cake and eating it, I've always felt that polyamory was more defined by a serious genetic defect ...

I do still worry that seeing Z exclusively while she isn't seeing me exclusively is a bad idea, and I often feel as if I ought to date and/or fool around with others - not because I'm actually interested, but because it seems dangerous to only date her or like I should be non-exclusive, too, if she is. I tried it a couple of times and it was uncomfortable and pretty uninteresting, whereas I ...

I don't know if I could have another relationship as tightly bonded as my relationship with Becca is, simply because I'm far from certain that I could sustain two such relationships at once. However, after talking with Aaron, it occurred to me that one of the major reasons that both Becca and I are so comfortable having and open relationship and being in a triad is that fact that we both trust ...

I was talking to a kind-of-poly friend yesterday and he said (direct quote): "most 'polyamorous' people I know have previously been in and are not excluding the possibility to enter a monogamous relationship." I agree that it's likely that most poly people have probably tried to have a monogamous relationship at some time in the past, but I am not sure that most are open to future monogamy. ...

I ran across an article on msn.com regarding various types of marriages. There are those who chose to marry for the first time in their 40's or in the other spectrum, around 20. For some, marriage worked the second time around. Others spent the first two years of wedded bliss far apart and for one couple, having no children sounded enticing. There are other stories but you get the idea. Sure, ...

One of the premises of the concept of an open relationship is that it can enhance a couple's trust, role flexibility, personal freedom and growth, and most especially introduce the idea of love and sex without the jealousy.

Polyamory -- (from poly=multiple amor=love) the desire, practice, or acceptance of having more than one loving, intimate relationship at a time with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved. There I was happily bopping around in my monogamous world, not giving much thought to the many varieties of sexual and relationship arrangements people have. When I thought about it at all, I ...

I would just like to pose the question of full disclosure or no disclosure or whatever lay in between to all of you. What seems to work best in your situation? And more importantly, why?

I am now dating a man with two other SO's. One is very primary and one is not. Primary is a friend of mine and that is how I met the whole group. Primary (who lives with boyfriend, BF) encouraged me a great deal to get together with BF. I resisted- just not believing that it would all be okay. I questioned how she could WANT her BF to be with someone else, but she reassured me and explained to ...

One of the most helpful pieces of advice I have ever heard regarding poly (heard for the first time on this very tribe) and that I'd like to pass along to any new folks is this: "It's Not an Enlightenment Contest" Let me repeat that because I haven't seen it said here for a long time... "It's Not an Enlightenment Contest" You are who you are. You need what you need. Yes, you can dig around in ...

Kathleen,I've been reading your blog for a while after I stumbled on it. I have a simple question that I don't understand and it's ok if you don't answer it. I was wondering if you really believe you are Poly or if you are just doing this and trying to convince yourself you are, so you don't lose your husband. I haven't read all of your post but it seems you have lots of doubts about dating ...

This article was published by the British pop culture e-zine nuts4chic a year or two ago. It's about one form of non-monogamy - polyamory.

Where to start? How do we untangle the possessiveness and jealousy issues, self-esteem issues, and grow as a family? Husband one is suffering such severe emotional pain from the abuse stuff right now that we want to focus on helping him through that, realizing that the other problems are really closely related. But he doesn't want to talk because it hurts so bad, and, as a survivor of child ...

Discussion of dumb shit people do in the name of polyamory.